My 1st Trimester

My 1st Trimester

Hi guys,

I thought I’d follow up from my last blog post and give you a monthly update on how I’m travelling with my 3rd pregnancy.

I’m currently due to have baby #3 on 24 Sept 2019 and am currently 3 months along with my pregnancy.

Here are my main topics I’d like to talk about throughout my pregnancy:

  1. Pain
  2. Energy
  3. Self care

1. Pain

In the first 3 months I can proudly say that this has been the smoothest pregnancy so far.

Smooth in the sense that I’ve had very little morning sickness, had a great appetite for food and not in much pain.

The first trimester has scored an A ๐Ÿ™‚

3 months pregnant with baby #3

On reflection I would say that I’ve been in the best shape physically and mentally in leading up to this pregnancy.

I am in the best shape weight wise.

I am in the best mood and consciousness mentally.

The choices I’ve made food wise has been the best leading up to this pregnancy.

Leki bought and read a book from one of his mentors – Dave Asprey – called “The Better Baby Book“. It’s the lessons in this book that we’ve followed in leading up to this most recent pregnancy. Highly recommend!

2. Energy

In my last blog post I wrote about how I’m preserving and recharging my batteries by napping daily with my kids.

It’s usually a 30-60 min nap at 3pm with my kids.

Aside from that I have been pretty good at eating well.

I have been eating quite a lot of take away food probably 3-4 times per week compared to pre-pregnancy which was once a week.

The problem is that I don’t enjoy the food being cooked at home.

It’s great nutritious food but I just don’t like the smell and taste of it ๐Ÿ™

Here’s my typical meals I’m eating which can alternate:


  • Low carb Toast + avocado, tomato and cheese
  • Porridge, banana and raw honey
  • Egg + baby spinach, asparagus, avocado and butter
  • Smoothie = cacao powder, chia seeds, flax seeds, banana, MCT oil, almonds and coconut water


  • Bone broth soup + vegetables
  • Organic minced beef + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Wild caught salmon + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Organic chicken +ย boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Take away – Pizza, McDonald’s, KFC


  • Rice cakes + butter
  • Dark choc bombs = 70% dark choc (from Aldi), cacao powder, chia seeds, almonds, coconut oil and pitted dates)
  • Tim Tams/crackers
  • Fruit = strawberries, blackberries, raspberries, banana, grapes, peaches and pears
  • Water and coconut water

I also supplement with Blackmore’s Pregnancy Gold for Pregnancy and Breastfeeding every morning with my breakfast.

3. Self Care

Well I can tick the sleep box because as I’ve written before Leki and I place a massive amount of focus on sleep.

Feeling good is very subjective though.

It can mean different things to different people.

One way to make me feel good is spending time with loved ones.

Here we go again?!

Leki and I plan regular small getaways which is a good way to sight see and recharge. We are big fans of Big 4 caravan parks.

Another thing I like to do is seeing my beauty therapist once a month for doing my nails or waxing to make me feel beautiful.

From my previous pregnancies there were times where I didn’t feel beautiful.

I plan to stay on top of that by eating well, resting regularly and managing my happiness by being consciously happy.

I still track my weight so that I don’t put on too much bad weight as I grow my new baby.

In my previous posts I put on 30kg with my first baby in 2015 (105kg), then 25kg with the second baby in 2018 (99kg) and I’m currently around 71kg.

These are the things that I will be monitoring ๐Ÿ™‚

So there you are.

3 months along and happy.

I have a little trip planned in May 2019 without the kids which Leki and I are looking forward to and my cousin’s wedding in Sydney in November.

Aside from those dates I have my usual daily routine that keeps me busy week in week out.

I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Have a great day.


My little sidekicks!

Belinda xo

Baby #3 Is On The Way!

Baby #3 Is On The Way!

Hi everyone,

Exciting news!

We are expecting another addition to the family due to arrive in Sept 2019 ๐Ÿ™‚

This is a special blessing because I wrote about trying to have kids and having to educate ourselves on how best to fall pregnant.

We fell pregnant on our 2nd month of trying! We’re so happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Btw, revisit our announcement of baby #2 – our son Kyneton – HERE.

Our family of 4 turns to 5 and we are so happy!

Now it’s still early days as we completed the 12 week ultrasound earlier this month.

I’m fortunate to have my caseload nurse from my last pregnancy – Allie – manage me again! YAY!

Right now I’m feeling pretty happy and healthy.

I’ve had a little bit of morning sickness but I have been very hungry and craving meaty meals.

I also prefer to have other people cook for me or eat out.

I love visiting my parents and having my Mum cook and look after me. It’s such a great feeling being able to be pampered even if it’s just a nice home cooked meal and a nice foot and stomach massage from my Mum.

Whatever Leki cooks at home I don’t want to eat ๐Ÿ™ Poor Leki.

Getting the new team member in September!

I’ve recently brought my pregnancy clothes back from storage and it’s a nice feeling to be comfortable with my fitted dresses and clothes.

My plan is to provide you with a monthly update on how my 3rd pregnancy is going.

Plus, with my last two pregnancies I documented my efforts to lose weight.

In the future I will share with you my efforts to lose the baby weight but this time I’ll have more experience and focus more on staying happy and optimistic.

Appreciate your support,

Belinda xo

[UPDATE] Daily Routine with 2 Kids

[UPDATE] Daily Routine with 2 Kids

Hi all,

This is an update from an earlier posts about this very topic – read about my last update Aug 2018 and my original post Mar 2018.

So a quick summary our son Ky was in the bassinet as a 2mo infant and Eme was continuing strongly in her own bed in her own room with some night scares here and there.

By Aug 2018 our son Ky was in the crib in his own room and Eme was happy in her own room with our ‘wind down’ routine in full swing!

Ky’s 1st Swimming Lesson!

What are the main changes?

  1. Kyneton is in his big boy bed
  2. Nap routine
  3. Daily routine

1. Kyneton is in his Big Boy Bed

Our little guy has graduated from his crib to a low set baby bed.

I managed to source the new bed and mattress from an Op Shop (where my Mum works) and I got a great price ๐Ÿ™‚


The challenge now is getting Ky to stay in bed when we begin the ‘wind down routine‘.

Once we get the kids fed and washed we get them into bed around 7pm.

It can take 30 mins to get Ky to sleep.

He often cries and gets himself down from the bed and wonders into our room upset.

I then hold his hand and show him back into his room and lay him down to bed and I say ‘goodnight Ky it’s time to sleep’.

He then cries for a little while and then again helps himself down before wondering back into our room.

I repeat the process of returning him back to his room until he finally gives up which can take 30 mins!

That was early March 2019 just 2 weeks ago.

Fast forward 2 weeks I’m now down to 15 minutes in getting him down into his own bed.

The struggle continues ๐Ÿ˜‰

Happy camper!

2. Nap Routine

In the next section I’ll share with you what our week looks like.

The reason why I’ve revisited the nap routine is because the kids and I get so tired with how our day is running.

With Kyneton he gets up early around 5:30am-6am Leki looks after him.

By 10am he’s really irritable and needs a little 30 min nap.

If I’m lucky he’ll go down for 60 mins!


When he’s up again he’ll go strongly until 3pm where he needs another 30 min nap.

I used to keep Emelina up all day so that she can konk out at the end of the day and sleep all the way through.

We are blessed that Eme is a great sleeper and consistently sleeps 10-11 hours all the way through with minimal disruption.

She goes down around 7:30pm-8pm and wakes around 7am.

I know! We are really blessed with her ๐Ÿ˜‰

But her current calendar has become very busy which means a couple of days per week she goes down for a nap with Ky and I at 3pm.

I would say Eme is napping at 3pm for 30-60 mins most weekdays.


Most days I nap with the kids at 3pm for 30-60 mins.

I get some rest and recharge plus I enjoy ‘nesting’ with my kids.

I’m not sure how long I’ll be able to enjoy them at this time of their lives so I’ll spend as much time having some down time with them ๐Ÿ™‚

3. Daily Routine

This is an update from our last routine update which you can read – HERE.

4:30am-7am: My husband Leki is up and studying before Ky wakes at 6am and Eme is up at 7am.

7am-8am: Leki makes a hot breakfast for the family which is our daily family meal as he gets home late from work.

8am-9am: Leki leaves for work and I prepare the kids for the day.

9am-6pm: Emelina has Gymnastics on Monday mornings from 10:30am-11:30am and 4yo Montessori School Tues, Wed and Thurs 9am-12:30pm

She also has a weekly swimming class on Tues at 5:00pm.

Kyneton has a weekly swimming class on Thurs at 11:00am and has a weekly Montessori ‘Nido’ session on Wed at 9:45am.

We bulk cook food on the weekend and simply reheat on the weekday which saves me time and trouble while I’m chasing the kids.

So the daily napping routine allows the kids and I to continue to be happy and functional ๐Ÿ˜‰

As I mentioned above – Ky naps at 10am which gives me a chance to do some cleaning or follow up on things and we have a family nap at 3pm!

There are some days that are friendlier then others.

For example I enjoy walking to the local park and allow the kids to play for a good hour which gives me some down time and get the kids in the sunshine.

Leki and I put a lot effort organising our time during the day and training the kids to respect the wind down routine.

This process ensures that the kids are asleep by 8pm-8:30pm every night.

So Leki and I can have couple time where we can choose how to spend it.

It might be movie time watching a popular series, or chill out in bed reading or being on our phones unwinding before talking and catching up ๐Ÿ˜‰

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We then aim to unplug and place our phones on airplane mode at 9pm and aim to sleep at 9:30pm every night.

This enables us to be happy and healthy and we place a high importance on quality sleep.

Well that’s how the picture looks like in our little household.

I’ll update this in 6 months and give you an update on how we’re travelling as a little family!

With love,

Belinda xo

Eme’s 4th Birthday

Eme’s 4th Birthday

Hi all,

Our little girl has just turned 4 years old and we celebrated it with a good old backyard party.

It was themed as the popular PJ Mask and my sisters pitched in and hired an entertainer to come dressed as Eme’s favourite cartoon character – Owlette!


You should have seen the wide smile and big eyes on her face as Owlette popped out from the corner.

I’ll never forget that for the rest of my life.

This made me think about the innocence of youth.


Our daughter Emelina is newly 4 years old and believes everything you tell her.

She believes in Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny and all the other make believe things we grew up adoring.

There will be a time when she realises how the world actually works.

She might be at school and one of her friends will tell her that Santa’s not real.

Or may be an older cousin will find out the truth and share the news with her.

Maybe she busts Mum and Dad slipping the presents under the Christmas treeย not Santa and Rudolph.


Or Mum and Dad might accidentally slip that the tooth fairy is not real.

When that day comes I know that little spark in my little girl’s eyes will change… forever.

I guess that’s why I was so moved when she reacted the way she did when she saw the ‘real’ Owlette at her party.

She was absolutely convinced it was Owlette from TV and Emelina hardly let her out of her reach as the entertainer was playing games and organising the kids.

I highly recommend the entertainers and you can find them at Magical Princess Entertainment.


She did a great job and will look to have them host a Party again in the future!

So a little about the actual party….

We had a backdrop which I built and it took me an hour and a bit to piece together with a balloon garlandย  ๐Ÿ™‚

I ordered the backdrop off UBACKDROP which arrived within 1 week from when the order was made.

Thanks Vikki they look awesome!

Having a large family we had plenty of hands on deck to help with preparing the food and drinks.

Special shout out to my Mum for all her hard work and great help (couldn’t do it without you!), my Aunty for always supplying seafood and her special Island drink Otai, my sisters Kathy and Taina for their help and Vikki for putting the cake and cupcakes together within hours ๐Ÿ˜‰

These events do not go to plan unless I have my supporters to assist. THANK YOU!

Believe it or not I have already thought about Eme’s 5th and 6th birthday party themes.

I guess I have more fun then her planning her birthdays then she does actually celebrating it ๐Ÿ™‚


Emelina please enjoy your childhood before the you join the rest of us in the real world!

In the real world where you can be disappointed.

In the real world the curiosity and wonder diminishes with each day ๐Ÿ™

Stay where you are where there is magic and wonder my beautiful little girl.

Happy birthday Eme.

Don’t ever grow up.


Mum, Dad and your brother Kyneton.

KonMari & Me

KonMari & Me

Hi guys,

It’s now Autumn and the closet clean out has commenced!

Funny how all the old items lying around becomes such a struggle to giveaway/throw away when you’re faced with actually throwing it away.

When we relocated from Kyneton to Gisborne last year I wrote about how the KonMari Method helped me with decluttering.

Here is a short overview of what Marie Kondo is about:

I have packed most of my Summer clothes away and pulled out my winter clothes from the shed.

I’ve also been dealing with the kids toys because there is so much of it and so little time that they’re actually being used.

We send out kids to our local Montessori school and we have a dedicated simple space for the kids to play.

We are transferring their lessons and environment from School and mirroring those lesson at home.

We are now actively asking friends and familyย not to buy toys for birthdays and celebrations because it will just to a waster of money. I’m not wanting to sound ungrateful but being honest helps everyone ๐Ÿ™‚

So what is the KonMari Method?

It’s a state of mind – and a way of life – that encourages cherishing the things that spark joy in one’s life. Belongings are acknowledged for their service – and thanked before being let go, should they no longer spark joy.

In my last post about this topic in June 2018 Leki and I gave away a lot of things that no longer sparked joy.

Leki struggled but parted ways with over 80% of his Rugby gear he had been collecting over the years. He donated the items to Tonga and forgot all about it.

Then, he saw photos on Facebook with young people in Tonga wearing his Rugby gear when I returned for my Grandma Taina’s funeral in Sept 2018.

It genuinely made him joyful!

Lastly, I have become more conscious with my shopping habits.

I seem to question any purchase for the home. Will I use and will it be worthwhile or will it just be parked in the closet ready to be KonMari’d ๐Ÿ˜‰ down the tracked.

So as the mission of Marie Kondo suggests it is a ‘state of mind and a way of life…’

So I have been preparing for the cold Winter that’s due to arrive in the Macedon Ranges and I’ve written before how it can be 5 degrees cooler here then Melbourne.

There’s also another reason that I’ve dug out my stored clothes but more on that later ๐Ÿ˜‰

How have you applied the KonMari Method in your life?

Have a great day.

With love,


Belinda xo


These Are The Good Old Days!

These Are The Good Old Days!

Hi guys,

Sad post for you today.

I miss you Grandma ๐Ÿ™

I got a notification off my Facebook feed that this time last year my Grandma Taina visited us in Australia from Tonga.

Around this time of year (every year) from March to May Grandma Taina would stay with us in Melbourne with her 3 month ‘visitors visa’ and enjoy her time with extended family.

She would be with my Mum for most of her stay at her home in the north of Melbourne.

My older sister would often take her to bingo with other ladies to try her luck ๐Ÿ™‚

My other sisters would drop in with their kids (Grandma Taina’s great-grandchildren) and spend time with her.

China Bar celebrating my Dad’s 60th in 2015

Grandma Taina would then visit her sister who lives in Melbourne, nieces, nephews and extended relatives.

Then… I would host her with my little family and she would stay with us for a week.

I really cherished that time together because we spoke in a language that only love knows.

You see, I wrote this blog post LAST YEAR about wishing I could communicate with my Grandma because I can’t speak my native language well at all.

And now Grandma Taina is resting in Tonga after passing away in Sept 2018 ๐Ÿ™

At Kyneton’s Baptism in May 2018

Oh how I wish I had more time with her!

I wish I could just talk with her one more time.

Have her sing to me or playfully tease her great-grandchildren or see her grin when she’s watching the kids play in front of her.

I miss her so much ๐Ÿ™

Leki and I talked about this and we realised that there’s two sides to everything after he saw this awesome video from Ryan Daniel Moran.

With baby Eme in Mar 2015

There are problems we feel in the moment and there are positives that we think about in the rear view mirror.

Weย feel the problems and weย long for the positives.

We rarelyย pauseย to appreciate the positivesย while we’re still in them and instead we just experience them later.

And we get this experience of the times that “used to be”.

Now we both have siblings and we don’t spend 24 hours a day thinking about how much I love and appreciate them.

But… if anything ever happened to any of them all I would ever want is to have my sibling back.

So we saw that there are things in our lives that we can sometimes overlook thatย if there were taken away from me it would be the thing I longed for the most.

NYE in Footscray 2015

Like the time when my 1yo son is screaming at night in bed.

If anything ever happened to him, all I would ever want would be to comfort a screaming baby.

Or the time when I was 19yo and thinking that I was overweight and unhappy.

But now I wish I had that 19yo body because pushing out my kids has given me a waistline that I’m always working on ๐Ÿ™‚

If Leki and I have an argument about something and we don’t talk for a little while to let things simmer down is another example.

But, if anything ever happened to him all I’d want to do is have the chance toย just talk to him again.

We rarely, if ever, pause to appreciate the things that are already in our lives that weย could be grateful for until it’s too late.

But, you get to control whether you consciously appreciate the things in your life or focus on problems until much later when you have this sense of longing for ‘how things used to be’.

Right now I’m focused trying to be happy and reducing my stress.

Sometimes I’m in the happy place but other times I’m in the tough place and I quickly forget all the things I should be grateful for.

After Church in Kyneton with baby Ky ๐Ÿ™‚

I know someone may be looking at my life and wishing they could have just a little slice of all the things I take for granted.

Just like when I look at someone else’s life and think how I wish those things for my life.

No matter who you are, or what you have or don’t have I can promise you there is someone else looking at your lifeย longing to be in your situation.

Even to be in the situation right now that you see as a problem!

No matter who you are or where you are you have some much to be thankful for and appreciate.


I miss you so much Grandma Taina and I appreciate all the time we spent together.

Even though it’s only been 6 months that you’ve gone to rest I think of you everyday and celebrate your life with our Family.



Grandma in Kyneton ๐Ÿ™‚ RIP.

‘Ofa lahi atu Grandma. I miss you ๐Ÿ™

Forever in my Heart.

Belinda xo

Kid Free Zone

Kid Free Zone

Hi guys,

We celebrated my husband’s birthday recently which also happen to land on Valentine’s Day ๐Ÿ™‚


Over a month earlier we had organised a night away from the kids.

This was a mini holiday where we left our 3yo and 1yo with my parents for the night and they played with Aunty, Uncle and their cousins.

So what did hubby and I do?

We went to see the soulful songstress Lauryn Hill featuring hiphop artist Nas.


Wandered around the city and Crown.

Shopped at DFO South Wharf.

Shopped again at Highpoint.

It took us back to our teenage/high school years.

Out late on a school night (Wed night) and no responsibilities (for a short while).

Weย felt like teenagers again ๐Ÿ˜‰


It was our first time to Sidney Myer Music Bowl and it was a great venue!

Outdoor, grassy hill and seated area closer to the action.

Not used to being out late we actually left early from the concert at 10:30pm because we both were getting tired.

Then on Valentine’s Day we found a spot in the City Laneways that serves Bulletproof coffee and keto friendly food.

Had breakfast there with Leki’s Mum.

I then had the chance to check in with the kids and see how they were holding up at Nana and Poppy’s house.


I was happy to hear that they were behaving and having a great time. They didn’t even miss Mama and Daddy ๐Ÿ™‚

After breakfast weย made our way to DFO South Wharf for a bit of shopping then on dropped into Highpoint Shopping Centre.

Date night was a success and we thoroughly enjoyed ourselves but it’s funny when you’re looking forward to have a break from the kids and then you end up talking about them!

Strange isn’t it…


Looking forward to the next date night.

We a little something planned in May which we’ll talk about later ๐Ÿ˜‰

THANK YOU to my parents, my sisters and nieces and nephews who looked after my 2 little munchkins while I was out reliving my youth!

I hope you have nice date nights to recharge the batteries and to keep the flame burning bright.

Happy Lovers Day for Thursday!

With love,


Belinda xo

[UPDATE] Child Development

[UPDATE] Child Development

Hi guys,

Today I thought I would revisit this post from Oct 2018 – read about it HERE.

It documents how my 2 x kids are developing.

Our daughter Emelina will be 4yo very soon and our son Kyneton recently turned 1yo!

Kyneton is 13 months old



Ky’s sleep is now more regular. He wakes at 5am and he hangs out with my hubby Leki who likes getting up early (lucky me!).

His first nap is around 10am and then again at 3pm.

He averages around 1 hour of nap time in which gives me a chance to rest up and sleep or to finish any tasks at hand.

We have been successful in having Ky in his own crib and in his own room since he was 7 months old.

Read about how we did that – HERE.


Body Movements

He’s walking!

Only a couple of steps confidently although he does wobble around a little bit ๐Ÿ™‚

We celebrated his birthday at Geelong and soon after his party he started taking some steps the next few days and weeks after!

We’re so happy!

Ky was not a crawler and only started at around 9-10 months although we had him on plenty of tummy time (he was NOT a fan!) and sometimes in the baby walker for short periods of time.

Now that’s he’s up and running… we’ll have to keep an even closer eye on the little man ๐Ÿ˜‰

Spatial Awareness

Ky is very adventurous and is not afraid to crawl around the house and down the long hallways independently.

If the rest of the family are in the lounge room watching TV it’s not uncommon that Ky would disappear into the kitchen or other parts of the house for a little while before resurfacing with a cheeky grin on his face ๐Ÿ™‚

If he’s gone for longer then 5 minutes or he’s been ultra quiet then either Leki or I go and investigate what he’s up to.


He’s very interested in tissue paper and toilet paper at the moment and if w’re not careful I’ve seen my lipstick, toothbrushes and toys down the toilet. (So now all toilet bowl seats are closed LOL).

Unfortunately Ky has had a few falls and knocks as he wondering around on his feet.

He has a few bumps on his head and his worst fall was off the arm rest of the couch. Luckily he landed on a soft toy which cushioned his landing but he got a big fright and burst into tears.

We’ve since observed that he’s very careful being off the ground like if he’s on the couch, on a bed or being sat on a bench. We think we has a better understanding of depth now and has learnt that a fall from a height is painful ๐Ÿ˜‰


This boy can eat anything.

We have him on formula when he wakes up and when he’s due to go to sleep at the end of the day.

Other then that he has main meals with us and eats was we eat.

The only thing is that I tend to ‘Mama’ his food. That is, I chew his food and mash it up and then I feed it to Ky. Kinda like a seagull ๐Ÿ˜‰

He eats our pre-prepped meal plans, enjoys the sweet treats, drinks water like a champion, enjoys some take away with us and is very fond of ice cream ๐Ÿ™‚

The only thing he doesn’t like?


That sucks because that’s our go to breakfast.

So what does he have? Sometimes, 1 x Weetbix or some porridge with chia seeds, milk and banana.


Ky is a boy’s boy.

He crashes into things and likes to hear the boom bash of things making loud noises.

We are very patient with his curiosity and the only time we’ll intervene is if he’s going to break something or if it’s dangerous!

We also believe in discipline.

Firm discipline.

If little Ky doesn’t understand by the tone of our voice that he’s in trouble and needs to listen then he gets a little flick on the back of his hand.

What sort of flick?

Imagine you’re play marbles and you flick your thumb to launch the marble forward.

Same thing only with the middle finger.

It can be quite forceful and painful but Ky gets the message ๐Ÿ˜‰

Ky is very good with picking up the tone in our voices now so he very well knows when he’s in trouble!

Emelina is 4yo (almost)!



I’ve started added a nap into Emelina’s routine.

When Ky goes down around 3pm I take Eme down too and we have a nap to recharge the batteries.

This is helpful as we are heading towards 3 x half days for her Montessori School.

By the end of the year we hope to increase her to 4 x half days.

The daily nap helps her and ME recover adequately to see out the day with good energy ๐Ÿ™‚

Overnight Eme is our dream child.

She may have a few little things that causes her to be scared to begin with but then we encourage her to be a big girl and after her nightly prayers she closes her eyes and falls asleep around 7:30PM most nights.

She’s such a blessing!


Spatial Awareness/Gymnastics

Eme has graduated to the next class of her gymnastics school!

There are some older kids in her class and although it’s early in the year it’s good to see her training with them.

Just like her Montessori School there is an age range of 4-6yo in her gym class.

There are some kids in her class who are soย  athletic already! Their little bodies are so flexible, strong and fluid that it’s amazing to see the potential of what Emelina could develop into if she is consistent.

So proud of her effort so far I hope she continues to enjoy it!


Eme is talking back to me. Not so much Leki but she’s definitely testing the boundaries.

At school and at gymnastics she struggles to take turns and always wants to be first!

As we understand it can be completely normal and developmental issue.

It’s interesting for us as parents because we choose NOT to intervene when Emelina is being pushy.


Emelina needs to learn from her peers that it’s not appreciated.

There will be an older child who will just tell her it’s not on.

Or Eme will see that she’s made another child upset make her want to change her behaviour.

It’s really hard for me to stand by and watch her cause a disturbance but I believe it will help her own development.

It’s even harder when other Mums or parents are looking at me disapprovingly BUT I am not a helicopter parent.

I don’t mind if my kids fall over and get hurt.

I don’t worry if there’s a chance that my child will get fingers caught in the drawer.

I like watching Eme climb ladders and play in the local playground without having her need me to help her.

I am trying to teach her to be resilient and self sufficient.

In the real world we feel pain, we get disappointed and come second or last.

What matters is how you bounce back and learn from those failures.

I love my kids but I’m not always going to be there to cushion their fall.


So looking ahead for the next 12 months I would like to tell you of our intentions.

School and Gymnastics for all our children will be mandatory.

Then every 6 months we will look to introduce new things for the kids to try.

It may be an learning instrument, scouts, nippers, sport or drama. Whatever may take their fancy but we are not looking at letting them be lazy on school holidays. Especially in the final years of primary school leading into high school!

From Term 1-2 we are looking to put our kids into local swimming classes.

Then from Term 3-4 we are looking at entering Eme into my friend’s Hawaiian dance group – Nuholani.

More news to come as I look to keep you updated on how the kids are going every 6 months or so.

This is helpful because it reminds me how quickly they grow and what little time I have with them before they’re too cool for Mum and Dad ๐Ÿ˜‰

I hope you enjoyed this post.

With love,

Belinda xo

Welcome Back To School!

Welcome Back To School!

Hi guys.

I’d like to revisit this post from last year. Read about it – HERE.


I wrote about tearful parents saying goodbye to their kids as they return to school for the new calendar year!

Traditionally, after the Australia Day public holiday is when children and parents are gearing up to returning back to school!

For parents, it can be a time of relief… FINALLY I can send them back so I can have some time back for myself.

For kids, it can also be a time of relief… I remember sitting at home waiting to go back to school because I was sooo bored at home ๐Ÿ˜‰

For new kids at school, it can be a time of excitement and anxiety.


My nephew is starting Prep at his local Primary school and I can see him smiling ear to ear brimming with pride in his fresh school uniform.

My little Emelina returned to school yesterday although it’s 4yo School it’s a big upgrade for us!

She’s gone from 2 x half days to 3 and can potentially go to 4 x half days depending on how she goes.

Plus we’ve decided to continue her development at our local Montessori School.

So why have we put in Emelina back in Montessori?

Because Leki and I believe in the philosophy. Please take the time to read below from our school website:


Emelina is in herย first plane of development and is in Cycle 1 amongst 3yo-6yo.

We have observed that this is great for her development as she’s one of the ‘younger’ kids in the class she’sย pulled up by the older kids in some of their habits and they shape the way she learns.


For example – think about that time when you were young and impressionable and you had older siblings or cousins that you hung around. You thought they were so cool and taught you interesting things. You wanted to learn more about what they were showing you that you followed your natural curiosity toย learn.

Another benefit we’ve observed is that although Eme prefers to hang out with the older kids she can help the smaller and younger kids. That’s all part of the plan.

Another example – imagine you are hanging out with your younger sibling or cousin. They look at you wide eyed and astonished with everything that you do! So as the thoughtful older sibling you would try and explain things in simple terms, or gently show them a way of doing things that easy or just be more gentle with them.

We are proud that Emelina is enjoying her education experience.

But, she’s far from being an angel.

Eme likes being first.

First in the line for an activity.

First to demonstrate something.

First to eat at snack time.


She’s learning to take turns and understand that we all have a turn in the ‘spotlight’. It’s not really the concept of sharing it’s more about understanding there’s a time and place to be competitive.

It’s ok to be second is the lesson she’s trying to learn!

Well that’s my little update on Eme’s education experience.

Little note – we’ve entered our 1yo Kyneton to Nido (pre-school/’nesting’) class for a 1hr supervised session per week. It’s really about getting him in another environment with some specialised play.

More on him down the track!

Not looking forward to being one of the tearful Mothers saying goodbye to the kids heading off to school full time ๐Ÿ™‚


With love,

Belinda xo

Australia Day

Australia Day

Hi guys,

Today is an appreciation post.

Yeodene, VIC

I live in Australia with my Family in the city of Melbourne.

There are so many things that I am grateful for.

The clean air I breathe, the smooth roads we drive on, the standard of living, opportunities for work, support services and technology available and having my extended Family around me that are easily accessible.

Forcing a smile before pool time ๐Ÿ˜‰

Australia Day is a time where I spend it with my loved ones.

It also reminds me of how lucky I am to celebrate life here in Australia.

It could have been so different.

Father Peter O’Toole was very warm and welcoming

I could have been born in the Islands where my Mother is from.

Although it is a happy place it is still a third world country.

Tonga was dubbed the ‘Friendly Islands’ by Captain James Cook on his passage through the South Pacific Ocean and yes it is a friendly place to visit but compared to Australia… well there isn’t any comparison.

Ky is not happy in the water ๐Ÿ™

Don’t get me wrong.

I’m proud of my heritage and the culture and customs that come with it.

But let me be clear – I’m Australian first and Tongan second.

Proudly Australian but of Tongan descent.


I spent the Australia Day weekend with my husband Leki’s family at an AirBnb in Yeodene (almost 1 hour inland from Geelong).

We shared stories, made new memories and made time to be together.

We’ll look ahead with great energy and see what 2019 holds for us!

Plenty of surprises I’m sure ๐Ÿ˜‰

Happy days!

I hope you had a great long weekend and spent some time being grateful for how good we really have it.

With love,

Belinda xo