Houston, We Have A Thumb Sucker!

Houston, We Have A Thumb Sucker!

Hi Mamas,

Our 16 month son Kyneton is a thumb sucker 🙁

Reviewing where we’ve been, he was breastfed for 12 months and was comforted with a dummy around this time too.

He didn’t suck his thumb at that point.

 

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Rewinding the timeline a little further we started introducing the mashed solids at 8 months to compliment breastfeeding.

Still no thumb sucking.

Later, we introduced bottle feeding with formula after 12 months of breastfeeding.

He was eating solids, having a bottle in the morning and night and was completely off the dummy by 13 months.

It’s around this time I noticed Ky was starting to suck his thumb.

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We didn’t place a lot of urgency in trying to get Ky off his thumb and we let it slide.

He’s now 17 months old and uses his thumb to nurse himself to sleep.

When he’s watching TV or just sitting about we’ll find him with his left thumb in his mouth sucking furiously.

After some initial half hearted effort we just swiped his hand away form his mouth but after we disappear we come back to him again relaxing sucking his thumb.

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Our first go to action is to out apple cider vinegar on his thumbs.

As a back up solution I have purchased some nail solution from Chemist Warehouse 😉

The idea with both is to discourage him sucking his thumb because it tastes yucky.

I’m afraid that Ky might affect his teeth with the thumb sucking.

I’ll let you know how we go with the next update in a couple of months 🙂

Fingers and thumbs crossed!

With love,

 

Belinda

How To Enjoy Your Babymoon In Bali!

How To Enjoy Your Babymoon In Bali!

Hi guys.
Today we are going to share what we got up to on our Babymoon Trip to Bali.
You may have heard of a Honeymoon for newlyweds… well a Babymoon is for parents to getaway before the new baby arrives.
Sounds fitting!
We were invited to a joint 30th birthday party earlier in the year and we thought it would be a great chance to relax and reconnect.
This was Jan 2019 and we have just found out that baby #3 was on the way.
We had been trying for 1-2 months and then we passed the pee test. Read about what I wrote about that HERE.
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My husband Leki and I are very active with keeping our calendars free for family events or things we’re interested in doing.
So when we were invited to Bali we knew we had the time available to go.
The experience outranks the monetary cost.
Don’t get me wrong we value $$ just like everyone else does but we prioritise and value time with each other, family and friends a lot higher.
Money is a means to an ends.
My net worth is not my self worth.
So with that being said we started planning out trip.
Found a reasonable place to stay in Seminyak near the party goers. Had the pool, buffet breakfast and comfortable room. Organised transfers to and from the airport and we set our budget.
We then discussed how we would manage our kids, 4yo Emelina ans d 1yo Kyneton.
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I approached my Mum and asked whether she would be able to babysit the kids for 5 days in May.
She said yes and started to plan how to manage her work hours so she could help us out.
Owe her a million bucks but some creams from Victoria’s Secret will do for now 🤣🤣
This is was all organised by Feb.
We feel really strongly about being self sufficient.
So when it comes a time to ask for help we don’t feel like we’re stepping on any toes and they are happy to help because we don’t ask often.
It’s a win win scenario.
FYI – when we called video called the kids were so happy playing with their cousins. They forgot all about Mum and Dad and said they’re having so much fun! See… win win.
Can you imagine the feeling of having kids who are happy and safe with Family while you and hubby relive your youth alone together in Bali?
I am so blessed and I don’t take that for granted.
So what was on the itinerary?
Rest.
Recharge.
Massage.
Talk.
Eat.
Sleep.
Think.
Smile.
Laugh.
Plan.
Celebrate.
Had so much fun and we have started planning the next trip which will most likely be winter 2021 back to Bali.
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Here’s a little snapshot of 2019 and 2020.
Sept 2019 baby #3 arrives
Nov 2019 cousin’s wedding in Sydney
Jan 2020 Ky’s 2nd bday and Baby #3 Baptism plus Leki’s Family retreat
Feb 2020 Sister’s wedding
Mar 2020 Eme’s 5 bday/ Leki and Bma 35th bday bash
Nov 2020 Other Sister’s wedding
So you can see there’ll be a little bit of time before we feel the warm sun in Bali again.
We’ll continue to be happy and healthy until we return.
With love,
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Belinda xo
Parents Retreat To Bali

Parents Retreat To Bali

Hi guys,

As this post is landing on your browser my husband Leki and I are heading to Bali for a ‘Couple Retreat’.

We have left baby #1 (4yo) and baby #2 (1yo) with my parents (Nena and Poppy) for 5 days and 4 nights while we enjoy ourselves.

So how did this come about?

I outlined earlier in the year what our Family Core Values are!

Husband and Wife is always number one.

We reinforce this rule by having parts of our day that are routine.

It’s more then just saying ‘I Love You”.

It also about how we argue and attempt to listen to each other when we try to resolve disagreements.

We fight at times like any couple do!

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We’re not special by any means.

But what does make our connection special is that we’ve spent time understanding each other.

That comes with time, love and a lot of patience with each other.

What’s the result?

A little step closer to a tighter bond.

The stronger our bond is as husband and wife then more fertile the soil is for our family to grow.

I have also laid out small but regular trips away to recharge and reconnect.

As a family we try and have little getaways every 3 months.

Doesn’t have to be extravagant although committing to a time away is the priority.

We are very big fans of the Big 4 family camping sites.

I’ve written about this – HERE.

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So far we’ve been to Big 4 Melbourne, Big 4 Moama, Big 4 Bateman’s Bay and Big 4 Bellarine.

We don’t wait for nice getaways for us to reconnect.

We stay connected but this is a chance to strengthen that connection even further!

The central theme of our core values is Discipline and Routine.

Our main family meal is in the morning and we all look forward to talking and sharing things at Breakfast.

Then on the weekend Leki and I co-ordinate our diaries and plan the upcoming weeks to make sure we are organised. I’ve talked about this – HERE.

Having the discipline to keep to our daily routine gives us the freedom to plan and do things we want.

There’s no sense urgency which helps reduce stress and because we are coordinated in our schedules we create time.

Makes you feel light on your feet when you aren’t bogged down by unnecessary commitments or being ‘busy’.

So Bali here we come 🙂

Love ya work Mamas!

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With love,

Belinda xo

 

Food & Sick Kids

Food & Sick Kids

Hi guys,

The struggle is real with how to feed my kids when they can be picky with their food.

“Eat your broccoli”

That’s what my parents used to tell me.

Then I would try and hide the vegetables under other scraps on my plate and try and look for the exit.

Soon my Mum or Dad would notice the veges that were poorly hidden and then I was forced to sit at the table until everything was eaten.

I’m sure you can relate to this scene in your own upbringing.

But, now the tables have turned.

I need to raise my own kids to ‘Eat Their Damn Broccoli” 🙂

Funny how life serves you justice…

When our children eat what we eat and when we eat sometimes I wonder whether ketosis is okay for kids.

To give you an idea of what we eat I’d already posted a big chain of blogs – HERE and HERE.

My older child Eme (4yo) goes 4-6 hours without eating and our food strategy helps ‘turn off’ their hunger so they can focus, read and play. (She knows that at Nana and Poppy’s house there are heaps of snacks but we don’t stress too much over that!)

Kids, because they’re growing, need a lot of energy.

We believe what you eat is important because it gives you the best form of energy!

I’m not a doctor, and you should consult one if you’re worried, but in my experience my 4yo daughter does well on a low-carb, moderate protein & high-fat diet, and she’s probably in ketosis at times.

My little guy (1yo) is eating 80% of what we eat. He only struggles in the morning as he doesn’t like eggs… yet 🙂

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Here’s a great blog post from Dave Asprey that we like and I’d like to discuss the main points:

  1. Use Superhero Language – something that makes sense to them
  2. Be Firm At Dinnertime
  3. Make Bulletproof Versions Of Favourite Meals
  4. Cook With Your Kids
  5. Be Grateful

Use Superhero Language

In trying to encourage the kids to eat what want Leki and I sell the idea that it will give them energy to have fun at School or train at Gymnastics.

It gives them the impression that if they don’t eat then they won’t have the energy to have fun.

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Works pretty well although we don’t have to used this strategy that often.

We started Eme (4yo) on our food strategy when she was about 18 months and she’s never looked back.

She rarely gets sick, has plenty of energy throughout the day and sleeps over 10 hours every night. We’re blessed!


Be Firm At Dinner Time

This is our ‘go to’ strategy.

If the Emelina (4yo) doesn’t eat what we give her then we send her to bed without eating anything.

We are firm that what we have cooked for them was made with love and that we wouldn’t give them something to eat that we wouldn’t eat ourselves.

It’s almost an “up to you” situation which encourages them to make a decision.

Eat and be happy or be unhappy and go without food overnight.

It won’t kill them to go hungry for a little while.

After a couple of days of dinner time stubbornness we’ve found that she fall in line pretty quickly.

Intermittent fasting for a 4yo 😉

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Again, with Kyneton our 16mo, we are extending him a little more time but around 18-20mo we will also encourage our strict dinner time routine.

We believe building Bulletproof kids requires a loving firmness which will build their resilience.


Make Bulletproof Versions of Favourite Meals

This is our second go to strategy.

Whatever your favourite meal may be we substitute with another handy paleo/Bulletproof product.

Rice? Nope… Zoodles or spiralised zucchini.

Chocolate? We recommend making Cacao chocolate bombs.

Brownies? Try pitted date brownies.

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Toast and omelette? Maybe sub in sunny side eggs, avocado, butter, asparagus and baby spinach.

Chocolate and biscuits? Fruits and nuts are always friendly.

Plan flour and sugar? Try almond flour or coconut flour and stevia.

Plenty of healthier substitutes you just need to keep digging and research 😉


Cook With Your Kids

On occasion I cook with the kids mainly for a bit of fun for also so they understand the process it takes to prepare a meal.

In the morning Leki and Ky prepares breakfast. So when he’s lightly pan frying eggs Ky sees the process.

On weekends Leki makes pancakes and Eme often helps with cracking eggs and mixing the bowl.

It can be messy but more often it about the trial and error.

Once upon a time Eme really struggled with cracking eggs.

She didn’t have the right mixture of light handling and controlled force to break the egg shell.

Over time she has become a lot more confident in cracking eggs.

Now, our 4yo Eme can prepare fruit and cut the stem from strawberries for the family.

We’re so proud of her!


Be Grateful

Lastly we share things with the kids so they can understand how lucky they are.

If our 4yo was clumsy and spilt a cup of water. We often ask her to be careful and we don’t refill the cup of water.

She complains and asks why she can’t have more water.

We reply: “You need to be more careful Eme because some kids just like you don’t have water like you do”.

She usually cries trying to understand what’s happening.

Regardless, we stay firm and don’t replenish her cup.

She learns the lesson of disappointment and dealing with her actions.

Other times, if she’s not listening or misbehaving, we take something away from her that she loves.

We often keep her from her Montessori school or we threaten not to take her to swimming or gymnastics.

These aren’t empty threats.

Once we load the chamber we need to fire the bullet otherwise future threats/’negotiations’ are worthless.

We are reinforcing this feeling of disappointment so she understands things shouldn’t be taken for granted and that she should be grateful.

Ky gets off scott free… for the moment 🙂


BONUS! HERE are some Bulletproof sugar-free snacks for kids!

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Love ya work Mama!

With love,

Belinda xo

I Know Nothing About Vaccinations!?

I Know Nothing About Vaccinations!?

Hi guys.

To be honest I sit on the fence with vaccinations.

But I can tell you that we are up to date with our vaccinations and booster shots.

Our 4yo daughter is about to have another round of vaccinations and our 1yo will have another round of shots when he’s 18 months.

Plus I’m needing some injections for my 3rd pregnancy (in the 2nd trimester now).

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Mar 2016 – Eme’s 1yo vaccination injection

It’s a bit of a controversial topic for families but this is something I’ve been thinking and talking about with my husband Leki.

Parents only want the best for their children.

If you’ve been reading my blog entries then you’d know that Health is one of our top priorities.

So why am I interested about vaccinations now?

A lot of it comes from misinformation.

I know social media is not the best source of information and sometimes closely held facts can be challenged.

For example cocaine was a common medical prescription once upon a time in the 1800s.

At the time it was thought to be helpful in soothing pain. Much later it was found to be dangerous and had to be regulated as a narcotic drug.

So in this case something was thought to be helpful and then after some time and research – the opposite was found. It was harmful.Cocaine_for_kids

Then there are cases of the opposite.

Look at all the recent developments with medical marijuana and CBD oil for disease.

Something was once thought to be harmful and now through research is showing positive benefits.

And this is where I am at the moment.

What are we being told and what are we open to exploring further?

I’m not completely ruling out vaccinations all together but I think my family needs to ask more questions about what’s in it and how it actually helps?

We could be in a cocaine situation where vaccinations are thought to be helpful but end up being harmful.

Or we could be in a medicinal marijuana situation where something thought of as dangerous is actually beneficial.

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My little girl 🙂

This is why we sit on the fence.

At the moment we appear healthy and happy and as I mentioned we are up to date with all vaccinations. Adults, toddlers and newborns in our little family.

But some healthy scepticism remains.

Here are some of the places where we will be getting our information:

Pro-vaccination

Anti-vaccination

For now we will continue to vaccinate our kids and say up to date until we feel otherwise.

Will update you in the next 6 months!

With love,

Belinda xo

Who’s Your Favourite Child

Who’s Your Favourite Child

Hi guys.

Had this thought during the Easter weekend and it is something I’d like to explore.

Who is My Favourite child?

I only have 2 kids with number 3 due to arrive in Sept 🙂

Why did this thought come to me?

Because I am one of 4 girls in my own immediate family.

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Mum 4yo | Emelina 3yo

My parents spent the most time with me before my older sister joined us from Tonga and there’s an 8 year gap between me and my younger sister.

So those 8 years would be special for my parents and I because I was their sole focus.

I’m not saying I’m the favourite child but I think there’s time there where I was all there was.

Then my younger sisters came along and then my older sister joined us.

My parents had to divide their attention equally among us.

The only thing I see though is that I got an 8 year head start 😉

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My little team

When I look at my own Family I would say that I treat my 4yo daughter differently from my 1yo son.

I love them both… so much.

There was almost 3 years from baby #1 to baby #2.

I had more one-on-one time with Emelina and Leki and I got invested in everything we did together with her.

I’m spending that same amount of time with Ky but I’ve found it’s not as deep given that I have to divide my time up.

And with a new one coming to join us in September this will become even more apparent with dividing my time among them.

There will be 18 months between baby #2 and baby #3.

Leki and I are trying to have 5 kids God willing and so the time we give to each of them is important and something we think about a lot.

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Mama | Emelina | Kyneton

I’m not sure if I favour my oldest child Emelina but I must admit everything we go through with her is ‘new’.

With the younger lot we’ve already been through tears, diapers, school and sport.

I think it’s exciting doing and experiencing things for the first time and that is special in it’s own way.

Regardless of how it appears or how we deal with adding to the Family – we love each of our kids unconditionally!

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The adventure continues…

With love,

 

Belinda xo

Easter 2019

Easter 2019

Hi guys,

How was your Easter long weekend?

As a Christian family we believe that Jesus died for us for the promise of life after death.

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Brigid’s Catholic Parish in Gisborne

This is an opportunity to appreciate everything that we have no matter how big or small.

The wind in your hair, the roof over your head, the warmth of your bed, the love of your friends and family.

Even the challenges in your life is something to be thankful of.

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So what did we get up to?

We caught up with Leki’s Family on Easter Sunday which was good fun. We did have plans of having it at Brimbank Park like last year but the weather was a bit iffy so we celebrated at his sister’s home instead.

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On Easter Monday we celebrated with my family at Edwardes Lake in Reservoir.

It’s great to be around my Family to celebrate this great gift of Life.

From my photos from last year I can see how much the kids have grown, the relationships have strengthened and that both our Grandmothers have gone to Rest 🙁

Thank you Jesus for everything we have.

With love,

Belinda xo

Caravan trip for 2 weeks

Caravan trip for 2 weeks

Hi guys,

I’d like to share with you some things we have planned for the future.

I’ve written in the past about how we like to have regular but small trips to keep us fresh.

In 2020 we plan to travel around country Victoria for 2 weeks with a little camper trailer.

Then we are looking to build up towards a 3 month trip around coastal Australia in 2021.

Emelina will be 6yo. Kyneton will be 3yo and Baby #3 will be 1yo.

Perfect timing!

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2017 – Emelina and Nana at Big 4 Coburg

Then in 2022 we want to spend 6 months travelling around Australia.

Eventually we plan to travel around Australia for 1 whole year! This will be when the kids are still in primary school and want to hang around Mum and Dad.

There’ll be a time where they’ll prefer to hang out with their friends rather then their family on school holidays.

So we would like to book them in before they’re too cool 😉

Here are some of the places I’d like to see around our beautiful country:

  • The Murray River
  • The NSW Central Coast from Merrimbula to Byron Bay
  • The Red Centre – Uluru/Alice Springs
  • Sunshine Coast
  • Far North Queensland
  • Coastal Western Australia

Plus many many more!

A benefit of being a Big 4 member is that there are plenty of places around Australia where we can dock our camper trailer in a cheaper site with shower and cooking amenities available.

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Bbq at the Big 4 caravan park

Looking forward to documenting the trips ahead and here are some families that I’m following:

Hope you have a great day.

With love,

 

Belinda xo

Husband Is Away For 2 Weeks

Husband Is Away For 2 Weeks

Hi guys,

My husband is travelling with work to Europe for 12 days.

He’s been gone for 5 days already and it’s been difficult without his help 🙁

Being 3 months pregnant and having 2 little kids to manage has been challenging but I’m really fortunate because I have supportive family to help me through.

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I’ve been home alone to run the house and if you’ve followed my story, my husband Leki is responsible for our morning routine in our little house.

I am understanding how hard it can be for women who are home alone with their kids while their husbands are Fly In Fly Out (FIFO) or in a professional trade where they are away for long periods of time.

I remember when I was a child my Dad who’s a plumber sometimes was away for a week because the job needed them far away for a short time.

As a kid I missed my Dad but I never thought about how much my Mum had to work to keep the family afloat.

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I’m at the other end with my husband away and I’m wondering what my kids are feeling with Dad being away, not cooking breakfast, not being there to be the playful Dad, not being there to help with the wind down routine at the end of our day.

Its a big change for my little guys 🙁

This is a short post appreciating what our husbands do for us and acknowledging Mums who regularly drive their household while their husbands are away.

I can’t wait for Leki to come back because I miss him but also because I appreciate the work we do together in raising our children together.

Come back to us safely!

We love and miss you.

Belinda, Emelina, Kyneton and Baby

My 1st Trimester

My 1st Trimester

Hi guys,

I thought I’d follow up from my last blog post and give you a monthly update on how I’m travelling with my 3rd pregnancy.

I’m currently due to have baby #3 on 24 Sept 2019 and am currently 3 months along with my pregnancy.

Here are my main topics I’d like to talk about throughout my pregnancy:

  1. Pain
  2. Energy
  3. Self care

1. Pain

In the first 3 months I can proudly say that this has been the smoothest pregnancy so far.

Smooth in the sense that I’ve had very little morning sickness, had a great appetite for food and not in much pain.

The first trimester has scored an A 🙂

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3 months pregnant with baby #3

On reflection I would say that I’ve been in the best shape physically and mentally in leading up to this pregnancy.

I am in the best shape weight wise.

I am in the best mood and consciousness mentally.

The choices I’ve made food wise has been the best leading up to this pregnancy.

Leki bought and read a book from one of his mentors – Dave Asprey – called “The Better Baby Book“. It’s the lessons in this book that we’ve followed in leading up to this most recent pregnancy. Highly recommend!


2. Energy

In my last blog post I wrote about how I’m preserving and recharging my batteries by napping daily with my kids.

It’s usually a 30-60 min nap at 3pm with my kids.

Aside from that I have been pretty good at eating well.

I have been eating quite a lot of take away food probably 3-4 times per week compared to pre-pregnancy which was once a week.

The problem is that I don’t enjoy the food being cooked at home.

It’s great nutritious food but I just don’t like the smell and taste of it 🙁

Here’s my typical meals I’m eating which can alternate:

Breakfast:

  • Low carb Toast + avocado, tomato and cheese
  • Porridge, banana and raw honey
  • Egg + baby spinach, asparagus, avocado and butter
  • Smoothie = cacao powder, chia seeds, flax seeds, banana, MCT oil, almonds and coconut water

Lunch/Dinner

  • Bone broth soup + vegetables
  • Organic minced beef + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Wild caught salmon + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Organic chicken + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Take away – Pizza, McDonald’s, KFC

Snacks

  • Rice cakes + butter
  • Dark choc bombs = 70% dark choc (from Aldi), cacao powder, chia seeds, almonds, coconut oil and pitted dates)
  • Tim Tams/crackers
  • Fruit = strawberries, blackberries, raspberries, banana, grapes, peaches and pears
  • Water and coconut water

I also supplement with Blackmore’s Pregnancy Gold for Pregnancy and Breastfeeding every morning with my breakfast.


3. Self Care

Well I can tick the sleep box because as I’ve written before Leki and I place a massive amount of focus on sleep.

Feeling good is very subjective though.

It can mean different things to different people.

One way to make me feel good is spending time with loved ones.

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Here we go again?!

Leki and I plan regular small getaways which is a good way to sight see and recharge. We are big fans of Big 4 caravan parks.

Another thing I like to do is seeing my beauty therapist once a month for doing my nails or waxing to make me feel beautiful.

From my previous pregnancies there were times where I didn’t feel beautiful.

I plan to stay on top of that by eating well, resting regularly and managing my happiness by being consciously happy.

I still track my weight so that I don’t put on too much bad weight as I grow my new baby.

In my previous posts I put on 30kg with my first baby in 2015 (105kg), then 25kg with the second baby in 2018 (99kg) and I’m currently around 71kg.

These are the things that I will be monitoring 🙂


So there you are.

3 months along and happy.

I have a little trip planned in May 2019 without the kids which Leki and I are looking forward to and my cousin’s wedding in Sydney in November.

Aside from those dates I have my usual daily routine that keeps me busy week in week out.

I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Have a great day.

Love,

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My little sidekicks!

Belinda xo