Stay At Home Mum (Quarantine Life 2020 edition)

Stay At Home Mum (Quarantine Life 2020 edition)

Some of you Mamas who are a Stay at Home Mum have already been in isolation raising the kids at home πŸ˜‰

… but seriously, how are you keeping in this COVID19 environment we’ve found ourselves in?

I live with my Family in Victoria as a Stay At Home Mum and at the time of writing this post we are still in lock down v2.0 (after the earlier lock down v1.0 was unsuccessful here from mid-Mar to mid-May 2020).

Let’s try and stay ahead of the game Mamas and stick to the Government guidelines so we can get back to our Best Lives!

Despite the most recent troubles our Family celebrated two weddings recently!

One just before lock down and one during lock down – both my younger sisters!

So instead of focusing on all the negative drama I thought I’d go through some of the positives of being ‘stuck at home’ with my Family.

I’ll list the Top 3 reasons here:

  • Home Schooling (yes I think this is a good thing!)
  • Connecting with Family, video calling and spending time
  • Iso-tainment and organising the Family to be more efficient with routines

So let’s jump into each section πŸ˜€

Home Schooling (I think this is great!)

Our daughter is at our local Montessori School and in Cycle 1 which has children aged 4-7yo in the same class.

We were afraid that some of Eme’s reading, writing and behavioural development was lagging…

That was until covid19 hit and we we’re forced to home school for 2 weeks at the end of Term 2 and then another 4 weeks in Term 3 until they were allowed to return back to school.

Our typical day looked like 2-3 video classes and some home based activities driven by the school curriculum.

One big learning for me was using Microsoft Teams.

It was pretty straight forward by the end of it and the kids learnt some group video etiquette (which is worked in progress) 🀣

We also celebrated our 2yo being admitted in his first day at child care.

He did so well and like most of you who chose to be a Stay At Home Mum, you’re never completely sure if they’d ‘take’ to being away from home.

After some initial nerves, Ky did really well and when we returned to pick him up at the end of the day…

And he was trying to run away at continue playing in the sand pit.

I guess that was a success!

We started off being scared with allowing the kids to mix with technology but COVID19 forced us to review this.

The reality is… the world is heading towards more and more technology.

Plus home schooling involves tablets, Microsoft Teams and learning apps.

It was a situation of educating ourselves and reducing the fear and assumptions we placed on technology and tablet use.

Let’s just say we are aware but not afraid πŸ™‚

Something we’ll keep an eye on and review regularly.

Early on we used my phone to tap into the virtual classes until Nani and Papa bought Emelina her own tablet. Thank you 😘

Connecting with my Loved Ones

Being forced to stay home meant spending a lot of time with my Family which was a blessing in disguise.

Often we would make our way to a lot of the walking tracks around our village of Gisborne.

We are so lucky and fortunate.

Even now the recent lock down restrictions we sit slightly outside the lock down zone.

That means our local services, restaurants and schools are still open… for now (update: Level 4 restrictions have just been announced for Melbourne for 6 weeks and regional Victoria Level 3)

We revisited some local walking tracks, visited Trentham Falls and returned to Kyneton Botanical Gardens.

Other times we would call Family and friends on Zoom or Messenger to connect and check in on loved ones.

For that brief window when lock down lifted in May we welcomed my sister Kathy and Leki’s brother Veni to stay over on different occasions.

We were able to throw a little celebration for them as they missed out on a birthday party due to the quarantine challenges.

My little nephew also celebrated his birthday too and we were happy to have the Family for a nice little catch up.

Stay At Home Mum Iso-Tainment and Improved Family Routines

Improved routines has also been a additional benefit of quarantine.

We’ve found some things could be done in a better plus reviewed and celebrated what was working for us.

For example we have previously documented our routines like the Daily Routine and Wind Down routines.

Things have changed considerably since these last blog entries and I’ll do my best to update it with 3 x kids soon.

Long story short, we have the same processes in place it’s just with an added degree of difficulty.

Instead of changing one diaper it’s two at the one time. Instead of putting one down for a nap its two.

Good thing is that Kyneton (our 2yo) is increasing his days at childcare soon although it does make me sad as my kids are growing quickly.

Don’t worry I’m definitely holding on to them while they’e small and cuddly.

During Iso we were still able to send the kids off to school, childcare and participate at Gymnastics. But things are about to change and we’ll wait to hear what we can and can’t do.

Another great event during Iso was a “Friend In Me” home disco event.

Highly recommend this positive Mamas group as they hosted an awesome FREE event at home! Keep an eye out for their next online disco.

Eme has also taken to skating and explored our local skating ramp and half pipes.

She needs to work on her spider senses though. She was almost the reason why some of the other kids had mini-accidents 🀣

That’s my little Iso-Update Mama’s.

Regardless of your own situation being a Go To Work Mum, Work From Home Mum or Stay At Home Mum we’re on the same boat.

Doing our best to make our Houses a Home 🏠

Love you Mama πŸ’“

Vikki becomes Mrs. Cook

Vikki becomes Mrs. Cook

Hello Mamas,

Guess what?

The Wedding Cake

We celebrated an Iso-Wedding recently.

The Build Up

Yep that’s right, my sister Vikki decided to bring their wedding forward and celebrate it in May 2020.

At the time we were still in Lock Down from the COVID19 pandemic so we were limited with only 10 people at the Ceremony and 20 people after the Reception.

Vikki looked beautiful with make up done by the talented bride @VIPbeauty.melb 😁 and hair done by the glamourous Joesph Metusela aka @hairbyjuju.

Fortunately my parents have 2 x dwellings on their property so we could host 40 people at the Reception.

Big shout out to the guys at Events N Sisters who did a great job in setting up the double garage to an elegant Hampton’s feel for the decorations. Awesome work πŸ˜€

Shout out to the team at EventsNSisters

The day started off nicely with Vikki and her daughter and flower girl Bella getting ready at our Family home in Thomastown.

It was heartwarming to witness Vikki give Bella her gift and tell her that she will love her forever πŸ˜™

Love you Bella!

The Ceremony

From there we travelled to the Gateway To Glory Church in Braybrook for the Ceremony. As it goes with restrictions there were only 10 people that could witness the wedding. Luckily I made the cut!

The boys – Pita and Princeton got ready in the family home in Sunshine. I can imagine it was a lot easier to manage the wedding given the number of guests was limited as per the health restrictions. Despite that, we had a great time!

The page boy Princey

Soon after the Ceremony there were some opportunities to take some photos and family shots Congratulations Vikki & Pita!

After some family time we made our way back to Thomastown to the Family home for the Reception.

The Reception

Appreciate a lot of the work from people who helped with cooking the food and Siyonisound recording the special day.

After guests started to arrive and the food was served the Couple of the day arrived and entered the Reception.

One of the highlights of the Reception was a presentation organised by my sister Taina from people who send their well wishes and love from interstate and overseas.

Not many dry eyes in the room as Family from Sydney, Townsville, New Zealand, Tonga and USA sent their love.

Congratulations Vikki and Pita! Welcome to the Married Gang πŸ‘°

With love always.

Belinda xo

[Rewind] Birthday & Baptism Milestones

[Rewind] Birthday & Baptism Milestones

Hi guys,

This is another ‘Flashback’ blog post.

Today we would like to revisit our son Kyneton’s 2nd Birthday and our newborn Safaia’s Baptism

Ky’s birthday was on 3 January and again, I’ll present this in 3 parts:

Part 1 – Ky’s Geelong Party (Sat 4 Jan 2020)

Part 2 – Safaia’s Baptism (Sun 12 Jan 2020)

Part 3 – The Afterparty at Braybrook Hotel (Sun 12 Jan 2020)

Here we go!

Part 1 – Ky’s Geelong Party

We have a Family tradition for birthdays.

You get a pancake birthday cake on the morning of your birthday.

Even Mum & Dad πŸŽ‚πŸŽ‚


We sing Happy Birthday and add on “Happy Long Life” too and then we give the special birthday boy a chance to blow out his candles.

Afterwards we always encourage the kids to say a few words to say Thank You.

Even though Ky is not talking too well yet he does understand our instructions it just comes out as cute mumbo jumbo πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚


We didn’t have much planned for our little KyKy (our nickname for him pronounced “kai-kai”).

But we had Family visiting from overseas so we thought to organise a day out at Geelong’s Eastern Beach.


Talk about heaps of kids!

Ky’s cousins from Melbourne, Sydney and Tonga were here to celebrate his 2nd birthday party.

It’s funny because this time last year we also celebrated his birthday here in Geelong.

It’s a popular spot for my Family!

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Apart from the water, playground and sand there’s a steep hill on the farthest side of Eastern Beach where with a piece of cardboard you can bobsleigh down the hill!

It’s a big hit with the kids and the birthday boy definitely had many runs down ⛷️⛷️

Happy birthday KyKy we love you 😘😘

Part 2 – Safaia’s Baptism

Safaia was born on 27 September 2019.

At the time of her Baptism she was almost 4 months old.

My Goddaughter Marchella with her Godsister Safaia πŸ’“πŸ’“

We decided to make it a joint party to celebrate Ky’s Birthday and Safaia’s Baptism.

The process was pretty smooth as we have Baptised all our kids in our Sacred Heart Catholic Church in Preston.

We met with Fr. Jan 2 weeks before the Baptism to prepare for the Ceremony and to nominate Godparents.

The Godmother is my sister Taina and Godfather is Leki’s brother Veni.


We had Family from all over Melbourne, Sydney, Fiji and Tonga πŸ’“

Thank you to everyone who could make it to our Baptism of Safaia and to those who helped on the day.

The Baptism ceremony celebrates Safaia being added to God’s Family in front of Family and Friends.

1We were fortunate to have two babies be Baptised in our Church and they both didn’t cry when they were splashed with Holy Water πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Fingers crossed for Safaia.

Luckily she was fast asleep when she was Blessed!

Here are some photos from the day… Enjoy!

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As with all our events we leave plenty of time to pose for photos!

Part 3 – After Party at Braybrook Hotel

The Party continues…

It continues on at an All-You-Can-Eat venue we highly recommend – Braybrook Hotel.

We have been here many times as guests and we’ve hosted over 3 x Family events here.

The main reason?

The playground! πŸ‘πŸ‘


The playground is located within the facility and it has video footage so you can sit and eat while your kids are playing and you can keep an eye on them!

We organised and booked our tables in November 2019 and we made the specific request to setup by the entry of the playground so we have access to the playground and toilets.

Thank you to everyone who helped with Safaia’s Baptism – Godmother Taina for her dress and Cross necklace, Godfather Veni for πŸ’°πŸ’° decorations and the Baptism candle, my sister Vikki for the cakes and my sister Kathy for helping with the bombonieres.

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After too many plates of food it’s always hard to say goodbye to everyone.

Thank you to everyone who sent their well wishes, Family from all across Melbourne, Sydney, Fiji and Tonga.

To Kyneton and Safaia – we love you so much and look forward to walking with you on your life’s journey.

‘Ofa lahi atu always.


Mum and Dad xo



[Rewind] Travelling To Sydney With 3 Kids!

[Rewind] Travelling To Sydney With 3 Kids!

Hi guys,

This is a ‘Flashback’ blog post.

Yes, I have been swamped these last 5 months with baby #3 Safaia and trying to manage my time as best I can.

So when my hubby Leki and I have some time we come together and write a blog post to give you all an update on what we’re up to!

Today we would like to revisit a trip to Sydney in November 2019 for my cousin Sila’s wedding.


I’m going to do my best to present this trip to you in 3 parts.

Part 1 – Getting To Sydney

Part 2 – In Sydney

Part 3 – Coming Home To Melbourne

Here we go!

Part 1 – Getting To Sydney

Ok here was the plan.

We wanted to take all our booster seats and prams for our 3 kids.

That’s 3 x booster seats, 2 x prams and a bassinet attachment plus all our luggage. We counted 12 x pieces of luggage in total. Fun times lol


We also planned to have a Maxicab pick us up from our home in Gisborne and take us right to the Virgin Departures at Tullamarine.

Our flight was due to leave at 4:30pm so we planned for the Maxicab to pick us up 4 hours before at 12:30pm.

Fast forward 2 hours and trying many times to reach 13 CABS we made the frantic decision to bungle all our things back into our car and drive ourselves to the airport, park in short term stay and then rush to check in.

We left home at 2:30pm, arrived at the airport at 3:10pm, boarded the shuttle bus at 3:20pm (with all our crap – talk about struggles) and limped into the Departure lounge at 3:45pm.

Don’t ask us about any positive reviews for 13 CABS… ever πŸ™

Here we found the next obstacle to jump over.

The self check in booths were broken and being understaffed we had to wait and be manually checked in. After some miscommunication we had to return to the check in counter to re-register the baby equipment.

Time check – 4:10pm.

The gate closes at 4:20pm.

We were feeling the pressure as we finally got all our things checked in and high tailed it to Gate 3 for our Sydney flight.

2 Throughout the whole trouble of the maxicab, being mucked around at the counter and sprinting to the gate for departure, Leki and I tried our best to be positive and optimistic.


Because the kids were looking at us and can sense something was wrong. We knew they were having a great experience travelling and excited to be boarding a plane so we didn’t want them remembering being told off for little things because we were stressed out.

So slugged on!

Finally we made it to the gate at 4:20pm just as they were about to close it.

As they were scanning our tickets they realised that our little Safaia was NOT booked as one of the travellers.

FYI – We bought our tickets in Mar 2019 and our daughter was born Sept 2019. Leki rang and explained the situation 4 weeks before the flight and it wasn’t documented. But we enjoy flying with Virgin as they allow you to travel with all your children things forΒ FREE!


Long story short we held up the flight almost 20 mins as the ground crew worked out what went wrong and how to seat us on the plane.

You can imagine when we boarded the plane with all these judgemental stares facing us back as we struggled through the narrow aisle.

We didn’t care.

If they knew the drama it took for us to get here then they’d have a little sympathy.

The airplane hostess did come by soon after and made us feel welcome and explained that it was a offsite fault not ours which made us feel better about it all.

Anyway we made it!

When we landed and collected all our items we picked up the Kia Carnival family car we hired from the airport.

We used this as an opportunity to test drive a car that we’ll mostly likely upgrade to in the future.

After spending 30 mins putting all the booster seats in we were finally ready to head over to our accommodation – Novotel Parramatta.

What a looooong day.

We stopped by McDonald’s. Picked up the Family Box. Checked into the hotel and within 20 mins of getting into room… everyone was asleep.

Wed 27 November 2019 you will never be forgotten!

Day 1 done!

Part 2 – In Sydney

Perks of staying in a hotel?

Definitely the buffet breakfast.

Thurs 28 November 2019 was a rest day to recover from the travel and to enjoy the local area.

We walked to the Parramatta Westfields where I did my nails πŸ™‚ wandered along the river and did some last minute shopping.

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It was fun just to be in a new environment and soak up some Sydney sun!

We were looking forward to catching up with the Sydney family and the primary reason we travelled up was to witness my cousin get married.

Fri 29 November 2019 was the BIG DAY!

We had the morning to relax and build up to the Ceremony and Reception in the afternoon.

So after our breakfast we decided to take a walk out to the new BankWest Stadium which was a nice 20-30 min walk one way.

The kids had a little play and then we enjoyed a wander around the city of Parramatta.

When we got back to our Hotel we had a little nap and then got ready for the Wedding!

My little system is getting the bigger two organised first.

Once they’re done I look after little Safaia and Leki is also ready and happy to help.

I’m usually last to get ready and it’s a mad rush but this time I also got myself ready as I was getting the kids organised.

I did my hair and got my dress and outfit all organised (nails done the day before), had a few little things to prepare and I always save my last little touch ups make up wise in the car on the way to functions.

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I always pride myself on being on time to things.

It stresses me out when I’m running late.

Annnnd guess what?

We were running late.

Wow West Sydney the traffic on a Friday peak hours was terrible! But fortunately we were only 10 mins behind.

I wanted to capture as many special moments as I could and witness Sila enjoy her special day πŸ™‚

After a beautiful Ceremony we decided to return home for a couple of hours and rest while the bridal party took off for photos.

We then returned to the Reception and it was a nice intimate setting where family and friends settled into a nice balmy warm night.

There were a lot of highlights:

The kids were apart of another dance routine together. It’s great to see them dancing together and enjoying themselves.

My oldest Emelina performed a solo Tongan dance (she needs practice but we were proud as punch of her effort!)

Reuniting with family from interstate and overseas.

Seeing Sila and Timo enjoy their night and the special send off in the tunnel was fun πŸ™‚

After a long day of partying, managing the kids (highly recommend ear muffs for the little ones) and socialising we left just after midnight to head back to the Hotel.

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Sat 30 Nov & Sun 1 Dec 2019 was mostly Family Time.

We had a day out at the local water fun park which was absolutely free (check it out if in Parramatta called Ollie Webb Reserve) which was follow up with a trip to Pine and Lopi’s house where we had an After Party πŸ˜‰

Lots of Aunties and Uncles, nieces and nephews plus relatives from interstate and overseas who made the trip to Sydney for the wedding!

Like with all Tongan functions… heaps of food, laughs and noise πŸ™‚

The following morning was the Couples First Sunday.

They looked beautiful in their traditional costume.

We then had MORE TO EAT at an all you can eat buffet in Blacktown.

Thanks again to Timo and Sila for sponsoring the day! We appreciate all your hard work.

Afterwards we decided to organise a hang out at my sisters’ accommodation which has an awesome indoor pool.

So we decided to have a Pool Party!

It was so much fun and the kids (both young and old) enjoyed themselves.

Soon after we had a bite to eat and also celebrated my Goddaughter’s 15th birthday! Love you Chella!

Then just like that our weekend in Sydney was drawing to a close πŸ™

Part 3 – Coming Home To Melbourne

Mon 2 Dec 2019 luckily we packed most of our things the day before!

Again, after our buffet breakfast we said our goodbyes to Aunty Kathy and headed off back to Sydney Airport.

We must say the Kia Carnival was such a comfortable spacious family car. Definitely an upgrade is on the cards down the track!

We left Sydney at lunch time and arrived back to Tullamarine at 2pm and then walked back into our Gisborne home at 4pm after doing some grocery shopping and grabbing a bite to eat.

That’s all folks!

What a time with family and friends.

Memories I’ll cherish forever!

Thank you Sila and Timo for everything and I know you’re enjoying this stage of your beautiful lives as Husband and Wife.

To our Sydney family we love you a lot and can’t wait to see you and catch up again soon.

‘Ofa lahi atu always.


Belinda xo


MR. & MRS!

MR. & MRS!

Hi guys,

Yes it’s been a little while since I last spoke with you but I haven’t forgotten about you!

I will back post some of the important events that has happened since my last post in Nov 2019 up until this time Feb 2020.

They’ll include updates on my weight loss journey (for the 3rd time), Kids Development update, Daily routine managing my little family, Kyneton 2nd Bday and Safaia’s Baptism, Christmas and NYE!

Wow! A lot to catch you up on πŸ™‚

I’ve had a little break to focus on bringing up baby #3 Safaia who is very demanding of my time at the moment πŸ˜‰

But that aside, I want to congratulate my younger sister who recently got married!

Congratulations Taina!

It brought back a lot of memories of my special day on Nov 2011.

The special home setup, my Mother looking beautiful, my Dad pacing around nervously and my sisters doing what they can to help.

To let’s start with the date – Thursday 20 Feb 2020.

It would read like 20 02 2020 as you can see there’s a number combination here that’s very unique. Plus, having a wedding on a Thursday is extraordinary but everyone was made aware early and it gave us all an extra long weekend!

Taina’s makeup was done by Slay_Nisha and hair by Atalina Hair. Great work guys! My sister Vikki did my Mum’s makeup and she looked stunning… shoutout to VIP Beauty Melb!

The wedding reception was due to start at 1pm and the bridal party arrived by two Mercedes Trucks!


Unfortunately the unpredictable weather forced the Ceremony indoors as the Couple had planned an outdoor event.

This is fine for the guests as the setting was intimate and comfortable although we would have loved to have had the sunny weather and to be together in the outdoors!


After the exchange of the “I Do’s” we witnessed the first kiss and the announcement of the newly minted Mr. and Mrs!

It was heart warming to see my little sister tie the knot among loved ones and to see her take her place in the world as a proudly new Wife!

After a few moments for the signing of the Marriage Certificate the bridal party ran away to take some photos and the guests had a couple of hours rest to return and enjoy the Reception.

We decided to head home to Gisborne as I forgot a few things most importantly Safaia’s ear muffs so that she can sleep soundly tonight while Mama and Teti are dancing the night away!

So we had a little rest and recharge and home before heading back to the reception in Taylors Lakes – Lakeside Reception.

I must say the food, decor and venue was top notch – I’d give it a 10/10!

My hubby Leki was asked to be the MC and so I held down the fort with 3 x kids and I have to thank some of my Family who helped keep them in check.

It was a challenge trying to manage the 2yo and 5mo as Kyneton would often try and do a ‘runner’ but someone was always on hand to catch him last minute.

One of the highlights was Bride and Groom’s first dance as the fireworks went off with perfect timing to their song of choice.

I also enjoyed the throwing of the Bouquet and the Garter πŸ™‚

It was a privilege to witness my sister get married.

It’s always fun catching up with Family and friends who have travelled near and far to celebrate with us!

I know there were some who could not make it but sent their love and well wishes!

Thanks to my cousin Andy for organising an impromptu gathering the day after and Leki and I gatecrashed the party πŸ˜‰


Congratulations David and Dina!

Looking forward to many more great times ahead for you both.


With love always.


Belinda xo


Welcome Safaia Fifita ‘Iunisi Sisifa

Welcome Safaia Fifita ‘Iunisi Sisifa

I’m baaaaaack πŸ™‚

We are proud and grateful to announce our third baby –Β Safaia Fifita ‘Iunisi Sisifa.

She arrived on Friday 27 September 2019 at 2:18pm after a 2 hour labour.


So many emotions with all that’s been happening.

September 27 is our Anniversary of when Leki and I first started dating… this year is our 12th Anniversary.

Safaia is Tongan for Sapphire which is the birthstone of September.

Fifita and ‘Iunisi were our last surviving grandparents who passed away this time last year.

And lastly, I managed to achieve the Water Birth I was aiming for which makes me happy because I focused on achieving this for over 12 months.

This meant being healthy and ensuring I didn’t have pre-eclampsia like I did with my other 2 x pregnancies!

So I would like to present an unfiltered account of the final stages of my pregnancy just like last time with baby #2 – Kyneton Wardell Sisifa.


So here is the story of Safaia’s journey to join us in chronological order beginning on Thurs 26 Sept 2019:

Thurs 26 Sept

5am – Start of Braxton-Hicks Contractions

At 40 weeks and 3 days I officially started the final stages of my pregnancy.

I monitored how often they came on by popping the times into my Viber app I use with my hubby Leki.


The next few Braxton-Hicks signs were at 1-2 hour intervals 8am, 9:30am, 12pm, 2pm, 4:38pm with some pink discharge, 6:55pm, 8:07pm, 10:06pm and 10:43pm.

Fri 27 Sept

12:30am – Regular timings of Braxton-Hicks Contractions

Between 12:30am to 6:14am I had 12 x short contractions but they became more regular from every 1 hour to 30 mins then down to every 20-10 mins!

We decided that we would head into Melbourne and drop off the kids to Aunty Vine so that we have plenty of time to travel to Sunshine Hospital.

I had a short warm shower (in an effort to try and relax the muscles from contracting)… but that didn’t work as I had 3 x contractions during my 10 minute shower πŸ˜‰

Fortunately I had already prepared our car, my hospital bag and had the kids bags packed and ready to go 2 weeks prior.

7:12am – ‘Normal’ morning

Leki prepared breakfast and encouraged our normal routine.

Our 4yo Emelina and 18mo Kyneton were happy, fed and cleaned up before we packed them in the car.

When we left at 8am I had 9 contractions which lasted about 1-2 minutes each and as a gauge were around 6/10 in pain (10 being the worst).

These contractions were ranging between 5-7 minutes apart!

We left home in Gisborne at 7:45am for Preston in good spirits.


8:40am – Dropped The Kids To Aunty Vine

While we were heading into Melbourne I contacted my caseloadΒ midwife Ellie and explained the situation.

I feel so grateful that I have Ellie in my corner again as she previously delivered my baby #2 Kyneton.

Fortunately she was already on her way into the Hospital and recommended heading in when my contractions were strong and regularly 5mins apart.

I was happy with that because my contractions continued to vary from 10mins to 7 mins to 5mins.


We set off to Sunshine Hospital at 9:20am which would be a 25min drive.

My contractions were consistently 5mins apart.

9:45am – Arrived To Sunshine Hospital

Instead of waiting at Aunty Vine’s house we decided to go to the Hospital and wait.

I lost count of how many times I went to the toilet… I felt like my bladder was always full and I needed to empty them even if nothing happened.

Leki and I waited until my contractions ramped up as Midwife Ellie prepared my birthing suite for the Water Birth.

Around this time I rang some family members to let them know that I was about to be admitted into the hospital.

My Mother and sisters are in Tonga celebrating my Grandmother Taina’s life and her headstone unveiling with Family. They were so excited to hear the news!

My Dad rang and wished me well.

The contractions were frustrating as it did increase in severity from 6/10 to 8/10 but the time between contractions changed from 20mins to 10mins and again back to 5mins.

In the mean time I was walking up and down the hallways, walking up and down stairs and kept a positive mindset.

I was thinking of my little girl and set the intention to have a nice peaceful Water Birth.

11:35am – Admitted

I was taken up to Level 3 Room 8.


It was a luxurious experience and I don’t say that lightly.

The room was dimly lit but filled with nice electric candles plus soothing meditation music was playing in the background.

As my contractions continued to be irregular Midwife Ellie offered me a Stretch & Sweep to bring heighten the contractions and bring on the labouring.

After a few minutes thinking about it I decided to go ahead with it.

The Stretch & Sweep was performed at 11:45am.

12:34pm – REGULAR contractions

I was going through very regular contractions after the Stretch & Sweep.

I was standing, walking and labouring upright as I found it comfortable.

By 12:36pm I had officially started the labouring process (according to Midwife Ellie) and was helped into the Water Bath.

I was having stronger contractions and I felt like the ‘baby had dropped’.

1:00pm – Labouring in the Bath

The heat of the water was relaxing.

It helped to have Leki in there with me as he applied pressure to my lower back for each of my contractions in the water.

I was in all fours but my top half was braced on the edge of the Bath as Ellie was giving me instructions.

With each of the contractions Ellie was coaching me through what was happening.

She had a mirror underneath me to see what was happening.

I have to be honest I was so scared that I’d shit the bath.

Even though Ellie said it’s completely normal and does happen often I still didn’t want a code brown πŸ˜‰

In the end I didn’t lose my bowels but I was half concentrating on trying to labour without dropping my guts LOL

Although the pain were intense each wave of contractions was coupled with a sense of getting closer and closer to the finish line.

There was a point that I felt Safaia’s head moving closer to the exits.

After that push subsided I complained to Ellie that every time I let the contraction ‘push her out’ when it stopped it was like she retreated back in.

Ellie then explained that it’s normal as the baby is moving and the passageways are stretching for her eventual arrival.

Contractions were 2 mins apart now.

2:18pm – Safaia Arrives!

One of the key instructions Ellie said was to allow you body to push when you feel like you can’t avoid pushing anymore.

That means don’t push too early… wait until you can’t hold it back any longer!

The main reason why you don’t want to push too early is that it can tear your vaginal walls which means a lot of damage, stitches and longer healing times.

I made my best effort to look for that telltale sign of not being able to hold it in any longer and then push with all that I had!

My last 3 x contractions I was increasingly getting more and more frustrated because I always felt that Safaia would edge closer to the exit and then she’s running back in πŸ™‚

But then the time came…

There came a sensation that felt like all the lead up disappointment of Safaia ‘coming and going’ had reached a peak.

It felt like a point of no return

It almost happened magically without pain.

I peered down and with one contraction I saw baby Safaia’s top half pop out.

I gathered my strength and waited until the next contraction to come around and I fought hard not to jump the gun and push before the contraction.

Again, Ellie was coaching me through this process and was pleading with me NOT TO PUSH if the contraction hadn’t come on yet.


If I pushed too early I would definitely tear some vaginal tissue and make things worse for me after baby is born.

She also asked me not to raise her above the water when she’s out as she needs to remove a bit of the umbilical cord around her neck.

She explained that it would be easier to remove it when she’s still under the water then struggle with it out of the water.

Luckily I managed to hold on and with the last contraction…


Out she popped.

It was the most relaxing graceful entry into the world I’ve experienced so far!

She wasn’t crying, wasn’t stressed or even curious.

Safaia arrived into the world sleeping πŸ™‚


The umbilical cord around her neck was masterfully removed by Ellie and Leki was right next to me as Safaia arrived.

I felt so relieved and blessed that it was all over.

2:38pm – Placenta Birth

Leki and I remained in the Bath which was a bloody crimson colour from the labouring discharge.

I was encouraged by Ellie to gently pull on the umbilical while I was in a semi-squat in the bath.

I gave it a couple of tugs and then Ellie supported by bracing me from underneath, with a few more pushes…


Out came the placenta which felt like another mini-birth.

2:54pm – Skin On Skin

I was helped out of the bath and placed onto the birthing bed to rest and recover.

One of the key things Ellie had to perform now was to assess how much structural damage there was from pushing Safaia out!

I was worried because there was a lot of blood.

Ellie checked and reported that the bleeding was normal and what was important was if it was able to stop by itself.

This meant I had to lie on my back for 30-45mins with my legs clamped shut to try and stop the bleeding.

I used this time bonding with little Miss and she spent her first few moments feeding off me and resting.

My sisters called me on Messenger and I was excited to show them my little trooper!

4:15pm – No Stitches!

I received great news when Ellie told me I didn’t need stitches.

Although I may be sore for a couple of days if I can avoid heavy lifting and excessive walking/squatting then I should be all fine πŸ™‚

Around this time I was fed by Leki while I was resting on my back.

The last time I ate was 7am that morning and with all the effort and energy pushing throughout the day I definitely needed some food!

I prepped some food a day before and packed it for the kids to have at Aunty’s house.

I also had some prepared for us just in case.

Nothing fancy just beef mince, home made tomato paste and boiled vegetables.

Leki warmed it all up in the maternity ward kitchen.

5:00pm – Nice Shower & Change

I then got up and had a nice hot shower while Leki changed little Safaia.

It felt great to take my time washing all the pain and suffering away and change into some warm comfy clothes.

Just before her little outfit change Ellie measured her:

34cm head circumference, 51cm in length and 3.1kg in weight.


So proud!

Her first little matching headbandΒ  blanket/swaddle was specially made by my Mum.

I bought some material from Spotlight and she made it two weeks before Safaia arrived.

I love the fact that it was uniquely made for her from Nana πŸ˜‰

6:00pm – Check All The Vital Signs & Early Discharge

So both Leki and I had a nice warm shower and freshened up.

Ellie was completing her paperwork.

Little Safaia was resting by the window soaking up some sunshine when…

Ellie mentioned that we’ll be discharged home soon!

I was kinda shocked.

Not shocked… more surprised.

I was really looking forward to staying over at least one night.

I packed for 2 nights πŸ˜‰

But Ellie explained that my vital signs were stable, my birthing wounds will heal naturally without stitches, I didn’t have any pain relief and she would check up on me in the morning over the next 2 days and for 5 visits in total at my home.

She also explained that baby Safaia is healthy ans happy without jaundice or any other troublesome signs.

After I got over my initial disappointment I was actually relieved!

I can sleep in my own bed – YAY!

Soon after I rang Aunty Vine and asked if it was still ok for Emelina and Kyneton to sleep overnight.

She quickly said yes and not to worry they are having a great time.

I felt relieved and helped Leki prepare our things to leave.

It was all starting to sink in now.

We’re going to home with baby #3 in tow πŸ™‚

So happy!

7:00pm – Discharged

Leki left the car in the paid car parking next door and it cost us only $12 for the whole day!

He took our things over and came back with our capsule seat for our little companion.


While he was doing that I spent some time rugging Safaia up with layers.

And then that was it.

Leki came by, picked us up, popped the capsule into the booster seat, leaned over and gave me a kiss and that was it!

He asked me what I wanted for dinner.

I gave him a cheeky look and waved my hand into the ‘Golden Arches’.

On the way home we stopped half way because Leki was worried Safaia was breathing LOL

She was so quiet and he wasn’t used to it.

After a quick check we were good to go!

8:00pm – Home Sweet Home

When we got home we settled in, warmed the place up and placed Safaia in our bassinet attached to the pram.

Leki and I put our feet up, ate our McDonald’s watching an old episode of Criminal Minds (Leki was also keeping an eye on the Melbourne Storm match LOL) and enjoyed our time together.

We retired to bed at 9:00pm as I gave Safaia her first feed at home.

We both feel asleep, dead tired, in our own beds in our own home with our little girl nestling right beside us sleeping soundly.

What a relief!

In just over 12 hours I had left home, pushed out a baby and returned home like it was a normal day!

Well, if you have stuck with me all the way through – THANK YOU.

I really wanted to experience the water birth process and make it real for you and me.

My intention for this story was to be real and not hide any details.

If my pregnancy and labouring effort sounded easy and breezy I don’t apologise.

The fact is it was very smooth and pain free compared to my other 2 x pregnancies and birthing efforts.

We had put a lot of thought and preparation for having the best experience.

We spent time researching birthing options and decided water birthing was what we wanted.

We decided to take control of our health and eat better.

I spent time working on my self talk and being mindful of my thoughts both negative and positive ones!

Leki and I often talked about how much effort it would take to get from Gisborne to Sunshine.

We shopped and packed our bags early to avoid any surprises.

We asked for help from Family and Friends.

We planned for Plan A, Plan B and Plan C.

All this effort didn’t go unnoticed.

I’m at home already preparing for the upcoming week as Leki prepares to get back to his work and I’ll be holding the fort until some help arrives in the form of my Mum (when she returns from Tonga).


So if you’re interested here’s my…

Top 3 Hacks For Having An Easier Pregnancy & Labouring Effort:

1. Get control of your health BEFORE you think to conceive

It’s amazing to think how much of this was the critical factor in the whole process.

Getting yourself in shape physically, mentally and psychologically BEFORE you even think to get pregnant is my BIGGEST recommendation.

Just think… you may have conditions that are mostly coming from lifestyle factors and can be completely reversed RIGHT NOW!

Poor nutrition, poor stress management, poor sleep, negative self talk, poor social support and poor financial habits.

Put some time into reversing these things and find what works for you and it will make your whole experience all the more successful πŸ™‚

2. Routine & Structure is the way FORWARD

A big part of reversing your bad habits is to automate your new habits.

If you have a diet plan that you’re going to follow. Prep the meals.

If you have a weight loss strategy or exercise plan. Find a friend or partner to be accountable to.

If you work or stay at home full time organise a timetable that is non-negotiable.

The thing Leki and I observed with our routine is that when things get out of hand we know what it takes to reestablish our normal day.

It’s like being on a seesaw. If you go too much one way then you have to allow the other side to come up to counter balance.

For example, once we’ve establish our game plan for prepping our meals we saw how long it takes and we can decide which day of that week has a 2 hour window where we can bulk cook. Weeks can vary with commitments but we are committed to our food prep work because nutrition is key for our well being.

3. Get Out Of Your Own Way

Growing up I always had thoughts of not being good enough.

I set the bar low on expectations for myself.

Can’t read well.

Can’t write well.

Not confident when talking to people and always go red.

Even now with so much self development work and ongoing positive self talk I still find myself battling with “Imposter Syndrome”.

Am I being who I am truly on this blog?

My reading and writing have improved a lot with the help of my husband by just persisting with something uncomfortable.


By working together as a team.

I’m not even going as red anymore and it takes extreme cases if I’m being shy or embarrassed.

I remember meeting someone new for the first time and I can feel my cheeks getting flush with blood.

Now… yes I still get a bit nervous but it’s more because of the excitement in meeting someone new who’s interesting rather then the embarrassment of them judging me.

When it came to this pregnancy it all fell into place when I got out of my head and got out of my own way.

We fell pregnant within 1 month of trying whereas our first effort took over 18 months.

I lost a lot of weight without much exercise and being very disciplined with my eating habits.

The list goes on…

In short you are able to achieve remarkable things Mama if you just get out of your own way and make it happen! NO EXCUSES!


So there you have it.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this post as much as we have presented it to you.

And just like that we’ve grown to a Family of Five.


With love,

Belinda, Leki, Emelina,Β KynetonΒ and SafaiaΒ xo

P.s. We are aiming to haveΒ 5 x kids so you’ll have another 2 stories in the future πŸ˜‰


They Grow Up So FAST!

They Grow Up So FAST!

Hi guys,

These are my last few times with my two kids.

Soon we will grow from a family of 4 to 5!

I like tracking how my kids are growing because overnight changes almost happen daily.

My original post on my kids development was Oct 2018 – read about it HERE.

At that time, my little girl Emelina was 3yo and my little boy Kyneton was 9mo.

On the next update Feb 2019 I compared how quickly they had both grown and I had announced that baby #3 was on the way!

Eme is now 4.5yo and Ky is 1.5yo.

Here’s the latest πŸ™‚

Kyneton is 18 months old



We are trying something different at night.

Kyneton is really good going down when its bed time but after 5 hours he grumbles a little bit, we give him some water and then he’s asleep until 5am.

We put him down and he’s asleep by 7:30pm he’ll be good until 12am and then he’s up at 5am and that’s where Leki takes over.

It could be worse I suppose.

He needs me to nurse him to sleep.

Sometimes his little feet stumbles into our room and he wriggles in somewhere.

We are not as strict with Kyneton with self soothing as we were Emelina.

Apart of me enjoys have him shack up with us sometimes but other times I wish we were more firm with him.

But in preparation for baby #3 due to arrive we have been putting Ky down with Eme in her room.

It seems to work pretty well because he wants someone around him when he’s unsettled.

When we settle our little girl into routine we’ll review the game plan with Ky’s sleeping arrangement.

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Body Movements

Kyneton is happy exploring his environment whether it’s inside or outside.

He likes to be by himself and figure out how things work.

When I’m in the kitchen and I watch him play in the backyard I see him climb into the trampoline or explore the garden and observe the birds and he calls out to them ‘quack quack’.

His running style is getting more stable as he had a very funny zig zag type of running pattern – we’d joke it’s because he’s carrying a big heavy head making him unstable.

I guess his key body movement at the moment is thumb sucking.

Yes, he’s a comfort thumb sucker but we thinks it’s cute πŸ˜‰

Spatial Awareness

Ky is aware of his surroundings and can be very cautious.

The other day we visited his new cousins at the Royal Women’s Hospital and he was very excited to be in a new environment but didn’t want to lose hand contact with either of us.

If we are in familiar territory like Nana and Poppy’s house he runs around like he lives there!

When we are at the local park he quickly realises that the playground is around the corner and is itching to get out of his booster seat.

It’s like he knows his sense of direction when we are in the car running around to the local shopping spots, dropping Eme off to Montessori School or going to Gymnastics.

Can’t get too much past this little guy.



Kyneton likes food but he’s now starting to pick and choose.

We don’t let him live it up too much.

If he doesn’t want to eat what we’re eating then he can go without food… for a little while πŸ˜‰

The next time he wants to act up when we feed him then he needs to make a decision on what he wants to do.

Suck it up and eat or go without food for a little while.

He’s no longer needing me to ‘Mama’ his food anymore and it’s almost a year since we topped up with formula.


We also believe in firm discipline.

He gets a smack and it reinforces something we’re trying to teach him.

The oven is hot, the knife is sharp, the drawer is dangerous, trip over your toys left laying around… the list is endless!

We start with a firm word and come down to him at face level and talk to him.

If he persists or tests us then he’s gonna learn LOL

We smack with love in our heart.

He’ll learn… eventually πŸ™‚


Emelina is 4.5yo!



Emelina is a champion sleeper if there is such a thing.

She goes down at 8pm and wakes at 7am.

What a dream!

The only change is that we’ve put Kyneton in with her for a little while to buddy up until our new little girl settles in!


Spatial Awareness/Gymnastics/Swimming

Eme has been a steady performer in her gymnastics school!

Her form is not as straight as some of her classmates and she’s a little afraid of heights but she’s persisting with her training and enjoying it!

Her little body is not as flexible, strong or fluid but we can see the potential of what Emelina could develop into if she is continues to practice and be consistent.

So proud of her effort so far I hope she continues to enjoy it!



Emelina has a naturally curious and fun personality.

She’s definitely testing the boundaries but it’s from mostly a place of curiosity rather then being naughty.

We have to remember to come from a place of Curiosity rather then Judgement when it comes to our kids.

She is a loving older sister to her younger brother Kyneton.

Sometimes she might play a bit rough then what we prefer but she’s enjoying her playtime with her growing brother.

As we understand it can be completely normal and developmental issue.

We allow Eme to gauge what Ky’s reaction is so that she can develop her own emotional intelligence.

We try very hard not to be a helicopter parent.

I don’t mind if my kids fall over and get hurt.

I don’t worry if there’s a chance that my child will get fingers caught in the drawer.

I like watching Eme and Ky climb ladders and play in the local playground and jump into puddles.

If they get hurt or uncomfortably wet then it was a result of their actions.

I am trying to teach them to be resilient and self sufficient.


In my last update on this topic I laid out some expectations:

  1. School and Gymnastics for all our children will be mandatory
  2. Then every 6 months we will look to introduce new things for the kids to try.

It may be an learning instrument, scouts, nippers, sport or drama.

Whatever may take their fancy but we are not looking at letting them be lazy on school holidays.

Especially in the final years of primary school leading into high school!

This is helpful because it reminds me how quickly they grow and what little time I have with them before they’re too cool for Mum and Dad πŸ˜‰

I hope you enjoyed this post and the next one will feature out new little team member πŸ˜‰

With love,


Belinda xo

My Community Turns 25yo!

My Community Turns 25yo!

Hi Mama.

This is a short post about my little community.

25 years ago my Aunties and Uncles started a Catholic community for Tongans based in Melbourne, Australia.

In 1994 they started the Tongan Catholic Community at Sacred Heart Preston.


I have great memories growing up with my cousins learning our culture and language.

After Church my uncle Daniel who was a youth leader would take the kids to McDonald’s on Bell St Preston or Foodstar on Plenty Rd.

Other times we would gather at my Aunty Pauline and Uncle Daniel’s house around the corner from the church to practice our choir songs, eat and celebrate family times.

When new families move to Melbourne we would organise a little welcome dinner or meal and it was always a great feeling being involved with a community.


I remember preparing to perform a traditional Tongan dance for community gatherings.

Our traditional dance incorporates graceful movements, upright standing form with our National costume.


I used to be so scared that I’d forget the movements.

I’ve come full circle now as my 4yo daughter performed her very first dance just like I did all those years ago!

We were so proud!

So now our community is just a few families as people move further away and Interstate.

The thing I love about our community is that it’s a place to slow down and enjoy your family, say thank you for all the good things you have in your life, look to draw help and support from when times are tough and it’s a commitment that my Family enjoys.

Looking forward to maintaining our traditions and keeping the culture alive.

With love,


Belinda xo

2nd Leg Of The Race!

2nd Leg Of The Race!

Hi guys,

So it’s been a month detox from this blog and it was refreshing πŸ™‚

I’m re-energised and ready to rock n roll!

As it stands I’m due for baby #3 late-Sept 2019 – just 6 weeks or so away.

Read my update on my 1st Trimester – HERE.

Here are my main topics I’d like to follow up with throughout my pregnancy:

  1. Pain
  2. Energy
  3. Self care

1. Pain

In my first update I reported that it’s been the smoothest pregnancy so far!

Into my second trimester I can still say things have been really good for me pain wise.

Very little pain or soreness just feeling sluggish but I’ll elaborate on that in the next point.

The second trimester has scored an A+ πŸ™‚

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I continue to focus on things that make me happy.

I’ve been in the best shape physically and mentally in leading up to this pregnancy and continue to be in good health while I’ve been carrying.

I’ve made the goal to only put on a maximum of 15kg with this pregnancy.

Starting at 70kg my maximum weight I’m aiming for before birth is around 85kg.

More on that next time… πŸ˜‰

2. Energy

Hmm.. what have I been focusing on to improve my energy?


Finn’s Bar – Bali

It was only a 5 day visit and we left the kids with Nena we felt like teenagers again πŸ™‚

I wrote about our little Babymoon vacay – HERE.

This 5 day recharge was a godsend.

Don’t get me wrong we love our children obviously but having some R&R time is highly recommended.

We travelled light and enjoyed things like getting in and out of a car without having to pack the whole house LOL

Passing through customs at the airport was almost a thrill rather then being a struggle.

Eating at a restaurant was drama free and we almost forgot what it was like to have adult conversation at the dinner table πŸ˜‰

I’m sure you can relate Mama!

3. Self Care

My little guys are 4yo and 1.5yo and we have a midday nap together.

I really enjoy this time nesting with my kids πŸ™‚

I feel really good.

I do things around the house to help with preparing for my new addition.

Cleaned up and put things away.

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Reviewed our common areas in our house and rejigged our Montessori areas and updated it all.

All that activity in preparing my home ‘frees’ my mind from worrying and makes me feel comfortable in my little nest.

Feeling good is very subjective though.

It can mean different things to different people.

My husband Leki is a physio and he gave me a present… not sure if I asked for it but he gave it to me anyway.

A pregnancy brace.

The idea is to support my tummy to reduce the stress on my body.

I have to be honest I haven’t used it too often but as I get heavier I’ll definitely revisit it and make sure I use it more often.

Over 6 months along and going quite well.

I will be planning to have a Water Birth with baby #3.

I’ll do some more research and share with you about the planned water birth in the next update on my 3rd Trimester πŸ™‚

Have a great day.



Belinda xo

How To Enjoy Your Babymoon In Bali!

How To Enjoy Your Babymoon In Bali!

Hi guys.
Today we are going to share what we got up to on our Babymoon Trip to Bali.
You may have heard of a Honeymoon for newlyweds… well a Babymoon is for parents to getaway before the new baby arrives.
Sounds fitting!
We were invited to a joint 30th birthday party earlier in the year and we thought it would be a great chance to relax and reconnect.
This was Jan 2019 and we have just found out that baby #3 was on the way.
We had been trying for 1-2 months and then we passed the pee test. Read about what I wrote about that HERE.
My husband Leki and I are very active with keeping our calendars free for family events or things we’re interested in doing.
So when we were invited to Bali we knew we had the time available to go.
The experience outranks the monetary cost.
Don’t get me wrong we value $$ just like everyone else does but we prioritise and value time with each other, family and friends a lot higher.
Money is a means to an ends.
My net worth is not my self worth.
So with that being said we started planning out trip.
Found a reasonable place to stay in Seminyak near the party goers. Had the pool, buffet breakfast and comfortable room. Organised transfers to and from the airport and we set our budget.
We then discussed how we would manage our kids, 4yo Emelina ans d 1yo Kyneton.
I approached my Mum and asked whether she would be able to babysit the kids for 5 days in May.
She said yes and started to plan how to manage her work hours so she could help us out.
Owe her a million bucks but some creams from Victoria’s Secret will do for now 🀣🀣
This is was all organised by Feb.
We feel really strongly about being self sufficient.
So when it comes a time to ask for help we don’t feel like we’re stepping on any toes and they are happy to help because we don’t ask often.
It’s a win win scenario.
FYI – when we called video called the kids were so happy playing with their cousins. They forgot all about Mum and Dad and said they’re having so much fun! See… win win.
Can you imagine the feeling of having kids who are happy and safe with Family while you and hubby relive your youth alone together in Bali?
I am so blessed and I don’t take that for granted.
So what was on the itinerary?
Had so much fun and we have started planning the next trip which will most likely be winter 2021 back to Bali.
Here’s a little snapshot of 2019 and 2020.
Sept 2019 baby #3 arrives
Nov 2019 cousin’s wedding in Sydney
Jan 2020 Ky’s 2nd bday and Baby #3 Baptism plus Leki’s Family retreat
Feb 2020 Sister’s wedding
Mar 2020 Eme’s 5 bday/ Leki and Bma 35th bday bash
Nov 2020 Other Sister’s wedding
So you can see there’ll be a little bit of time before we feel the warm sun in Bali again.
We’ll continue to be happy and healthy until we return.
With love,
Belinda xo