I started recording my weight loss journey after baby #2 on Jan 2018 and this is the 8th (August) edition of the how it’s been going for me.
I summarise my results and publish every month – check out the story so far:
Last week I wrote about my primary goal of maintaining high quality breastfeeding with the secondary goal of losing weight down to a size 10 summer dress.
The real struggle has begun!
The main issue I’m finding is the reward is NOT married to the effort.
What does that mean?
In my early days with the baby fat it was ‘easier’ for that to come off me.
All that was required was a little effort with my food choices and a big effort with discipline.
So what’s changed?
Now that I’m back at my ‘healthy’ weight it’s a harder task to lose more weight.
What’s required now is a big effort with my food choices and a bigger effort with my discipline.
Where to from here?
Let me start with what’s worked for me
I always come back to the same ideas that seem to work for me.
Once I acknowledge what’s been good I then think about what hasn’t been that good or what I can improve on.
Good things first:
- Modified paleo/wholefood diet
- Intermittent fasting
- Simple High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) routine
- ‘Cheat’ treats
Things to improve on:
- Negative self talk
- Seeing other people’s results and making them my own
- Letting other people enjoy their own well being journey
Sometimes when things don’t go your way it can be easier to blame other people, other things or just blame the situation.
In those testing times it can be the self talk that determine the outcome.
My natural tendency is to blame other people, blame things or blame the situation.
Negative self talk has been my go to strategy. Not good 🙁
Something that I’m actively working on is asking myself “is this as bad as it seems?” or “what does that mean?”.
Example no. 1 – Seeing that I’m not losing weight
If I try and ask myself those questions then helps manage those inner feelings of frustration, anger and hopelessness. So if I ask myself “is it as bad as it seems?” then I can see that’s it’s simply just numbers on a weighing machine. With time and persistence these numbers will change.
Example no. 2 – Ky crying at night
I’ve written that I’m struggling with settling Kyneton at night. Rather then get upset I ask myself “what does that mean?”. I try and work on the questions I ask myself so that I can arrive to better solutions rather then accepting things as they are.
Social media is not real
The interconnected online world is not real.
A simple photo on Instagram does not show the struggle.
A short video showing you my best angle is not the real me.
My freckles on my face really irritate me.
My thinning hair and the fact that I may become prematurely bald worries me.
These are some of my many self perceived ‘problems’.
In Facebook-land or Instagram you don’t see those things… just a good things.
Imagine the image that people online may or may not be showing you.
What’s my point?
Don’t measure your happiness with what you see online.
Find happiness in real places like what’s inside you, people around you, at home, a sunny morning, drinking your coffee… you get the idea.
A bit preachy I know but I hope you see the message.
I follow all types of Mums online.
Some are funny, others are passionate about things and others are really fit and healthy.
Sometimes it can feed into my negative self talk.
So next time you see the gorgeous girl on Instagram, feel guilty with images of that Mum sweating in the gym or just plain feel uncomfortable about where you are in your journey don’t make things worse by comparing yourself to someone else.
Run your own race 🙂
Let other people enjoy their own well being journey
Don’t get me wrong I am proud of the results I have had since I started in 2015 (after baby no.1).
I’ve grown A LOT.
I have lost a lot of weight.
I try my best not to judge you.
I try my best to keep an open mind.
I appreciate that we are all on a different path.
I appreciate that you might have a different game plan.
I need to learn that you’re on your own journey.
My results are unique to me and if you find it helpful – that’s really cool 🙂
Modified Paleo/wholefood diet
I’ve written at length about our family food choices.
We believe in eating a paleo/wholefood diet meaning that we try and eat things that come directly from the land or from animals.
Basically we try and avoid things that are manufactured or come out of a box.
Since we have changed our eating habits our bodies are now very efficient with the type of food we eat we are optimised for ketones.
What’s ketones? Basically our bodies use ketones (healthy fats) rather then carbs (sugars) or protein for energy. Think of it as the body using all the fat (in storage on the love handles) for energy rather then carbohydrates or protein.
I highly encourage that you educate yourself on this because this is the key for lifelong health.
This means that we practice cyclic ketosis where 4-5 days throughout the week we are in ketosis and the other days we cycle out of ketosis. There are many factors on why being in ketosis is beneficial not only weight loss but it’s really good for your insides. (I can elaborate on this later.)
We just eat a varied wholefood/paleo diet (food source). This food source is high in good carbohydrates (vegetables), moderate in protein (meat/fish) and very low in sugar (fruit/treats).
Since we have chosen this wholefood/paleo food source it allows my family to use ketones (healthy fats) as the primary source of energy.
When we have a treat on the weekend and eat some takeaway with family or have something ‘out’ it will take us out of ketosis although we can return to our optimised selves within 1-2 days.
That has been the result of hard work and I would encourage everyone to start your own journey TODAY!
I’ve written at length about how I fast for the majority of the day and that my 8-hour eating window is typically at breakfast until late-lunch/early dinner. From 8am-4pm is my eating window.
Intermittent fasting is not a diet plan.
It’s a ‘pattern of eating‘ that’s all.
You can eat whatever you like and still fast.
That’s what I mean by not a diet but rather a pattern of eating.
So I couple my paleo diet with intermittent fasting to maximise my external and more importantly internal health.
Simple High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) routine
I’ve shared with you that regular exercise is a clear struggle for me.
The science suggests that a short high intensity exercise for 10 mins is the same as an hour of leisurely walking.
With 2 young kids at home I’d struggle to carve out 60 mins for myself.
So 10 mins of action packed workouts is the goer for me!
Leki and I enjoy coffee and chocolate.
It’s our weakness when it comes to treats.
We have been working on paleo friendly desserts/sweets that won’t break us out of ketosis but still tasty and satisfying.
I’ve just started making a couple of things and when I get them to a good enough level to share with you I will 🙂 Keep an eye out soon!
I’ve nearly gone the whole post without telling you where I’m at with my numbers!
Well 4 weeks ago I weighed in at 74kg July 2018.
As this reaches you I’m at 71.9kg.
I lost just over 2kg in the last 4 weeks.
Also another little thing to share… we’re going to Bali in late-October 🙂
Long story but in short I’m so happy I’ve been steadily working on losing the weight because Leki only decided that we’d go in the last 2 weeks.
Gives me an extra incentive to push harder for the weight loss and the summer dress!!
So, if I can continue to lose an average of 2kg per month by late-Oct I should be 68kg!!
Then if I can be good in Bali and continue my journey to Xmas I should well and truly squeeze into that size 10 summer dress 😉
Here’s to fighting the good fight.