Babysitters, Au Pairs and Aunties

Babysitters, Au Pairs and Aunties

Hi Mamas!

Did you have a babysitter when you were growing up? Or did you have an older cousin, auntie or relative stay with you and your Family?

I had a couple of Aunties stay with us over different periods of time.

At the time being a young girl I thought it was fun to have more people around to play with.

But as I got older and now being a Mum I now understand that the Family that stayed with us actually helped my parents in looking after me and my sisters.

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My younger sisters and Auntie Lita

This is very common in Pacific Island culture as we can offer relatives in the Islands to come to Australia to help. It also benefits them as they get to travel overseas and see an opportunity to stay in Australia.

Special shout out to my Aunties – Liz, Tai, Moli and Lita who helped raise my sisters and I 🙂

Some Australian Families may not have that support and so they may try a service like hiring a Babysitter or trying a cultural exchange like Au Pairs. (Au pair is a foreign young person who helps with cleaning and babysitting in exchange for food, a room and pocket money).

This is a challenge that couples will face as their families grow especially if both Mum and Dad decide to keep working.

In our particular case we chose to have Mum stay home full time and Dad work.

That choice means that I’ll be responsible for a lot of the home duties and everything that comes with it.

But at times it nice to have help like when my Mum stays with me over the weekend, or if we have a Family celebration and when my sisters visit with their kids and we head off to the local playground!

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Auntie Moli and my cousins!

As you know baby #3 is on the way and I will be relying more on the things that make me feel happy and healthy!

Often I think about how we used to live as a community.

We lived together in the ‘Village’.

The ‘Village’ could mean anything to you.

It could be the sleepy village on a rolling hill in England, the mud brick house in Africa, the shack in Vietnam or the open walled fale (house) in the Pacific Islands.

Today the Village appears more and more ‘disconnected’.

Why?

We’re rushing to meet deadlines, pay bills for things we don’t need, chase appointments, snap the perfect selfies, respond to the social media notification, rush through your day, no ‘time’ to do important things…. the list goes on.

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Auntie Tai, Mum and my younger sister

How about pausing long enough to enjoy the smile of the stranger who greets you? The stories of old neighbours of how things used to be? Volunteering to help someone in need?

The Village in Tonga has the whole community to help each other.

The Village supports the families by cooking meals together, spending time with each other, Women are upheld as important child bearers, Men are respected as hunters and protectors and we live happily together.

Doesn’t that sound awesome?

It also sounds like from a time long long ago!

But no, this still happens today.

When I visited Tonga last year I felt the same connection.

Travelling to Bali and getting out of the big city I saw that people live a simple happy life. Having been to Fiji people can live in a corrugated iron shack but they’re happy.

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Hubby Leki and I in Bali 🙂

As we prepare for Baby #3 I’m mindful that the environment we chose to raise our kids should be one like the ‘Village’.

We’ll eat together, laugh and cry together, support and love each until we’re all connected again in our new Australian ‘Village’.

With love,

Belinda xo

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