It works like a framework because not everyday is the same but the best thing about a routine is that everyone knows what’s happening.
Part of having a routine helps reduce the stress and increase my happiness.
Something we all subconsciously think about but never talk about.
Here are the 3 main things that I choose to focus on:
- Manage my ME time
- Manage my couple time
- Managing the kids
This is always something that can be improved.
As a full time Mum I often fight this feeling of being inferior.
I stay home so there’s always ‘free’ time.
It’s easy to be home because you’re not doing anything.
The list goes on.
Let me tell you that if you choose to stay home or work part time or work full time it comes at a cost for all Mums.
The stigma I feel is that Mums should be working.
There are many reasons why I feel this way.
- Peer pressure from other Mums making me feel less important because I’m just a housewife
- Financial pressures with the rising cost of living
- Being more isolated and lonely living away from my immediate family
- Feeling like being a home maker is not valuable
A way around feeling bad is having the constant and open communication with my husband.
For instance, we believe in having one parent at home trying to help raise our children.
Your journey may be different but we’re all trying to get to the same destination – to be happy.
So in order to protect my ME time I always work on feeling ‘ok’ about being at home to being with.
It might be a 30 min break while 11mo Ky is napping and Eme is at Montessori school.
Or my nightly Neighbours time at 6:30pm 😉
It’s these little nuggets of time that I can carve out for myself to be ok with being by myself.
There are 2 main times throughout each day that Leki and I try and connect regularly.
In the morning with our breakfast routine and at night when we put our phones on airplane mode and we talk to each other for > 30 minutes.
Every morning we spend breakfast together because my husband gets home from work late and a family dinner doesn’t suit us.
So we make the time to have a good hot breakfast together and spend a good amount of time talking about the day ahead, what’s happening on the weekend and looking forward to future plans.
On a typical morning when Eme leads us for our morning prayer to bless our food, my husband Leki has already cooked our hot breakfast and Ky is waiting patiently 🙂
Just before we finish up breakfast we then grab Eme’s calendar and Eme practices using and reading a calendar.
Our 3yo Eme knows her night routine (we call it a wind down routine).
After dinner she has 30 minutes to either have some screen time or play before she’s brushes her teeth, goes to the toilet, says her nightly prayers before reading her books eventually falling asleep.
There’s no more tears or tantrums because we’ve stayed consistent with her routine and she’s happy sleeping in her own bed in her own room.
I’ve talked about prepping food because it frees up your time during the working week.
We either pre-cook food on Fridays (if the weekend is busy) or Sundays.
Once we’ve bulk prepped our meals then we are set for the next 5-6 days 🙂
Time management is important for the working person so why shouldn’t it be important for families too?
If you let things drag out or procrastinate doing things then it all piles up PLUS you lose out on doing the fun things because you’re playing catch up.
Washing piling up in the laundry, dishes staring at you in the sink, kids are fed and cranky, hubby is home and wondering why the place is upside down. It doesn’t feel good does it?
Another things that time management can help with is spending quality time with your family.
Even if it’s a short time.
We can pack that all in because we prioritise our time.
There’s a lot less rushing around because we consistently talk about the plans coming up and mentally prepare for what’s required to make it all work smoothly.
And what’s the final result?
Less Stress and Happiness – my original goal to begin with.
I hope you continue to do the things that make you happy 🙂