I thought I’d follow up from my last blog post and give you a monthly update on how I’m travelling with my 3rd pregnancy.
I’m currently due to have baby #3 on 24 Sept 2019 and am currently 3 months along with my pregnancy.
Here are my main topics I’d like to talk about throughout my pregnancy:
In the first 3 months I can proudly say that this has been the smoothest pregnancy so far.
Smooth in the sense that I’ve had very little morning sickness, had a great appetite for food and not in much pain.
The first trimester has scored an A 🙂
On reflection I would say that I’ve been in the best shape physically and mentally in leading up to this pregnancy.
I am in the best shape weight wise.
I am in the best mood and consciousness mentally.
The choices I’ve made food wise has been the best leading up to this pregnancy.
Leki bought and read a book from one of his mentors – Dave Asprey – called “The Better Baby Book“. It’s the lessons in this book that we’ve followed in leading up to this most recent pregnancy. Highly recommend!
In my last blog post I wrote about how I’m preserving and recharging my batteries by napping daily with my kids.
It’s usually a 30-60 min nap at 3pm with my kids.
Aside from that I have been pretty good at eating well.
I have been eating quite a lot of take away food probably 3-4 times per week compared to pre-pregnancy which was once a week.
The problem is that I don’t enjoy the food being cooked at home.
It’s great nutritious food but I just don’t like the smell and taste of it 🙁
Here’s my typical meals I’m eating which can alternate:
Low carb Toast + avocado, tomato and cheese
Porridge, banana and raw honey
Egg + baby spinach, asparagus, avocado and butter
Smoothie = cacao powder, chia seeds, flax seeds, banana, MCT oil, almonds and coconut water
Because Leki and I believe in the philosophy. Please take the time to read below from our school website:
Emelina is in her first plane of development and is in Cycle 1 amongst 3yo-6yo.
We have observed that this is great for her development as she’s one of the ‘younger’ kids in the class she’s pulled up by the older kids in some of their habits and they shape the way she learns.
For example – think about that time when you were young and impressionable and you had older siblings or cousins that you hung around. You thought they were so cool and taught you interesting things. You wanted to learn more about what they were showing you that you followed your natural curiosity to learn.
Another benefit we’ve observed is that although Eme prefers to hang out with the older kids she can help the smaller and younger kids. That’s all part of the plan.
Another example – imagine you are hanging out with your younger sibling or cousin. They look at you wide eyed and astonished with everything that you do! So as the thoughtful older sibling you would try and explain things in simple terms, or gently show them a way of doing things that easy or just be more gentle with them.
We are proud that Emelina is enjoying her education experience.
But, she’s far from being an angel.
Eme likes being first.
First in the line for an activity.
First to demonstrate something.
First to eat at snack time.
She’s learning to take turns and understand that we all have a turn in the ‘spotlight’. It’s not really the concept of sharing it’s more about understanding there’s a time and place to be competitive.
It’s ok to be second is the lesson she’s trying to learn!
Well that’s my little update on Eme’s education experience.
Little note – we’ve entered our 1yo Kyneton to Nido (pre-school/’nesting’) class for a 1hr supervised session per week. It’s really about getting him in another environment with some specialised play.
More on him down the track!
Not looking forward to being one of the tearful Mothers saying goodbye to the kids heading off to school full time 🙂
As with all things you start to review what’s been working and what needs to be improved.
Well I can tell you that our food strategy has been working very well and the prep work to free our time has been working a treat 🙂
Then it gets to a point where you stop and look where you can gain further improvements based on what you can see.
I wrote about our Meal Plans that are easy to prepare in Nov 2017 which was then later updated on Aug 2018.
For example, when we first set out on our weight loss journey in 2015 we kept it really simple and decided to cut out sugar and any grain foods.
After a few weeks we noticed that our appetite changed, the food cravings changed and our energy increased despite eating less.
Most recently we’ve then continued with our wholefood/clean food sources and follow a cyclic ketogenic strategy since late 2017/early 2018.
We both lost even more weight and gained even more clarity and energy!
Both Leki and I are now in a place where we want to eat better quality food.
We’ve been educating ourselves on how meat and vegetables are prepared industrially before it reaches our local supermarket for us to buy.
This post will be an update on where we are choosing to buy our meat into the next phase of our wellness plan.
Basically we’re reducing our reliance on processed meat from factory farms and we’re looking to source from grass fed animals for the quality of their nutrients.
Following the healthy ketogenic strategy we are practising a high healthy fats, moderate protein and low carbohydrate game plan 🙂
Just a quick recap – we are switching the body’s fuel source to rely mostly on healthy fats (ketone bodies) rather then glucose (sugar) or protein although the body can tap into all 3.
We follow a lot of resources to guide our journey – Dave Asprey from Bulletproof, Tim Ferriss from 4-hour Work Week and Dr. Berg. Here’s a short video that can help spell out the basics of a healthy ketogenic diet 🙂
So if we’re relying on sources of healthy fats to power our bodies we need to make sure the food we eat are jam packed with great nutrients.
Unfortunately if you are eating meat from animals that are factory raised then they are usually given grain which is a carbohydrate. As they say you are what you eat.
But, if you eat farm raised, grass fed animals then you are eating meat loaded with the healthy fats. Add in the great vegetables, avocados, MCT oil with our Bulletproof coffee and grass fed butter then we are set up for success!
We live in the Macedon Ranges and we are fortunate to live amongst some great organic farms and butchers. Here are our new sources for meat:
So we still prepare the same meals as our last update the only difference is the source of food. So we still shop at Aldi but we are now purchasing a lot less and going more local with the fresh produce.
The next thing we’ll look into is finding a great fruit and veg shop as I’ve come to learn a few things about that as well (which I’ll share on the next Food update).
I have also made the commitment to stop eating as much chocolate and sweets and we’ll look to make our own. These include:
Chai pudding with Almond milk
Keto chocolate bombs
It’s been hard to let go of the Tim Tams as we’d have it almost every night with our wind down routine when the kids sleep.
Leki has worked his way down to “one meal a day” (OMAD) and I’m being more strict with my intermittent fasting window and avoiding more of the naughty food.
This may seem like hard work but we genuinely enjoy it.
It helps keep us healthy and happy to do things we want with more joy and energy.
I’m going to show you how our usual morning routine looks.
I first wrote about this topic 18 months ago. A LOT has changed. We’ve moved house, changed some of our food habits and had baby no #2. Read about it – HERE.
It’s always a work in progress but this is how it is 80% of the time in the average week.
It’s really my husband Leki that drives the mornings because I’m up a couple of times over the night depending on how our 8 month son Ky is sleeping. Our 3yo daughter Emelina sleeps like a champion 🙂
So I’ve invited my husband Leki to write this blog and how he manages it all until I can drag myself out of bed 😉
My mornings usually start around 4:30am to 6:30am depending on Ky’s sleep.
If Ky’s last feed was at 8pm then he usually needs a few short 5-10min nursing moments at 2am-3am. (Belinda does a great job as I’m knocked out cold).
So let’s say he’s up 5:30am.
I’d spend time with him in the morning as I usually get up at 4:30am. (I practice biphasic sleep which allows me to wake early)
So between 4:30am-7am I’ve got 2.5 hours to myself to read, study and think. Plus when my son wakes up I can spend some quality time together because my work hours are usually 9am until 8pm.
I really enjoy the mornings because that’s the only time during the week where we are all together. During the day I’m working and Belinda and kids have their own schedule to keep.
Some families sit down over dinner together.
Our family meal is in the morning.
I eat lunch and dinner at work and Belinda and our kids eat at home.
Because we bulk prep on Sunday’s we are pretty organised for the working week with the main meals.
My job is to ensure we have our quality morning routine which is preparing a hot breakfast at 7am.
It takes me 30-45mins to organise.
Here’s what’s on the menu:
3 x lightly pan fried eggs for Belinda and I plus Eme and Ky have 1 x lightly pan fried egg each cooking in coconut oil
grass fed butter
Belinda’s breastmilk booster shake which Eme and Ky also have
ground cinnamon powder
Belinda’s boobie cookies and fenugreek supplement
Water and lemon water with apple cider vinegar
Bulletproof coffee (blended together)
1 tablespoon of ground coffee
grass fed butter
I cook with Ky watching me in the pram and then Eme usually gets up at 7:30am because of the noise.
Ky is ready to have his morning feed from Belinda at 7:30am and when Eme rises I get her to wake up Mama for breakfast.
I then spend 15 mins getting ready for work and then we sit down for a good 20 mins together to eat a nice hot breakfast.
Eme says grace and then down the hatch 🙂
Eme and Ky have 1 x pan fried egg each (as described above) with a bit of the smoothie along with water.
Belinda has 3 x eggs with a glass of water, boobie smoothie, a fenugreek supplement and boobie cookies. (Remember Belinda has fasted from 4pm the day before so she’s hungry in the morning)
I make the 3 x eggs but I pack it to have with my lunch. I add the eggs together with my pre-prepped lunch around 1:30pm and I eat dinner at around 6pm. (I fast from 6pm to 1pm the next day) At breakfast I drink hot lemon water with apple cider vinegar then 15 mins later I enjoy my Bulletproof coffee.
I hope you’ve enjoyed a little insight into our usual morning routine.
It’s not really important what we do or what we eat in the morning.
The point of the post today is actively setting the time to be there for each other in the morning.
I think it’s important to spend as much family time together daily even if it’s only for a short time.
There will be a time that our kids will be ready to move out of our home and be independent young adults.
At that time Belinda and I will wish to be able to sit down over breakfast one more time together as a family. (Belinda wrote an awesome post about this earlier – read about it here)
We are all busy but we actively try and prioritise our mornings to spend quality time together and be happy.
This is an update from an earlier post about this very topic.
The only difference is that we are 4 months down the track and I’d like to report on some developments since then 🙂
Compare notes with my previous post by clicking here.
What are the main changes?
Kyneton is out of the bassinet and in his own room
Emelina was getting scared sleeping in her own room
Everyone is in bed by 8:30pm (ish)
1. Ky’s sleeping on his own… well kind of
So let me start by saying that this is quite difficult for us.
We had Ky in the bassinet next to our bed from day 1.
He’s now 7 months old and has a few teeth poking through the gums and he can be quite irritable during the day and upset overnight.
Despite that we both agreed it was time to put him in his own room – the nursery aka bedroom #3.
The funny thing is we are all doing a little better at night time since we decided on that.
Let me explain.
When he was sleeping right next to me in the bassinet, every little breath and splutter was heard by the Mama Bear 😉
That would always have me on edge and have me in a light superficial sleep.
Since he’s been in his own room two things have happened:
Ky is sleeping more soundly
I’m getting better sleep
Now let me break this down for a minute.
Pre-nursery Kyneton was waking probably every 2-3 hours over the night time.
Now I only attend to Ky on average 2 x times over the night when he’s hungry or uncomfortable.
The other thing is that when my Mum visited the other day she told me off for having Ky mostly lying on his back. As a result he was developing a flat head.
Now I alternate his position at night so that he’s more comfortable and overtime the ‘flat headedness’ will settle.
For example, if I place him on his left side when I put him down at 8pm I’d probably be attending to him around 10-11pm (uncomfortable and hungry) and feed him then switch him to the right side in the crib.
Often when I return at 4am (usually he’s hungry) I then see that he’s lying on his back and after I feed him I return him to side lying.
In terms of my own situation I’m getting much better rest averaging 2 hours (9-11pm) in the first block then another 4-5 hours (11pm-4am) in the second block of rest.
We do not practice co-sleeping at all although it is quite common in our culture.
So there you go, 7 months old and kicked out of our room into his own setup 🙂
2. Eme’s new sleeping routine… well kind of
We decided to put Emelina in her own room when she was 3 months old but let me back up a little and remind you that our 3yo daughter was a dream baby.
Slept well all the way through the night even when she was teething and right through until today.
She sees ‘monsters’ and has some nightmares.
It might be something she saw on the TV during the day and then she brings it up when we begin her ‘wind down’ routine for bed time.
So here’s our traditional game plan.
5:30pm – Shower/bath
6pm – Dinner
6:30pm-7:30pm – Screen time
7:30pm-8:30pm – Wind down routine
So what’s our wind down routine?
Well we start off with brushing her teeth and taking her to the loo to empty her little bladder. (Only occasional accident in bed now… last one was in Thailand)
Then she goes to kiss her brother goodnight and Leki if he’s home by then.
I then follow her into her room and tuck her into bed.
We then say our nightly prayer and then my final instructions are that you can now ‘rest your body‘ and read your books and sleep when you’re tired.
That is the key difference.
We don’t force her to sleep and turn the light off.
She would get upset when we used the words ‘it’s time for bed’ or ‘go to sleep’. We now reframe it to ‘it’s story time‘ and ‘our bodies need to rest to have energy for tomorrow‘.
I then tell her it’s ok she can stay warm in bed and read her book (which I pile up next to her so she doesn’t have to get out of bed).
In her own time and with the lamp light on she’s reading and then falls off to sleep when she’s tired.
There’s no more dramas about monsters lurking in the darkness as she’s looking at her picture book and talking to herself.
Often we walk by (quietly) and we’ve either seen her konked out or she’s busily ‘reading’ the words and looking at the pictures of the book!
My last little tip is that we try and manage Eme’s day so that she doesn’t nap during the day.
We’ve found that when she naps she’s either pretty grumpy and clingly for 1-2 hours after she wakes or when we’re in our wind down mode it’s hard to get her settled because she’s still energised and not ready to ‘go down’ to bed.
Your mileage may vary 🙂
3. Bed time is 8:30PM… well kind of
So to bring us back to the general timeline. (Please review my last entry about this here.)
In the morning my husband Leki makes breakfast before he’s off to work around 8am. I also squeeze in my little 9 min HIIT session while he’s preparing our breakfast.
This has been a little change for our family as we’ve moved and some days of the week Leki needs to leave home a touch earlier so he can’t help with some things like he used to.
From around 11am-1pm we’re out shopping or running errands before we head home for my main meal (pre-prepared).
Once home again I then try and put Ky down for 1-2 hours if I’m lucky and Eme is content with playing in her Montessori space at home or watching a movie. (I’m still unpacking a little bit from our move!)
It’s around 4pm I try and get my second HIIT session before having my last meal for the day. I practice intermittent fasting for 16 hours starting at 4pm until breakfast at 7:30am. My eating window is usually 8 hours from 8am-4pm on average.
After my last meal I then try and wash Eme and Ky at 5pm then feed them so that when Leki gets home we can maximise our family time together and just hang out.
He usually gets home around 7pm.
Sometimes Leki plays with Eme in her Montessori space.
Other times Eme is having screen time and then we watch reruns of GoT or whatever series we are watching to pass the time until GoT returns 🙂
Our set routine has sorted out the food so that Leki eats at work and comes home just to chill out with us, it allows the kids to be prepared for the wind down routine and gives Mum and Dad a chance to have couple time!
So when we’re all watching programs or just hanging out Kyneton is usually happy to sit with us and giggle and laugh. As soon as he gets irritable it’s probably because he’s hungry and tired.
I feed him and then place him into his crib. One down one to go!
Around 7:30pm Eme has already had her screen time and I initiate the wind down routine and she’s usually asleep by 9pm.
From 8pm onward Leki and I often watch an episode of something but other times we decide to go to bed and talk about the day and start looking forward to things that are coming up.
Most nights Mum and Dad are asleep at 9:30pm until the Kyneton alarm wakes us up.
Well that’s how the picture looks like in our little household.
I’ll most likely update this in 1 year and see what kind of changes have happened since!
Today I would like to share the first real sport we’ve placed Emelina in – gymnastics.
To date we’ve had her in a short swimming class (Mums and bubs) and other local ‘play’ events but this is her first real effort at weekly sport/exercise.
How does gymnastics work?
Well to be honest it’s more specialised play at this age 3-4yo group.
She’s grouped together with other kids who are at a similar motor skill, movement patterns, spatial awareness and memory called Comets.
We spend 1 hour in the gym per week at this stage and in the Comets group the parents play a vital role in facilitating what the instructor wants from the kids.
As you can imagine a lot of kids this age are very excited and the teacher can struggle to rein in their enthusiasm – especially Emelina 🙂
Once Eme gets the hang of the weekly routine and shows that she’s mastered the movements she progresses to the next group – Meteors.
It could almost be 2-3 years until Eme progresses so a lot depends on how well she responds to her training and if she continues to enjoy it.
Once the kids develop and train independently parents are welcome to watch the kids practice in the observation deck from above.
But I wanted to go through the thought process on why we picked gymnastics for Eme.
You see, both Leki and I were pretty sporty growing up. I was a keen netballer and Leki played soccer and rugby union.
We both played in team sports.
We had our fair share of dizzy highs and tough lows and the thing about sport is that you learn a lot of great lessons along the way.
It teaches how you work together in a team environment for the common goal, how to gracefully accept defeat, make sacrifices for your team members and to always try your best.
I always wondered how I would go in a sport where I only have myself to depend on. So if I ‘won or lost’ it was completely on my own effort.
For example, when I played netball, if I played poorly it wouldn’t be so bad because my team members can help me by lifting their game to a higher standard. Or if we lost because my team mate made a poor decision we would all suffer the consequences.
In an individual sport I think it teaches you to be even more disciplined because you are only going to get out of it as much as you put in.
I think of athletics, swimming, tennis, boxing, running and plenty more.
Can you imagine showing up to training with only you and the coach working on your skills. It’d be tough work! When you have other people around you in team sport you can be more enthusiastic because they can pump you up and vice versa.
Not so much with solo sports like gymnastics.
So why have we decided on gymnastics?
Because of the discipline.
Of course she’s still young and enjoying running around and jumping about but when she’s of a certain age she will have to knuckle down and really learn to persist.
No one else can do it for her. She can’t hide behind her team mates if she’s not performing well. She has to be good enough or simply train and try harder.
The other reason is because gymnastics can simply get the best out of your body.
Do you watch the top level athletes at a big international event like the Olympics Games?
My favourite athlete were always the gymnasts. Bodies carved out of marble but as bendable as a rubber band. Not only were they strong they were flexible too! That is something I would love for Eme to have.
Strong mind and body but a flexible spirit because her body won’t be the limitation.
I appreciate all the different types of sports that are available to us but we’ll stick with gymnastics and see how we go. The great thing about gymnastics is that she can use her ‘powers’ for other sports if she decides to try them out.
How did you pick sports for your children? Do you simply pick whatever your interests were or did you leave it completely up to them?
As you may know we had our 2nd child, Kyneton, on the Jan 3 2018 and he joins his older sister Emelina who recently turned 3!
Something my hubby Leki and I are both really into is designing our day so we can have TIME.
So what does that mean?
In one of my earliest posts I outlined what our usual routine looked like at that time.
In that context Leki works full time, I am at home full time and our 2yo daughter Emelina is at home full time with some activities throughout the week I outlined here.
So what’s changed?
Well… Leki has returned back to full time work after having 6 weeks of part time work to help at home with our newborn, I’m full time at home and we now have 2 little cherubs to manage at home.
So I thought I would share some of the things we find that are serving us really well and I would appreciate any feedback or observations that you’ve found helpful in your parenting journey too 🙂
Let’s start at the beginning.
I get up 7am and my mood is very dependent on how Ky and Eme sleep overnight (obviously?!).
To back track slightly we try and put the kids to bed at 8:30pm-9pm the night before and we had worked very hard to have Emelina sleeping in her own room and self soothe so we can give appropriate time and effort to Kyneton.
Fortunately, Emelina is now 80% toilet trained and sleeps throughout the whole night with the occasional ‘code yellow’ at night and sometimes struggles to settle into her sleep routine although we strongly believe in the ‘self soothe‘ strategy. (This might be a future blog post if you’re interested – let me know if you’d like to know more)
The reward for our early hard work is that 6 out of 7 nights Emelina sleeps in her own bed in her room, sleeps all the way through the night and without any accidents. We can almost see the finish line YAY! 🙂
So let’s assume I’ve had a standard night where Emelina is asleep solid throughout the night and Leki is out like log next to me.
Kyneton sleeps from 9pm to 3am then he stirs and requires a feed.
I usually have full engorged breasts ready for him to feed so I give him one breast to settle him and then I change him then feed him with the other breast. This whole process can take up to 60 mins.
I complete this process in bed sitting upright with my night light from my phone and I’m blessed because if Kyneton is crying and wailing (and boy does he have a set of lungs!?) both Leki and Emelina continue to sleep without any problems.
At 4am I put Kyneton down and then I return to sleep until I wake around 7am. Leki usually gets up early to make breakfast for us, help clean up/wash dishes and packs his food for the day at work (I’ve trained him well LOL).
We have automated our food habits which make it one less thing to worry about.
I previously wrote that we have the same 2-3 options at breakfast and the same 2-3 food options for lunch and dinner which are pre-prepared – read about it here.
We pre-cook our meals for that day around lunch time and to have enough left over for the next day’s lunch and dinner meals. We use pre-packed containers and all that Leki has to do is pick what he wants to eat at work for lunch and dinner when he’s sorting everything out in the morning for breakfast.
I firmly believe that structuring your day via routine allows you to make better decisions i.e. deciding to prepare nutritious food or allocate more time to important tasks.
By 8am Leki and I have weighed ourselves and updated out tracking sheet, Leki has prepared breakfast and has himself changed and cleaned up ready for work, Emelina is up after having about 8-10 hours of sleep (AWESOME?!) and Kyneton is ready for his morning feed. Ky sleeps very well averaging 6 hours (feed #1 at 3am) then 5 hours (feed #2 at 8am).
We sit together and hold hands and Emelina repeats her morning prayer to bless our food then we talk and enjoy each other’s company. We talk about our plans for the day and look ahead to the week, month and any events coming up over the next few months.
I really enjoy having this time together in the morning because Leki usually gets home 6pm-7pm and we don’t get a chance to sit and eat together at dinner so we put in a massive amount of effort to get at least one meal together.
And with that… the morning is done.
During breakfast we discuss what the plan for the day may be.
I have this system where I try and complete the ONE THING before lunchtime. Regardless of how the day goes as long as I complete that ONE THING then I’ll be satisfied with my day.
For example, if I want to clean the bathroom or commit to ‘Arts & Crafts’ time with Eme for 1 hour or call and follow up on an inquiry from the previous week – whatever it may be I always plan to have that completed before lunch time.
Something always comes up.
I may get distracted with something on my phone, get lazy and park in front of the TV, Ky might get too clingy and I can’t get around too easily.
I have found that if I commit to completing one thing I’ll feel happy.
So, after Leki leaves and I’m home alone with the kids (remember I’ve breastfed Ky while we all have breakfast) I’ll take Eme to wash up, brush her teeth and make sure she’s gone to the toilet to avoid any accidents. Kyneton is in a semi-conscious Zen like state 🙂 after his morning feed so he usually leaves me alone for 1-2 hours if I’m lucky.
It’s this 1-2 hour window that I get my MOST IMPORTANT WORK DONE.
So from 9am-11am the important work can be:
Hanging out the washing (I tend to put the load on the night before then hang the next day)
1:1 time with Eme
Cooking dinner and pre-packing for the following day
Chasing up loose ends with family and friends over the phone
Working on my diary/blog 🙂
For instance some days I take Eme to Montessori School (we call it her ‘big girl’ school – she loves it) or other days we need to go to the Doctor for Ky’s check up or maybe Ky had a poor night so it throws our morning out of whack. That aside, 80% of our mornings look like what I’ve described above.
The 11am-4pm time frame allows me time to get out for some grocery shopping or relax at home or most of the time I’m doing more the work outlined above.
The wind down for the day sometimes starts around 4pm.
I try and factor in my daily program that I watch at 6:30pm (I’m a massive Neighbours fan – wrote about organising my day earlier here so I can be ready to sit down and watch) so I have my usual end of day routine mapped out.
Between 4pm-6pm I’m either warming up dinner or taking Eme for a bath to wash. Once I’ve done then I finish off with the other. For example, I usually bath her first and then feed her dinner after and manage Ky around that. I may feed him first to settle him and when he’s content in the bouncer I’ll focus on Eme.
During the day I have Ky on the baby wrap or down in the bouncer as he tends to feed every 2 hours then he falls asleep.
IMPORTANT MESSAGE – You may notice that there are big chunks of time that are unaccounted for. E.g. If I’m at home from 9am-11am or 11am-4pm what does Eme do?
We have ABC Kids on the TV in the background but for 80% of the day she’s running around entertaining herself. WE DO NOT ENCOURAGE ANY SCREEN TIME UNTIL LEKI GETS HOME AND ONLY FOR 1 HR MAX!
I previously wrote about Curiosity Over Judgement in a previous post and it’s basically trying to avoid judging what our kids are doing and allowing them to be curious (unless it’s dangerous).
One example I can share is that when Eme was helping me do the dishes (we don’t have a dishwasher) and she picked up an empty glass jar to scoop up the dish water. Now I was very close to telling her off but I practised ‘curiosity over judgement’ and waited to see what she’d do. She then raced over to her toys and picked up a handful of tiny toy fish and placed carefully into the bottle with the dish water and sealed the glass jar with the lid. She then looked at me with a cheeky smile and with a sense of accomplishment and said “Look Mama – fishies!”.
You can imagine my shock and amazement with the imagination of this little girl. She had this spirit of joy that I would have stunted if I told her to ‘stop it’ or ‘don’t make mess’. That look she had I’ll keep with me forever 🙂
So to bring us back to the timeline – it’s usually 6:30pm and I’m parked on my favourite recliner rocking chair (picked it up off Gumtree for $60!) and Eme is clean and fed, Ky is usually latched on and feeding and I’m watching Neighbours. Organised crime really!
Leki arrives home from work at 7pm and he’s already had his pre-prepped dinner at work. He then has a quick wash then comes and keeps an eye on Eme while I have a shower and freshen up and then we start the “Wind Down Routine”.
“Wind Down” Routine
So at 7:30pm we have 2 x kids who are fed and washed (we bathe Ky every 4-5 days as instructed until we have a review with the local maternity nurse when he’s 3 months) and we start the relaxing part of the day.
We have our desserts together which is usually something naughty like chocolate almond ice cream or coco balls which we make at home (usually both LOL) and Leki and I watch our nightly ‘program’ which is The Blacklist at the moment. We are basically watching anything that takes our fancy until GoT returns in 2019 🙂
While Leki and I tune into our nightly program, Ky is being breastfed and cuddled and Eme is watching her program (Free ABC Kids iView app) on the family iPad. This is usually from 7:30pm-8:30pm.
After an hour and our program has finished I then lay Ky down in his bassinet next to our bed, Leki and Eme brush their teeth together and he takes her to the toilet and then he tucks her into her ‘big girl bed’ in her own room. (This may be another blog post in the future as we decided to have Eme in a bassinet for 3 months then moved her into her own room. We have the same game plan for Ky!)
Every night Emelina has her standard prayer for her family and asks for a good night sleep 🙂 We remind her that if she needs to go to the bathroom to get out of her bed and let us know – she responds with ‘no weewee undies, no weewee bed” – she’s such a cutie pie!
After we tuck her in and she’s snug we keep a small night light next to her and start the countdown timer to turn the light off… 3… 2… 1 and off the room light goes! We get the occasional grizzle for 5-10 mins but then she fades away and falls off to sleep really quickly.
OBSERVATION: There was a point when Eme was 1-2yo and having 1-2 mid day naps but as she got to >2.5yo we found that she could power through the day without the nap and sleep the whole way through the night.
Well, that’s our typical day and it does seem like a lot of work goes into it but it’s worth all the planning because I feel like I can enjoy each day without feeling too overrun.
There is no perfect day and sometimes I feel overwhelmed with my normal routine but I always try my best.
I’d love to hear how you plan your typical days – you know the one… the days where no one sees what you’re up to and you need to get shit done!
Today I would like to congratulate all the children returning to school for the new calendar year in Australia – especially the little kiddies starting prep 🙂
My Facebook feed was blessed with photos and testimonials of parents wishing their kids all the best for the upcoming year.
I’m looking forward to be one of you doting Mothers tearfully saying goodbye to your kids as they return to school!
But… not too soon as I’m enjoying having them at home 😉
We are a Montessori family.
We arrived at Montessori after being recommended by a friend who has their 3 x girls at their local Montessori school in Sydney.
Skeptical Leki and I discussed the different pre-school options and decided that The Montessori Method fits our perspective of lifelong learning.
This short video can give you an idea of why we chose Montessori.
We enrolled Emelina into Montessori in June 2017 and so she’s completed 6 months and we have enrolled her for 2018. We are really enjoying everything the school offers and we invite you to research this as an option for your children 🙂
So I thought I would share our thoughts on how we arrived on Montessori from all the pre-schooling options.
To give you some context I wrote in the past about our commitment to have one of us working full time and the other one at home to help raise the kids and keep the home homely.
It’s a common sacrifice that many parents make but I also acknowledge that some parents also choose to have both parents working too!
We looked for information on local support groups, community groups and casual groups that I could join allowing me the chance to meet new people and act as a gauge for Emelina to start 3yo kindergarten!
So after finding some local groups this is what Emelina’s weekly routine looked like early-2017:
After 6 months of local community activities we found that Emelina was needing a bit more of challenge for her day so we decided to do some research and compare the benefits of daycare vs 3yo Kindergarten vs home schooling vs Montessori.
Here are the main pros and cons with the options available to us:
– Meet locals
– Walking distance
– No structure
– No flexibility
– Community focused
– Very organised
– No flexibility
– Require close supervision
– Local families
– Free time for Mama
– Get sick often
– Can’t control food sources
– Work from home
– Coursework supplied
– Protect Kids
– Work from home 🙂
– Sheltered Kids
– Self directed learning
– Open structure
– No homework
– Dealing with older kids
– Not going to a ‘normal’ school
So after some initial research and visiting different centres we decided to enroll her in our local Montessori school about 25 minutes away from home.
We are very much in the early stages of being a Montessori family and I’m sure there will be challenges ahead but we are loving it so far!
Eme’s 2018 calendar now looks like this:
To be honest with you – I wasn’t the best student in school and always struggled from as early as Grade 3.
I couldn’t believe that I graduated from primary school because I couldn’t even spell properly! Leki and the other hand comes from a family where education was very important. (He helps me a lot with this blog and I’m so grateful that we can work together on this!)
So in closing we are big raving fans of the Montessori Method of teaching and learning but Leki and I are already discussing and planning primary and secondary schooling options for our kids.
Although we will continue with Montessori we do plan to send our kids to Tonga for a semester during the primary school years to learn the culture and to understand the humility of having the ‘good life’ in Australia.
I know this may sound strange given that our kids are still small but we are already thinking of sending them to boarding school overseas in high school!
Why would we do that? There are several reasons but giving that the world is changing so quickly having a worldly view is very important to us!
We are not hard set on anything at the moment but we are definitely putting some serious thought on this.
We have a 3yo and 1 month old and we are already talking about boarding school and overseas schooling – sounds crazy but if you think about it a lot of cultures do this for their kids.
Believe it or not I genuinely believe the Montessori Method coupled with overseas experience will serve them best in this rapidly changing world… more on this down the track 😉