Today I thought I would write about how I’m observing my kids develop over time.
Kyneton is 9 months old
He’s still been a struggle with short naps throughout the day (averaging 30-60 mins 2-3 times per day) and wakes 3-4 per night (5-10 mins each time for comfort feeding).
Not much progress here other then maybe getting some relief with topping up my breastfeeds with formula after he’s 1yo.
He’s getting around very happily with his walker but is a very lazy crawler. He can hold his head comfortably while lying on his stomach and looks side to side especially when he sees me and he’s hungry 🙂
He can sit independently now although when he starts to lean one way too far he hasn’t learnt to correct himself and sometimes falls over.
Ky is still learning about potential hazards and doesn’t understand the risks he takes… yet.
We do know that he learns from pain.
Like playing is a toy then he jams his fingers which causes him pain. Or putting his fingers in my mouth and then I lightly chew on his fingers. The next time he tries and sticks his fingers in my mouth he’s more careful and avoids it! Smart little cookie monster. 🙂
I am absolutely blessed that Kyneton doesn’t appear to have any allergies and enjoys most foods we give him.
We alternate his breakfast as we previously documented and he eats a smaller portion of what we eat throughout the day.
He loves his little water bottle and looks forward to his morning booster shake with Eme and I 😉
It’s a bit early to talk about how we discipline Ky because we don’t really know what to do.
Apart from telling him “no” to certain things – like when he bites my nipples when feeding, or if he’s clawing out at other kids, trying to push away food because he doesn’t want to eat etc.
We are looking to start smacking Ky around the 12 month mark.
Nothing heavy handed, just a flick of the fingers if it’s unsafe or a tap on the bum if he’s doing something dangerous.
It seemed to work with Eme and we’ll observe how it goes with Ky until we can hold a simple conversation and when we can start him in our local Montessori school at around 18-24 months.
Emelina is 3yo
Eme is a dream when she’s asleep at night. She can power through pretty much uninterrupted from 8:30pm to 7am most days. Some days if it’s been full on she may have a nap in the car driving about and can close her eyes for 1-2 hours if it’s really needed.
We have found that when she watches some programs on TV/ABC Kids or sees something on the ABC kids app on the iPad she can start ‘seeing things’ during our wind down time.
She can be a struggle to put down to bed because there are ‘monsters around’.
This may happen 1-2 per week. Leki and I try and remain strong to avoid her sleeping in bed with us so we often resort to lying in bed with her to calm her down, read a couple of books and then creep out quietly once she’s fallen asleep.
Our ideal night routine involves tucking her into bed snugly, saying her nightly prayer and blessing her family then she has a stack of books next to her that she reads.
Often after 15-20 mins she’s fall asleep with the books lying flatly on her face. We’d then return the books to the shelf and switch off her night lamp and then we’re free 🙂
Eme has almost completed her first full year of gymnastics. She loves it!
I remember watching her in the early lessons and she would not listen to the teacher.
She struggled to follow instructions.
Fearful of climbing horizontal ladders and scaling the ladder wall. She also had a hard time following the other students because she was one of the older kids in her class and the ‘smaller kids’ were struggling to perform the tasks properly.
Fast forward 6 months – she’s improved so much.
A lot less fearful of the obstacle course. She can keep her balance on a beam much better and can swing, hang and jump without too much trouble!
We are so proud 🙂
Eme is doing a lot better on the discipline front.
A lot of her development is due to our self-education.
We have reduced our need for smacking and started to talk more about her feelings. We have found that sometimes she screams because she’s in pain or she’s angry or that she’s scared. But to us all we hear is the ‘scream’.
So before we jump the gun and assume it’s always the ‘same’ scream we ask what’s she’s feeling and try to describe it.
For example – in the morning if it’s cooler then normal we ask Eme to put on her robe. When she’s trying to put her arm through the sleeve she used to scream. We would then ask her to try and explain what’s wrong and she’d usually say:
‘Arm stuck… please Mama help.”
Or another example is when she’s not listening when we ask her to do something. Like putting toys away she either ignores us or doesn’t respond. Instead of making her feel unsafe and scared by smacking her we would speak to her at eye level rather then talking down to her and explain why we need her to pick her toys up.
If she listens then she’ll do what we ask. If she continues to be difficult we then send her to her room to sit it out for 10 mins.
After a while she realises that all she had to do was do as we ask and then she can continue to have fun instead of sitting in her room bored.
We’ve noticed the next time she is asked to do something – she pauses and thinks for a couple of seconds – and then does what we ask. We think it’s because she doesn’t want to be banished to her room again 🙂
Discipline is always a work in progress.
Montessori Report card
We have been enjoying Emelina’s progress through her Montessori school.
HERE – is Eme’s mid term report to give you an idea of how our little 3yo is developing 😉
Leki and I find this report as a fantastic guide for how we can developing our parenting style.
It’s on our Montessori teacher’s recommendation that we explore Emelina’s understanding of feelings so that we can help guide her development.
As always – it’s a work in progress for Emelina and ourselves as parents!
I plan to update the development of the kids every 6 months.
It’ll be to document how they grow and change over time which seems small and insignificant but over time they change SO MUCH!
For example in the week that I was away from Eme (in Tonga for my Grandma’s funeral) she had seem to grow so fast in those 7 days.
Similarly Leki observed that Ky had more hair, 2 new teeth poking through the gums while being overseas.
We’ll continue to hold our kids close before they think they’re too cool to be around us 🙂
I hope you enjoyed this post.