Hi friends 🙂
Second post for 2018 and I feel like we are continuing with great momentum from 2017.
I hope you had a great time with your family and friends over the festive season!
I was recharging with Leki’s family at our annual getaway down the coast. We hired our first AirBnB which was a positive experience with 5 bedrooms, 2 living spaces, 3.5 bathrooms and an indoor pool 🙂 Relaxing was the top priority!
During this time together I took the chance to observe how we all interact with each other and paid close attention to how the little cousins play together.
One particular conversation I’d like to have with you today is about puberty.
One of my nieces is in the early stages of puberty which makes me think about my own experience around that time.
I started developing a ‘womanly’ body in Grade 6 and I was 11yo. I started to stretch in height and put more weight on my shapely frame, had unwanted attention to my growing breasts and a lot of confusion with my first period.
Confused, embarrassed and anxious I remember thinking am I the only one going through this? How can I be bleeding, I didn’t hurt myself? What will my Mum think? Can I hide somewhere?
What an incredibly strange and confusing time!
Naturally my thoughts move from my experience and shift focus to Emelina who will be 3yo in March 2018.
I like to think that I’m not a helicopter parent but I would like to reduce the chance of Emelina getting hurt or avoid challenges that are out of my control.
On the other hand, it’s quite a normal process to go through puberty.
Although we may come out the other end differently.
Kids going through puberty can be swayed by peer pressure, some children are exposed to adult ideas earlier then others, some may be too sheltered and overprotected from the big wide world and some people I grew up with almost glide through puberty without any scars – or none that I could see!
The puberty experience is unique to each and everyone of us. To be honest I’m glad it’s behind me as it was a very awkward and confusing time for me personally. (I previously wrote something on this topic earlier here).
How do you recall your experience? Were your parents open and transparent about it or did they duck and hide? Did you have other siblings that went through all the trauma first and softened the landing for you?
Right now we bathe Eme in her little bathtub while we shower next to her. Leki and I are maximising all the skin on skin time before she gets too big or too cool 🙂 for it! Over 6 months ago she noticed that Mum and Dad had different parts and pieces while in the shower. Not surprising soon after that Leki now wears shorts in the shower 😉
When will we start introducing the idea of puberty to Eme? How will we approach it? How will we know that she’s ready to talk about it? I have no idea!
Well we have around 8 years to prepare ourselves and work on being mindful that Eme has already evolved from being a toddler to a small child. She can construct small sentences and respond to simple questions!
Next thing I know she’ll be asking me all those uncomfortable questions parents dread. I guess I’ll have to work on being comfortable in discomfort 🙂
More to report on this issue in a future post.