This is the 11th month of my monthly well being journey and it has been a great teacher.
It has taught me some things about myself like being patient, to be open minded and to understand new ideas.
It’s also challenged me to think about changing things once I’ve found it wasn’t working out so well.
This is only possible once I was able to be structured with my day by establishing a routine that works for me and my little family 🙂
Well it’s 21 November 2018 and I weigh 68.9kg!!
I’ve lost over 26kg in 11 months 🙂
A quick summary so far:
One of the biggest transformations I’ve made over the year has been my weight loss.
But the biggest change has been my way of thinking.
I’m not worried about losing weight anymore because I’ve achieved all my goals – numbers wise.
The next thing I’ll be focusing on is having more energy.
I’ll explain a little more further on 😉
In my family, November is a very busy month.
The Melbourne Cup public holiday, my birthday, Mum’s birthday, cousins, nieces and nephews also celebrate birthdays and being the middle of Spring everyone feels the warmth of summer around the corner!
Having a lot of celebrations mean challenges with food choices and trying to be disciplined.
Often the conversations I have with my husband Leki revolves around how we are maintaining our discipline with our food choices and decision making.
For example, when we celebrated our ‘collective November’ birthdays at a local pub Leki and I looked at the menu earlier in the day and discussed what would be the best option for us.
We talked about the portion size, whether I’d go steak with vegetables instead of chips and Leki would go a burger with chips and we’d share. That way we don’t over indulge on the bad things but we still have a bit of fun.
Or another example is when I’m at home and planning a day out with my kids.
I purposely eat what’s been prepared at home and take a few little snacks like fruit to make sure I’m ‘happy full’ at home and avoid being tempted while I’m out.
It’s the little things that over time give you a BIG result.
Last month I wrote about wanting to have more energy available to do the things that I want.
⇒ Energy to be more patient when I’m frustrated
⇒ Energy to wake up and attack the day
⇒ Energy to take setbacks and bounce back to my feet
⇒ Energy to address some of my mental health worries like not feeling good enough
Part of having energy is recognising when something is not good for you.
∗ Have I been spending too much time watching TV?
∗ Am I on my phone too much?
∗ Have I had too many snacks today?
∗ Do I really need to eat this cake?
∗ Is gossiping really good for that relationship?
∗ Is it healthy to always be thinking negative thoughts?
∗ Am I staying up too late at night?
Here are 3 things that I’m planning to do to create more energy for myself:
- Stretch out my fasting window
- Reconnect with long lost friends
- Start new relationships
My Fasting Window
I have been practising intermittent fasting since April 2018.
It is the pattern of eating where you only eat within a certain window and then you fast for the remaining time – fasting window.
Traditionally I’ve been eating in an 8 hour window from around 8am to 4pm.
I then fast (miss dinner) from 4pm to 8am the next day. A lot of the hard work is done when I’m sleep 6-8 hours which is still apart of my fasting routine 🙂
The interesting thing is I still had my 3 x meals within my 8 hour window.
My first meal (breakfast) was at 8am, then my BIG meal was lunch at 11am then I had a smaller meal (dinner) around 2-3pm before having a snack or something light before my 4pm cut off.
Later at night when we’ve put the kids down to bed I have a cheeky glass of red to relax and enjoy a nightly program with hubby.
FYI: we’re watching Jack Ryan atm 🙂
Well what’s changed?
I’m now shortening my eating window and increasing my fasting window to 18:6.
18 hours fasting and eating within a 6 hour window within a 24 hour day.
I am now eating from 11am-4pm.
So I have my Bulletproof coffee and apple cider vinegar + hot lemon water in the morning at 8am but my first meal (is now at 11am. ‘Lunch’ is at 1pm then my final meal is around 3-4pm.
I’m getting closer to where Leki is atm as he’s practicing 20:4.
Fast for 20 hours and eat in a 4 hour window. His first meal is at 1-2pm and his final meal is at 6pm with little fruit snacks in between.
Our eventual goal is to practice OMAD – One Meal A Day.
This can be something I talk about later with you 😉
Surprisingly, as I’ve restricted my eating window and eating quaity wholefood the result is more energy!
So where am I placing my new found energy?
I’ve chosen to spend my energy on things that make me happy.
With leads me to my next 2 points – reconnecting with old friends and making new friends 🙂
Reconnect with old friends
When you’re home full time with kids you can be starved of adult conversation and entertainment.
It’s great to be able to connect with friends and talk about things other then nappies, tantrums and poor sleep.
A few drinks to blow off some steam can help too 😉
Recently I had a great night out with some girlfriends at Fox101.9 RnBLive concert.
It was a chance to relive our youth by having some popular RnB artists from our younger days. Usher was the headlining act but there were plenty of others for us to get our groove on!
Just being with the girls gave me a booster shot of energy into the arm!
With this new found energy and time that I’ve created for myself I’ve reached out to old girlfriends from high school.
It’s been great to keep tabs on each other with the help of Facebook and social media.
We’ve managed to organise times over the next fortnight to meet face to face and reconnect again!
Looking forward to seeing how everyone has been over the last 15 years (since we finished high in 2003!)
Another source of energy is with my Mothers Group.
There are 3-4 ladies are going strong now since we first came together almost 4 years ago!
Since I moved from the city to the country it has been challenging to see the Mum’s as regularly as I would like but we try and maintain.
We’ve got a few play dates lined up so it’ll be good to carry on from where we left off last 🙂
Belonging to a social group can improvement your health both physically and mentally.
Trying my best to eat well and organise myself around a structured routine allows me to have more energy to do difficult tasks.
Tasks like putting yourself out there and trying to organise a get together.
Having the energy to think about how I can organise my week, thinking about how I’ll manage my kids for the day and how I can have some fun 🙂
Start new relationships
After moving to a new part of Victoria I’ve opened myself up to meeting new Mums in the area.
Well there’s Montessori Mums.
We have our 3yo enrolled at our local Montessori school and next year she’ll be in school 3 x half days PLUS we’ll be enrolling our 1yo for Nido classes once a week.
There’ll be some down time to get to know some Mums 🙂
Apart from school we’ve enrolled our daughter to our local gymnastics school.
She’ll be put up into the next class in 2019 and so we’ll be meeting some new kids and Mums which should be exciting.
The last group are Social Media Mums.
I’ve connected with quite a few Mums which is really nice and I’m excited to be apart of our little community.
Looking forward to learning and sharing knowledge over the journey 🙂
Meeting new people can be exciting because you have a chance to ‘reinvent’ yourself within the new relationship.
I think it’s always important to be true to yourself and be respectful of everyone around regardless if they’re new faces or old friends.
It’s always energising to meet new people 🙂
I am looking forward to achieving my goal of squeezing into a size 10 dress by Christmas!
This has been my adjusted goal since I’ve lost my baby weight down to 69kg.
I’m going to a wedding in early Dec and I’m trying on lots of different dresses which is equally exciting and stressful.
In my next update (in December) it will be my last update on this particular theme of ‘losing weight’.
From 2019 onward it will be about doing things that make me happy and what energises me.
I hope you enjoyed reading my thoughts.