Babysitters, Au Pairs and Aunties

Babysitters, Au Pairs and Aunties

Hi Mamas!

Did you have a babysitter when you were growing up? Or did you have an older cousin, auntie or relative stay with you and your Family?

I had a couple of Aunties stay with us over different periods of time.

At the time being a young girl I thought it was fun to have more people around to play with.

But as I got older and now being a Mum I now understand that the Family that stayed with us actually helped my parents in looking after me and my sisters.

My younger sisters and Auntie Lita

This is very common in Pacific Island culture as we can offer relatives in the Islands to come to Australia to help. It also benefits them as they get to travel overseas and see an opportunity to stay in Australia.

Special shout out to my Aunties – Liz, Tai, Moli and Lita who helped raise my sisters and I 🙂

Some Australian Families may not have that support and so they may try a service like hiring a Babysitter or trying a cultural exchange like Au Pairs. (Au pair is a foreign young person who helps with cleaning and babysitting in exchange for food, a room and pocket money).

This is a challenge that couples will face as their families grow especially if both Mum and Dad decide to keep working.

In our particular case we chose to have Mum stay home full time and Dad work.

That choice means that I’ll be responsible for a lot of the home duties and everything that comes with it.

But at times it nice to have help like when my Mum stays with me over the weekend, or if we have a Family celebration and when my sisters visit with their kids and we head off to the local playground!

Auntie Moli and my cousins!

As you know baby #3 is on the way and I will be relying more on the things that make me feel happy and healthy!

Often I think about how we used to live as a community.

We lived together in the ‘Village’.

The ‘Village’ could mean anything to you.

It could be the sleepy village on a rolling hill in England, the mud brick house in Africa, the shack in Vietnam or the open walled fale (house) in the Pacific Islands.

Today the Village appears more and more ‘disconnected’.


We’re rushing to meet deadlines, pay bills for things we don’t need, chase appointments, snap the perfect selfies, respond to the social media notification, rush through your day, no ‘time’ to do important things…. the list goes on.

Auntie Tai, Mum and my younger sister

How about pausing long enough to enjoy the smile of the stranger who greets you? The stories of old neighbours of how things used to be? Volunteering to help someone in need?

The Village in Tonga has the whole community to help each other.

The Village supports the families by cooking meals together, spending time with each other, Women are upheld as important child bearers, Men are respected as hunters and protectors and we live happily together.

Doesn’t that sound awesome?

It also sounds like from a time long long ago!

But no, this still happens today.

When I visited Tonga last year I felt the same connection.

Travelling to Bali and getting out of the big city I saw that people live a simple happy life. Having been to Fiji people can live in a corrugated iron shack but they’re happy.

Hubby Leki and I in Bali 🙂

As we prepare for Baby #3 I’m mindful that the environment we chose to raise our kids should be one like the ‘Village’.

We’ll eat together, laugh and cry together, support and love each until we’re all connected again in our new Australian ‘Village’.

With love,

Belinda xo

How To Avoid Stretch Marks & Swollen Ankles… My 2nd Trimester Update!

How To Avoid Stretch Marks & Swollen Ankles… My 2nd Trimester Update!

Hi guys,

This is an update on my 3rd pregnancy.

I think it’s important to evaluate how and what I’m doing as an individual plus as a family to ensure baby is nice and healthy.

All smiles!

My last blog post on this topic details how my 1st Trimester was going.

I’m now nearing the end of my 2nd Trimester and I would like to review this stage of the ‘race’.

We had our 24 week check up at the new Joan Kirner Hospital in Sunshine and they’re monitoring my chances of developing pre-eclampsia.

Let me say that the new facilities at Sunshine Hospital is very flash and I’m so happy to be giving birth in such vibrant surroundings.

Let me continue the main themes throughout my pregnancy:

  1. Pain
  2. Energy
  3. Self care

1. Pain

In comparing to my other 2 x pregnancies this continues to be the smoothest pregnancy so far!

I have very little stretch marks, my feet are not swollen and I have the energy to get around my day without being too uncomfortable.

With that being said, my stomach has jumped out a lot more and it can be ‘in the way’ when I’m doing things around the house.

The other day I was folding and washing clothes and I went to get up like I normally do but I struggled and had to rock and roll myself up onto my feet 🙂


To minimise my pain I have been very mindful of the food I choose to eat.

We subscribe to a low inflammatory diet strategy where we avoid sugar, grainy carbohydrates and focus on having great sleep.

The net result of all this effort and discipline is no pregnancy pain!

I continue to be in the best shape weight wise.

I continue to be in the best mood and maintain a positive outlook.

The choices I’ve made food and well being wise we believe has resulted in our ‘best’ pregnancy to date.

NOTE: Leki bought and read a book from one of his mentors – Dave Asprey called “The Better Baby Book“.

The lessons in this book is what we’ve followed in the lead up to this pregnancy.

Highly recommend!

2. Energy

I’m 5 months pregnant and I am responsible for running my household.

My husband works full time and I’m at home full time providing a nurturing environment for our little family.

In order to maintain a high level of performance my husband Leki and I need to make sure we are ok as individuals and strong as a couple.

He is responsible for a lot of the health strategies we follow from all the research and science he reads and tests on himself.


He is not only someone I lean on when I have weaker moments but also makes me feel special when I’ve achieved goals.

I also do my bit by pulling him up to our standard when he has his weaker moments!

As you can probably tell – we are very big on trying to eat well 80% of the time so that when we have our naughty meals on the other 20% it doesn’t impact our health as it used to.

If you have time I would recommend you research the ‘cyclic ketogenic diet’ which is the style of eating that we follow that enables the metabolic state of ketosis.

If we are good on the 5 working days then a couple of naughty meals on the weekend won’t hurt us aka ‘cheat meals’.

Keeps us happy and sane!

To get an idea of my meals check it out below which can alternate:


  • Low carb Toast + avocado, tomato and cheese
  • Porridge, banana and raw honey
  • Egg + baby spinach, asparagus, avocado and butter
  • Smoothie = cacao powder, chia seeds, flax seeds, banana, MCT oil, almonds and coconut water


  • Bone broth soup + vegetables
  • Organic minced beef + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Wild caught salmon + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Organic chicken + boiled vegs (carrot, sweet potato, zucchini and broccoli)
  • Take away – Pizza, McDonald’s, KFC


  • Rice cakes + butter
  • Dark choc bombs = 70% dark choc (from Aldi), cacao powder, chia seeds, almonds, coconut oil and pitted dates. Blended and then left to set in the fridge
  • Tim Tams/crackers
  • Fruit = strawberries, blackberries, raspberries, banana, grapes, peaches and pears
  • Water and coconut water

I also supplement with Blackmore’s Pregnancy Gold for Pregnancy and Breastfeeding every morning with my breakfast.

The Doctor has also recommended I take aspirin while I’m pregnant to minimise the chance of pre-eclampsia.

3. Self Care

Apart from happiness and food – one of the biggest return on investment is sleep.

In terms of self care – sleep is no. 1 for us.

You know yourself when you’ve had a poor nights sleep the next day is like a nightmare.

You’re a zombie.

That’s why we’ve placed a huge emphasis on getting the kids into their own room early and getting them to self soothe.

Our 16mo Kyneton is out of the cot and in his little big boy bed.

He needs me to nurse him to sleep (he’s the thumb sucker looking for comfort).

Once he’s asleep he’s pretty good at sleeping all the way through for 8-9 hours with a few little grizzles in between but we mostly leave him to self soothe.

Our 4yo Emelina is a superstar sleeper.

Sleeps over 9-10 hours consistently.

Both kids are in their own room.

5 months pregnant + my ankles are still bony!

Now you can imagine with a newborn due to join us – the last thing I would want to be is cranky with the kids because I’m not getting the rest I need.

Especially with the age gap of around 20 months between new baby and baby #2.

Sleep has to be a priority!

Another measure to improve your self-care is a regular break.

Leki and I returned from a Babymoon trip to Bali recently and it was a God send 🙂

We were like teenagers again although I couldn’t boogie as I’d would have love to.

A few breaks have been planned for the rest of 2019 and the first half of 2020!

Gives us something to look forward to as we battle through the weeks ahead!

Lastly, I’ve have been tracking my weight gain to keep an eye on the numbers.

Pre-baby I was around 71kgs comfortably.

Sunshine Hospital

I’m now 5 months pregnant and I weigh 81kgs.

My goals is to only put on 15kgs with this pregnancy and I will document my 3rd weight loss journey post baby!

Review my past game plan for safe and effective weight loss – HERE.

5 months along and we’re going really well.

But… Let me tell you a little secret.

We’re going to try and qualify for a ‘water birth‘.

We are still conducting some more research on this and what we need to do to prepare but if I do develop pre-eclampsia then I’ll automatically ruled out.

With the new facilities at Sunshine Hospital I think it’ll be a great experience and my basic understanding is that it is a lot easier for labouring Mum’s and less stressful for baby.

More to talk about here next time! 😉

Have a great day.

My sisters and Aunty 🙂


Belinda xo

Food & Sick Kids

Food & Sick Kids

Hi guys,

The struggle is real with how to feed my kids when they can be picky with their food.

“Eat your broccoli”

That’s what my parents used to tell me.

Then I would try and hide the vegetables under other scraps on my plate and try and look for the exit.

Soon my Mum or Dad would notice the veges that were poorly hidden and then I was forced to sit at the table until everything was eaten.

I’m sure you can relate to this scene in your own upbringing.

But, now the tables have turned.

I need to raise my own kids to ‘Eat Their Damn Broccoli” 🙂

Funny how life serves you justice…

When our children eat what we eat and when we eat sometimes I wonder whether ketosis is okay for kids.

To give you an idea of what we eat I’d already posted a big chain of blogs – HERE and HERE.

My older child Eme (4yo) goes 4-6 hours without eating and our food strategy helps ‘turn off’ their hunger so they can focus, read and play. (She knows that at Nana and Poppy’s house there are heaps of snacks but we don’t stress too much over that!)

Kids, because they’re growing, need a lot of energy.

We believe what you eat is important because it gives you the best form of energy!

I’m not a doctor, and you should consult one if you’re worried, but in my experience my 4yo daughter does well on a low-carb, moderate protein & high-fat diet, and she’s probably in ketosis at times.

My little guy (1yo) is eating 80% of what we eat. He only struggles in the morning as he doesn’t like eggs… yet 🙂


Here’s a great blog post from Dave Asprey that we like and I’d like to discuss the main points:

  1. Use Superhero Language – something that makes sense to them
  2. Be Firm At Dinnertime
  3. Make Bulletproof Versions Of Favourite Meals
  4. Cook With Your Kids
  5. Be Grateful

Use Superhero Language

In trying to encourage the kids to eat what want Leki and I sell the idea that it will give them energy to have fun at School or train at Gymnastics.

It gives them the impression that if they don’t eat then they won’t have the energy to have fun.


Works pretty well although we don’t have to used this strategy that often.

We started Eme (4yo) on our food strategy when she was about 18 months and she’s never looked back.

She rarely gets sick, has plenty of energy throughout the day and sleeps over 10 hours every night. We’re blessed!

Be Firm At Dinner Time

This is our ‘go to’ strategy.

If the Emelina (4yo) doesn’t eat what we give her then we send her to bed without eating anything.

We are firm that what we have cooked for them was made with love and that we wouldn’t give them something to eat that we wouldn’t eat ourselves.

It’s almost an “up to you” situation which encourages them to make a decision.

Eat and be happy or be unhappy and go without food overnight.

It won’t kill them to go hungry for a little while.

After a couple of days of dinner time stubbornness we’ve found that she fall in line pretty quickly.

Intermittent fasting for a 4yo 😉


Again, with Kyneton our 16mo, we are extending him a little more time but around 18-20mo we will also encourage our strict dinner time routine.

We believe building Bulletproof kids requires a loving firmness which will build their resilience.

Make Bulletproof Versions of Favourite Meals

This is our second go to strategy.

Whatever your favourite meal may be we substitute with another handy paleo/Bulletproof product.

Rice? Nope… Zoodles or spiralised zucchini.

Chocolate? We recommend making Cacao chocolate bombs.

Brownies? Try pitted date brownies.


Toast and omelette? Maybe sub in sunny side eggs, avocado, butter, asparagus and baby spinach.

Chocolate and biscuits? Fruits and nuts are always friendly.

Plan flour and sugar? Try almond flour or coconut flour and stevia.

Plenty of healthier substitutes you just need to keep digging and research 😉

Cook With Your Kids

On occasion I cook with the kids mainly for a bit of fun for also so they understand the process it takes to prepare a meal.

In the morning Leki and Ky prepares breakfast. So when he’s lightly pan frying eggs Ky sees the process.

On weekends Leki makes pancakes and Eme often helps with cracking eggs and mixing the bowl.

It can be messy but more often it about the trial and error.

Once upon a time Eme really struggled with cracking eggs.

She didn’t have the right mixture of light handling and controlled force to break the egg shell.

Over time she has become a lot more confident in cracking eggs.

Now, our 4yo Eme can prepare fruit and cut the stem from strawberries for the family.

We’re so proud of her!

Be Grateful

Lastly we share things with the kids so they can understand how lucky they are.

If our 4yo was clumsy and spilt a cup of water. We often ask her to be careful and we don’t refill the cup of water.

She complains and asks why she can’t have more water.

We reply: “You need to be more careful Eme because some kids just like you don’t have water like you do”.

She usually cries trying to understand what’s happening.

Regardless, we stay firm and don’t replenish her cup.

She learns the lesson of disappointment and dealing with her actions.

Other times, if she’s not listening or misbehaving, we take something away from her that she loves.

We often keep her from her Montessori school or we threaten not to take her to swimming or gymnastics.

These aren’t empty threats.

Once we load the chamber we need to fire the bullet otherwise future threats/’negotiations’ are worthless.

We are reinforcing this feeling of disappointment so she understands things shouldn’t be taken for granted and that she should be grateful.

Ky gets off scott free… for the moment 🙂

BONUS! HERE are some Bulletproof sugar-free snacks for kids!


Love ya work Mama!

With love,

Belinda xo

I Know Nothing About Vaccinations!?

I Know Nothing About Vaccinations!?

Hi guys.

To be honest I sit on the fence with vaccinations.

But I can tell you that we are up to date with our vaccinations and booster shots.

Our 4yo daughter is about to have another round of vaccinations and our 1yo will have another round of shots when he’s 18 months.

Plus I’m needing some injections for my 3rd pregnancy (in the 2nd trimester now).

Mar 2016 – Eme’s 1yo vaccination injection

It’s a bit of a controversial topic for families but this is something I’ve been thinking and talking about with my husband Leki.

Parents only want the best for their children.

If you’ve been reading my blog entries then you’d know that Health is one of our top priorities.

So why am I interested about vaccinations now?

A lot of it comes from misinformation.

I know social media is not the best source of information and sometimes closely held facts can be challenged.

For example cocaine was a common medical prescription once upon a time in the 1800s.

At the time it was thought to be helpful in soothing pain. Much later it was found to be dangerous and had to be regulated as a narcotic drug.

So in this case something was thought to be helpful and then after some time and research – the opposite was found. It was harmful.Cocaine_for_kids

Then there are cases of the opposite.

Look at all the recent developments with medical marijuana and CBD oil for disease.

Something was once thought to be harmful and now through research is showing positive benefits.

And this is where I am at the moment.

What are we being told and what are we open to exploring further?

I’m not completely ruling out vaccinations all together but I think my family needs to ask more questions about what’s in it and how it actually helps?

We could be in a cocaine situation where vaccinations are thought to be helpful but end up being harmful.

Or we could be in a medicinal marijuana situation where something thought of as dangerous is actually beneficial.

My little girl 🙂

This is why we sit on the fence.

At the moment we appear healthy and happy and as I mentioned we are up to date with all vaccinations. Adults, toddlers and newborns in our little family.

But some healthy scepticism remains.

Here are some of the places where we will be getting our information:



For now we will continue to vaccinate our kids and say up to date until we feel otherwise.

Will update you in the next 6 months!

With love,

Belinda xo

Who’s Your Favourite Child

Who’s Your Favourite Child

Hi guys.

Had this thought during the Easter weekend and it is something I’d like to explore.

Who is My Favourite child?

I only have 2 kids with number 3 due to arrive in Sept 🙂

Why did this thought come to me?

Because I am one of 4 girls in my own immediate family.

Mum 4yo | Emelina 3yo

My parents spent the most time with me before my older sister joined us from Tonga and there’s an 8 year gap between me and my younger sister.

So those 8 years would be special for my parents and I because I was their sole focus.

I’m not saying I’m the favourite child but I think there’s time there where I was all there was.

Then my younger sisters came along and then my older sister joined us.

My parents had to divide their attention equally among us.

The only thing I see though is that I got an 8 year head start 😉

My little team

When I look at my own Family I would say that I treat my 4yo daughter differently from my 1yo son.

I love them both… so much.

There was almost 3 years from baby #1 to baby #2.

I had more one-on-one time with Emelina and Leki and I got invested in everything we did together with her.

I’m spending that same amount of time with Ky but I’ve found it’s not as deep given that I have to divide my time up.

And with a new one coming to join us in September this will become even more apparent with dividing my time among them.

There will be 18 months between baby #2 and baby #3.

Leki and I are trying to have 5 kids God willing and so the time we give to each of them is important and something we think about a lot.

Mama | Emelina | Kyneton

I’m not sure if I favour my oldest child Emelina but I must admit everything we go through with her is ‘new’.

With the younger lot we’ve already been through tears, diapers, school and sport.

I think it’s exciting doing and experiencing things for the first time and that is special in it’s own way.

Regardless of how it appears or how we deal with adding to the Family – we love each of our kids unconditionally!

The adventure continues…

With love,


Belinda xo

Caravan trip for 2 weeks

Caravan trip for 2 weeks

Hi guys,

I’d like to share with you some things we have planned for the future.

I’ve written in the past about how we like to have regular but small trips to keep us fresh.

In 2020 we plan to travel around country Victoria for 2 weeks with a little camper trailer.

Then we are looking to build up towards a 3 month trip around coastal Australia in 2021.

Emelina will be 6yo. Kyneton will be 3yo and Baby #3 will be 1yo.

Perfect timing!

2017 – Emelina and Nana at Big 4 Coburg

Then in 2022 we want to spend 6 months travelling around Australia.

Eventually we plan to travel around Australia for 1 whole year! This will be when the kids are still in primary school and want to hang around Mum and Dad.

There’ll be a time where they’ll prefer to hang out with their friends rather then their family on school holidays.

So we would like to book them in before they’re too cool 😉

Here are some of the places I’d like to see around our beautiful country:

  • The Murray River
  • The NSW Central Coast from Merrimbula to Byron Bay
  • The Red Centre – Uluru/Alice Springs
  • Sunshine Coast
  • Far North Queensland
  • Coastal Western Australia

Plus many many more!

A benefit of being a Big 4 member is that there are plenty of places around Australia where we can dock our camper trailer in a cheaper site with shower and cooking amenities available.

Bbq at the Big 4 caravan park

Looking forward to documenting the trips ahead and here are some families that I’m following:

Hope you have a great day.

With love,


Belinda xo

KonMari & Me

KonMari & Me

Hi guys,

It’s now Autumn and the closet clean out has commenced!

Funny how all the old items lying around becomes such a struggle to giveaway/throw away when you’re faced with actually throwing it away.

When we relocated from Kyneton to Gisborne last year I wrote about how the KonMari Method helped me with decluttering.

Here is a short overview of what Marie Kondo is about:

I have packed most of my Summer clothes away and pulled out my winter clothes from the shed.

I’ve also been dealing with the kids toys because there is so much of it and so little time that they’re actually being used.

We send out kids to our local Montessori school and we have a dedicated simple space for the kids to play.

We are transferring their lessons and environment from School and mirroring those lesson at home.

We are now actively asking friends and family not to buy toys for birthdays and celebrations because it will just to a waster of money. I’m not wanting to sound ungrateful but being honest helps everyone 🙂

So what is the KonMari Method?

It’s a state of mind – and a way of life – that encourages cherishing the things that spark joy in one’s life. Belongings are acknowledged for their service – and thanked before being let go, should they no longer spark joy.

In my last post about this topic in June 2018 Leki and I gave away a lot of things that no longer sparked joy.

Leki struggled but parted ways with over 80% of his Rugby gear he had been collecting over the years. He donated the items to Tonga and forgot all about it.

Then, he saw photos on Facebook with young people in Tonga wearing his Rugby gear when I returned for my Grandma Taina’s funeral in Sept 2018.

It genuinely made him joyful!

Lastly, I have become more conscious with my shopping habits.

I seem to question any purchase for the home. Will I use and will it be worthwhile or will it just be parked in the closet ready to be KonMari’d 😉 down the tracked.

So as the mission of Marie Kondo suggests it is a ‘state of mind and a way of life…’

So I have been preparing for the cold Winter that’s due to arrive in the Macedon Ranges and I’ve written before how it can be 5 degrees cooler here then Melbourne.

There’s also another reason that I’ve dug out my stored clothes but more on that later 😉

How have you applied the KonMari Method in your life?

Have a great day.

With love,


Belinda xo


Australia Day

Australia Day

Hi guys,

Today is an appreciation post.

Yeodene, VIC

I live in Australia with my Family in the city of Melbourne.

There are so many things that I am grateful for.

The clean air I breathe, the smooth roads we drive on, the standard of living, opportunities for work, support services and technology available and having my extended Family around me that are easily accessible.

Forcing a smile before pool time 😉

Australia Day is a time where I spend it with my loved ones.

It also reminds me of how lucky I am to celebrate life here in Australia.

It could have been so different.

Father Peter O’Toole was very warm and welcoming

I could have been born in the Islands where my Mother is from.

Although it is a happy place it is still a third world country.

Tonga was dubbed the ‘Friendly Islands’ by Captain James Cook on his passage through the South Pacific Ocean and yes it is a friendly place to visit but compared to Australia… well there isn’t any comparison.

Ky is not happy in the water 🙁

Don’t get me wrong.

I’m proud of my heritage and the culture and customs that come with it.

But let me be clear – I’m Australian first and Tongan second.

Proudly Australian but of Tongan descent.


I spent the Australia Day weekend with my husband Leki’s family at an AirBnb in Yeodene (almost 1 hour inland from Geelong).

We shared stories, made new memories and made time to be together.

We’ll look ahead with great energy and see what 2019 holds for us!

Plenty of surprises I’m sure 😉

Happy days!

I hope you had a great long weekend and spent some time being grateful for how good we really have it.

With love,

Belinda xo

[UPDATE] ‘Project Breastfeeding’ (Pt.3)

[UPDATE] ‘Project Breastfeeding’ (Pt.3)

Hello everyone.

Today I’d like to update my “Project Breastfeeding” post from Part 1 – Mar 28 2018 and the following update Part 2 on Aug 9 2018.

Those blog posts were when my baby was 3 months (Mar 2018) and 7 months (Aug 2018).

This will be my last update on this topic as I’m almost running out of breast milk.

Plus the timing is perfect!


Today is Kyneton‘s 1st birthday 🙂

Yep that’s right – I pushed this little boy into the world on this day at around 10:20pm last year.

What a New Year gift! (We’ll celebrate his birthday later in the month)

Welcome to “Team Sisifa” Ky in 2018!

So reviewing my breastfeeding journey I wrote in my first post that I struggled with regular comfort feeding at night and nipple soreness/blisters.

Those nipple creams were a life saver!

It was then a process of getting into a routine with little Kyneton’s feeding routine.

I first set out to breast feed Ky for 1 year after a lot of lessons learnt from my first child Eme (3yo).

I was only able to breast feed for 6 months with Eme and this time I really wanted to go for as long as I can.

My husband Leki and I researched what we could do to achieve this 1 year goal.

A lot of our research pointed toward being healthy.

That meant eating well, plenty of water, physical exercise and reducing stress! Seems pretty simple when you say it out loud but it’s another story when you try and apply it in your daily routine.

After a lot of educated trial and error I found a great routine within the first 4 months of constant breast feeding.

I went all the way with complete breastfeeding without topping up with formula.

That’s until I noticed Ky preferred my R breast and as a result my L breast didn’t produce as much milk after 4 months.

By 7 months my L breast stopped completely. The R breast was still going very strong though 😉

I continued to breastfeed solid for 10 months when I decided to top up with formula at night – as I couldn’t produce enough breast milk alone plus we had already started introduced some fluids at 5-6 months then solids at 8 months.

At 11 months I began weaning off the breast and he was running on 3-4 bottles of formula per day and eating solid food comfortably with his daily meals.

What’s my formula of choice?

I like Bellamy’s Organic brand.

Ky likes it too 🙂


So this is a happy but sad post.

My son is growing and thriving to the point that I’m in my last moments of breastfeeding.

I’ve gone through the process of carrying him inside me for 9 months, then having him attached to me for regular feeding and now I feel like I’m releasing him into the wild to fend for himself 🙁 LOL

This “Project Breastfeeding” post was aimed to document my progress with 1 year of that mother-son connection.

An additional benefit is that I can share with you what helped me get through the year.

My biggest take away to continue to product milk is to be happy and healthy.

Cliche but it’s the truth!

Worked for me 🙂

Who knows if we have baby #3 at some point I might try and aim for 2 years of breastfeeding.

We’ll see.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this journey with me and thank you for keeping me accountable to my goal.

On to the next one.


With love,

Belinda xo

Planning for Baby

Planning for Baby

Hi guys,

This is a true story and it’s a little bit scary for me to share.

We thought we’d have babies easily when we started planning for a family.

We tried for 18 months before we were successful.

Let me start at the very beginning.

Leki and I started dating in September 2007 and got married on November 2011.

We were both 26 years old.

Our 1st year anniversary in 2008

Those 4 years from 2007 to 2011 we discussed all things that young excited couples dream about.

Where we would like to live, buying our first home, holidays, looking forward to events and parties and when we would eventually have children.

We decided to enjoy ourselves as a couple for a few years before having kids… that was the master plan.

So for 5 years we were working away until we started to talk more seriously about kids.

We didn’t feel any pressure from family or compete with friends.

None of that.

We felt like we were in a ‘comfortable’ spot now to start trying.

It was November 2012 and we’d been married for 1 year.

We thought this would be a perfect time for me to stop working and concentrate on the next stage of our lives.

We couldn’t conceive for 18 months.

So after a lot of tough times Emelina finally arrived in March 2015.

When it was time to think about baby no.2 it took 6 months!

Then little Kyneton arrived on January 2018.

Both times it was stressful to think that something might be wrong with me 🙁

2009 – Early days at my cousin’s wedding

So here are the main points I would like to share:

  1. Planning
  2. Basal Body Temperature
  3. Be Happy


We placed a big emphasis on whether we could afford to have children and maintain a decent lifestyle.

We’re not big spenders but we would like to be comfortable.

Working on our family income and making sure we did our numbers gave us a sense of security.

After a lot of thought we felt the time was right to start trying.

Looking back knowing what I know now, I would have probably started having a family earlier.


We put it off for material things or for the thought that there’s time down the line.

I was wrong.

There is nothing quite like having a family.

Regardless of all the things you may think or hear, once you have your own flesh and blood your world changes.

2014 – 6 months pregnant with Emelina

Basal Body Temperature

You want to know how we finally fell pregnant?

What worked for us was tracking my basal body temperature.

Digital basal thermometer cost about $15

Basically there’s a digital thermometer that can detect small changes in your core (basal) temperature.

Our family Doctor suggested using this device you can keep track of your small temperature changes.


The idea is to track when there’s a spike in your basal temperature which corresponds to the most fertile window of your menstrual cycle.

This is when you ovulate (the ovaries release a new egg).

I keep track of my menstrual cycle using an App which can help me determine when is the best time for some loving 😉

I used the Period Tracker which is free to download on Android or iOS.

Period Tracker works well!

So combined with the period app and tracking my basal temperature it gave me the best chance to fall pregnant.

So I had the thermometer next to me on the bedside table and it would be the first thing I do in the morning.

I’d then track the temperature everyday – you can use this table I found online belowchart2As you track your temperature you can see the trend of the readings and we decided to try on 3-5 days when I was most likely to conceive 😉

Be Happy

I can tell you that in the first 18 months of trying for baby #1 I was so stressed and scared that I might not be able to have kids.

I was in a really dark place because I had stopped working and was mostly at home. My self worth was very low 🙁

I was also thinking about my age and that I’m getting older (approaching 30) and my baby clock was ticking.

Looking back I think I was overthinking things and not looking after myself.

Thinking it would happen for us like a flick of a switch gave us a false sense of security.

I’m not saying I would have continued working while we tried to have a baby but I would have spent that time trying to improve myself.

Instead of feeling sorry for myself, eating poorly and blaming everything and everyone else.

If I had my time again I would have done these 3 things:

1. Start being healthy

Making better food choices, doing things that make me happy and regular exercise would have helped me get on the right path.

I started prioritising my health with Leki when we turned 30 after our daughter finally arrived. We should have done this much earlier!

If we had started getting healthy in our 20s I believe it would have helped our efforts to fall pregnant much quicker!

2. Try for a family earlier

Knowing what we know now we would have started a family earlier. 100%!

3. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself

Self explanatory.

I’ve been on a real crusade over the last 12 months to reduce my stress. It’s not something that you touch or feel but it’s something that you can measure by how happy you are.

Some stress is necessary to grow into a stronger person but excessive stress can be very unhealthy.

If I had my time again I would encourage that Belinda to do things that make you feel good about yourself.

2018 – Welcome to the family little Ky!

So there you have it.

18 months is not a long time for some couples who I know have been trying for years and YEARS and I acknowledge that that’s another level of stress that I cannot even comprehend.

All I can say is that I can understand the pressure that you’re under.

I’d be happy to talk with anyone who is struggling with family planning although I’m not a professional it’s more of a shoulder to lean on so we can compare notes!

I am absolutely blessed and appreciate all the good things that come out of tough challenges.

Stay strong Mama!

With love,


Belinda xo