My Community Turns 25yo!

My Community Turns 25yo!

Hi Mama.

This is a short post about my little community.

25 years ago my Aunties and Uncles started a Catholic community for Tongans based in Melbourne, Australia.

In 1994 they started the Tongan Catholic Community at Sacred Heart Preston.

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I have great memories growing up with my cousins learning our culture and language.

After Church my uncle Daniel who was a youth leader would take the kids to McDonald’s on Bell St Preston or Foodstar on Plenty Rd.

Other times we would gather at my Aunty Pauline and Uncle Daniel’s house around the corner from the church to practice our choir songs, eat and celebrate family times.

When new families move to Melbourne we would organise a little welcome dinner or meal and it was always a great feeling being involved with a community.

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I remember preparing to perform a traditional Tongan dance for community gatherings.

Our traditional dance incorporates graceful movements, upright standing form with our National costume.

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I used to be so scared that I’d forget the movements.

I’ve come full circle now as my 4yo daughter performed her very first dance just like I did all those years ago!

We were so proud!

So now our community is just a few families as people move further away and Interstate.

The thing I love about our community is that it’s a place to slow down and enjoy your family, say thank you for all the good things you have in your life, look to draw help and support from when times are tough and it’s a commitment that my Family enjoys.

Looking forward to maintaining our traditions and keeping the culture alive.

With love,

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Belinda xo

2nd Leg Of The Race!

2nd Leg Of The Race!

Hi guys,

So it’s been a month detox from this blog and it was refreshing πŸ™‚

I’m re-energised and ready to rock n roll!

As it stands I’m due for baby #3 late-Sept 2019 – just 6 weeks or so away.

Read my update on my 1st Trimester – HERE.

Here are my main topics I’d like to follow up with throughout my pregnancy:

  1. Pain
  2. Energy
  3. Self care

1. Pain

In my first update I reported that it’s been the smoothest pregnancy so far!

Into my second trimester I can still say things have been really good for me pain wise.

Very little pain or soreness just feeling sluggish but I’ll elaborate on that in the next point.

The second trimester has scored an A+ πŸ™‚

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I continue to focus on things that make me happy.

I’ve been in the best shape physically and mentally in leading up to this pregnancy and continue to be in good health while I’ve been carrying.

I’ve made the goal to only put on a maximum of 15kg with this pregnancy.

Starting at 70kg my maximum weight I’m aiming for before birth is around 85kg.

More on that next time… πŸ˜‰


2. Energy

Hmm.. what have I been focusing on to improve my energy?

I… WENT… TO… BALI… WITHOUT THE KIDS!!

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Finn’s Bar – Bali

It was only a 5 day visit and we left the kids with Nena we felt like teenagers again πŸ™‚

I wrote about our little Babymoon vacay – HERE.

This 5 day recharge was a godsend.

Don’t get me wrong we love our children obviously but having some R&R time is highly recommended.

We travelled light and enjoyed things like getting in and out of a car without having to pack the whole house LOL

Passing through customs at the airport was almost a thrill rather then being a struggle.

Eating at a restaurant was drama free and we almost forgot what it was like to have adult conversation at the dinner table πŸ˜‰

I’m sure you can relate Mama!


3. Self Care

My little guys are 4yo and 1.5yo and we have a midday nap together.

I really enjoy this time nesting with my kids πŸ™‚

I feel really good.

I do things around the house to help with preparing for my new addition.

Cleaned up and put things away.

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Reviewed our common areas in our house and rejigged our Montessori areas and updated it all.

All that activity in preparing my home ‘frees’ my mind from worrying and makes me feel comfortable in my little nest.

Feeling good is very subjective though.

It can mean different things to different people.

My husband Leki is a physio and he gave me a present… not sure if I asked for it but he gave it to me anyway.

A pregnancy brace.

The idea is to support my tummy to reduce the stress on my body.

I have to be honest I haven’t used it too often but as I get heavier I’ll definitely revisit it and make sure I use it more often.


Over 6 months along and going quite well.

I will be planning to have a Water Birth with baby #3.

I’ll do some more research and share with you about the planned water birth in the next update on my 3rd Trimester πŸ™‚

Have a great day.

Love,

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Belinda xo

How To Enjoy Your Babymoon In Bali!

How To Enjoy Your Babymoon In Bali!

Hi guys.
Today we are going to share what we got up to on our Babymoon Trip to Bali.
You may have heard of a Honeymoon for newlyweds… well a Babymoon is for parents to getaway before the new baby arrives.
Sounds fitting!
We were invited to a joint 30th birthday party earlier in the year and we thought it would be a great chance to relax and reconnect.
This was Jan 2019 and we have just found out that baby #3 was on the way.
We had been trying for 1-2 months and then we passed the pee test. Read about what I wrote about that HERE.
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My husband Leki and I are very active with keeping our calendars free for family events or things we’re interested in doing.
So when we were invited to Bali we knew we had the time available to go.
The experience outranks the monetary cost.
Don’t get me wrong we value $$ just like everyone else does but we prioritise and value time with each other, family and friends a lot higher.
Money is a means to an ends.
My net worth is not my self worth.
So with that being said we started planning out trip.
Found a reasonable place to stay in Seminyak near the party goers. Had the pool, buffet breakfast and comfortable room. Organised transfers to and from the airport and we set our budget.
We then discussed how we would manage our kids, 4yo Emelina ans d 1yo Kyneton.
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I approached my Mum and asked whether she would be able to babysit the kids for 5 days in May.
She said yes and started to plan how to manage her work hours so she could help us out.
Owe her a million bucks but some creams from Victoria’s Secret will do for now 🀣🀣
This is was all organised by Feb.
We feel really strongly about being self sufficient.
So when it comes a time to ask for help we don’t feel like we’re stepping on any toes and they are happy to help because we don’t ask often.
It’s a win win scenario.
FYI – when we called video called the kids were so happy playing with their cousins. They forgot all about Mum and Dad and said they’re having so much fun! See… win win.
Can you imagine the feeling of having kids who are happy and safe with Family while you and hubby relive your youth alone together in Bali?
I am so blessed and I don’t take that for granted.
So what was on the itinerary?
Rest.
Recharge.
Massage.
Talk.
Eat.
Sleep.
Think.
Smile.
Laugh.
Plan.
Celebrate.
Had so much fun and we have started planning the next trip which will most likely be winter 2021 back to Bali.
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Here’s a little snapshot of 2019 and 2020.
Sept 2019 baby #3 arrives
Nov 2019 cousin’s wedding in Sydney
Jan 2020 Ky’s 2nd bday and Baby #3 Baptism plus Leki’s Family retreat
Feb 2020 Sister’s wedding
Mar 2020 Eme’s 5 bday/ Leki and Bma 35th bday bash
Nov 2020 Other Sister’s wedding
So you can see there’ll be a little bit of time before we feel the warm sun in Bali again.
We’ll continue to be happy and healthy until we return.
With love,
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Belinda xo
Easter 2019

Easter 2019

Hi guys,

How was your Easter long weekend?

As a Christian family we believe that Jesus died for us for the promise of life after death.

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This is an opportunity to appreciate everything that we have no matter how big or small.

The wind in your hair, the roof over your head, the warmth of your bed, the love of your friends and family.

Even the challenges in your life is something to be thankful of.

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So what did we get up to?

We caught up with Leki’s Family on Easter Sunday which was good fun. We did have plans of having it at Brimbank Park like last year but the weather was a bit iffy so we celebrated at his sister’s home instead.

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On Easter Monday we celebrated with my family at Edwardes Lake in Reservoir.

It’s great to be around my Family to celebrate this great gift of Life.

From my photos from last year I can see how much the kids have grown, the relationships have strengthened and that both our Grandmothers have gone to Rest πŸ™

Thank you Jesus for everything we have.

With love,

Belinda xo

Baby #3 Is On The Way!

Baby #3 Is On The Way!

Hi everyone,

Exciting news!

We are expecting another addition to the family due to arrive in Sept 2019 πŸ™‚

This is a special blessing because I wrote about trying to have kids and having to educate ourselves on how best to fall pregnant.

We fell pregnant on our 2nd month of trying! We’re so happy πŸ™‚

Btw, revisit our announcement of baby #2 – our son Kyneton – HERE.

Our family of 4 turns to 5 and we are so happy!

Now it’s still early days as we completed the 12 week ultrasound earlier this month.

I’m fortunate to have my caseload nurse from my last pregnancy – Allie – manage me again! YAY!

Right now I’m feeling pretty happy and healthy.

I’ve had a little bit of morning sickness but I have been very hungry and craving meaty meals.

I also prefer to have other people cook for me or eat out.

I love visiting my parents and having my Mum cook and look after me. It’s such a great feeling being able to be pampered even if it’s just a nice home cooked meal and a nice foot and stomach massage from my Mum.

Whatever Leki cooks at home I don’t want to eat πŸ™ Poor Leki.

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Getting the new team member in September!

I’ve recently brought my pregnancy clothes back from storage and it’s a nice feeling to be comfortable with my fitted dresses and clothes.

My plan is to provide you with a monthly update on how my 3rd pregnancy is going.

Plus, with my last two pregnancies I documented my efforts to lose weight.

In the future I will share with you my efforts to lose the baby weight but this time I’ll have more experience and focus more on staying happy and optimistic.

Appreciate your support,

Belinda xo

Eme’s 4th Birthday

Eme’s 4th Birthday

Hi all,

Our little girl has just turned 4 years old and we celebrated it with a good old backyard party.

It was themed as the popular PJ Mask and my sisters pitched in and hired an entertainer to come dressed as Eme’s favourite cartoon character – Owlette!

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You should have seen the wide smile and big eyes on her face as Owlette popped out from the corner.

I’ll never forget that for the rest of my life.

This made me think about the innocence of youth.

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Our daughter Emelina is newly 4 years old and believes everything you tell her.

She believes in Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny and all the other make believe things we grew up adoring.

There will be a time when she realises how the world actually works.

She might be at school and one of her friends will tell her that Santa’s not real.

Or may be an older cousin will find out the truth and share the news with her.

Maybe she busts Mum and Dad slipping the presents under the Christmas treeΒ not Santa and Rudolph.

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Or Mum and Dad might accidentally slip that the tooth fairy is not real.

When that day comes I know that little spark in my little girl’s eyes will change… forever.

I guess that’s why I was so moved when she reacted the way she did when she saw the ‘real’ Owlette at her party.

She was absolutely convinced it was Owlette from TV and Emelina hardly let her out of her reach as the entertainer was playing games and organising the kids.

I highly recommend the entertainers and you can find them at Magical Princess Entertainment.

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She did a great job and will look to have them host a Party again in the future!

So a little about the actual party….

We had a backdrop which I built and it took me an hour and a bit to piece together with a balloon garlandΒ  πŸ™‚

I ordered the backdrop off UBACKDROP which arrived within 1 week from when the order was made.

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Thanks Vikki they look awesome!

Having a large family we had plenty of hands on deck to help with preparing the food and drinks.

Special shout out to my Mum for all her hard work and great help (couldn’t do it without you!), my Aunty for always supplying seafood and her special Island drink Otai, my sisters Kathy and Taina for their help and Vikki for putting the cake and cupcakes together within hours πŸ˜‰

These events do not go to plan unless I have my supporters to assist. THANK YOU!

Believe it or not I have already thought about Eme’s 5th and 6th birthday party themes.

I guess I have more fun then her planning her birthdays then she does actually celebrating it πŸ™‚

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Emelina please enjoy your childhood before the you join the rest of us in the real world!

In the real world where you can be disappointed.

In the real world the curiosity and wonder diminishes with each day πŸ™

Stay where you are where there is magic and wonder my beautiful little girl.

Happy birthday Eme.

Don’t ever grow up.

Love,

Mum, Dad and your brother Kyneton.

Kid Free Zone

Kid Free Zone

Hi guys,

We celebrated my husband’s birthday recently which also happen to land on Valentine’s Day πŸ™‚

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Over a month earlier we had organised a night away from the kids.

This was a mini holiday where we left our 3yo and 1yo with my parents for the night and they played with Aunty, Uncle and their cousins.

So what did hubby and I do?

We went to see the soulful songstress Lauryn Hill featuring hiphop artist Nas.

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Wandered around the city and Crown.

Shopped at DFO South Wharf.

Shopped again at Highpoint.

It took us back to our teenage/high school years.

Out late on a school night (Wed night) and no responsibilities (for a short while).

WeΒ felt like teenagers again πŸ˜‰

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It was our first time to Sidney Myer Music Bowl and it was a great venue!

Outdoor, grassy hill and seated area closer to the action.

Not used to being out late we actually left early from the concert at 10:30pm because we both were getting tired.

Then on Valentine’s Day we found a spot in the City Laneways that serves Bulletproof coffee and keto friendly food.

Had breakfast there with Leki’s Mum.

I then had the chance to check in with the kids and see how they were holding up at Nana and Poppy’s house.

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I was happy to hear that they were behaving and having a great time. They didn’t even miss Mama and Daddy πŸ™‚

After breakfast weΒ made our way to DFO South Wharf for a bit of shopping then on dropped into Highpoint Shopping Centre.

Date night was a success and we thoroughly enjoyed ourselves but it’s funny when you’re looking forward to have a break from the kids and then you end up talking about them!

Strange isn’t it…

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Looking forward to the next date night.

We a little something planned in May which we’ll talk about later πŸ˜‰

THANK YOU to my parents, my sisters and nieces and nephews who looked after my 2 little munchkins while I was out reliving my youth!

I hope you have nice date nights to recharge the batteries and to keep the flame burning bright.

Happy Lovers Day for Thursday!

With love,

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Belinda xo

Kyneton Turns 1!

Kyneton Turns 1!

Hi all,

My son just turned ONE YEAR OLDΒ on 3 Jan 2019.

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My little birthday boy

If you missed it – I documented my real birthing process minute by minute in an earlier post – HERE.

WARNING – YOU WILL SEE SOME BLOOD OF A REAL MUM HAVING A BABY πŸ™‚

Unbelievable how quickly time has gone.

So today I thought it’d be helpful to talk to you about how we organise little gatherings and a lot of it comes down to early planning and asking for help with the preparations.

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Never mind his presents – happy with his balloon LOL

Here are my Top 3 recommendations:

  1. Plan Early
  2. Ask For Help
  3. Make Sure Your Guests Have Fun!

Plan Early

My husband Leki and I started planning for Ky’s 1st birthday around August last year.

The main thing we talked about was when and where.

We decided to push his birthday party to later in the month as 3 January most people are away on holidays.

The next thing that drove our decision wasΒ whereΒ we would have the party.

That came down to cost and convenience.

We had thought about a Water Park, local gardens/park, the backyard, at a play centre, at my parents house, in a Hall but either it was too expensive or dates were unavailable.

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Making memories

Then we thought about Eastern Beach in Geelong.

It was perfect!

45 mins drive from Melbourne, kiddies pool, diving boards for older kids (adults) πŸ™‚ and plenty of green grass for the family to enjoy!

BEST OF ALL IT’S COMPLETELY FREE!!!

The only thing that we can’t depend on is the weather.

Now on the day we were blessed to have great sunshine and a cool breeze in the shade. So happy! πŸ™‚

But… we were so afraid it would be overcast with rain which was what was forecast for the whole week leading into the birthday weekend. Lucky for us it turned on just in time πŸ˜‰

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Daddy & Son time

So now that we had a location we decided to plan for the Australia Day weekend but when Leki rang the council to enquire whether we could put up a 6m x 3m marquee they said a BIG cycle race was on the long weekend. “The Cadel Evans Great Race”Β would essentially shut down the whole city of Geelong. Lucky he rang!

So we pushed it forward a week and decided on 19 January 2018.

We made that decision in Sept 2018!

So from Sept to Dec 2018 we started buying little things to help make it easier for the day. Leki bought a big esky from Costco, a large marquee from Bunnings and I organised the little banner and decorations early so I didn’t have to stress closer to the big day!


Ask For Help

Nothing great can be achieved by yourself.

Ask for help!

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My little Family of 4

We are fortunate to have a wonderful family surrounding us that can help in any way they can. Offering help with food preparations, donating their time to help, organising the kids to get there even though parents have to work, contacting me to see if there’s anything that needs doing and lending a hand to shop for things especially juggling a few kids πŸ˜‰

Believe me it’s a ‘good’ stress when you are running an event but when you have some help it makes it enjoyable as well!

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Thanks to everyone who came and helped make the Day successful!

It feels so humbling when you have Family that are so helpful and it’s coming from a place of genuine love.

THANK YOU EVERYONE πŸ™‚


Make Sure Your Guests Have Fun!

Everytime Leki and I host an event we try and spend time with everyone to make them feel welcome and special because we realise everyone could spend their time doing something else.

But, they chose to give up their beautiful Saturday to spend it with us celebrating Kyneton’s 1st birthday.

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A little hack we like to think about is if we were being invited to a party what would we like to do or have done for us?

Being in the open we thought it was important to have shelter, comfortable chairs and space for everyone to relax.

We also wanted plenty of food so people could enjoy themselves and then take some things home to eat later in the day or the next day.

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Kiddie Pool

Another thing was looking after the kids and making sure they had fun. We planned little games to play and wanted to make sure they had plenty of swimming time, play time and adventure in the sun πŸ™‚

For the older members of the Family we wanted to make sure there was plenty of shade and comfort for them out of the sun.

All in all I can say the day was a success and a large part of it was due to the great weather and planning the day out as best we can!


 

In closing this is a sad post for me because although we had a lot of fun my little side kick is growing up.

We’ve enrolled him into our local Montessori School with Eme which is only an hour per week just to get the hang of things and to introduce some Montessori ideas (we started Eme at Montessori at 18 months).

Aside from that we are looking forward to my hubby’s birthday in February then Emelina’s 4th birthday in March.

Time flies when you’re having fun πŸ™‚

With love,

 

Belinda xo

My Core Beliefs

My Core Beliefs

Hi guys,

A little controversial post today.

I started this blog without really telling you my beliefs and core values.

Why is that important?

It will give you an idea on how I think and where I stand on issues.

Here we go!


Couple first, Kids second

In order to run a happy household we believe that the Mum and Dad should come first before children.

It sounds harsh but the reason is that if Mum and Dad are on different pages then how can the kids thrive?

The husband and wife connection is most important.

Kids are not silly – they can read Mum and Dad and can play us against each other πŸ™‚ Our little 3yo Emelina is already trying this tactic on us!

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Eme growing too fast πŸ™

So if Mum and Dad are effectively communicating and are aligned on their thinking and core values then their message will be consistent when we get tested by the kids.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics (2017 stats) the highest chance of divorce is around the 12 year mark and when couples approach the mid-40s to early-50s.

So thinking about that a little more closely – let’s assume a couple got married in the mid-20s and started having kids straight away. By the time you’re in your mid-40s:

  • Kids are more independent and in their late teens/early 20s
  • Kids may leave the home/empty nest syndrome
  • Stress of money as kids are at peak expense (phones, clothes, car, bills!!)
  • Work, work, work and less time

After 20 years of hard work and slogging away and then POOF! The kids disappear and it’s just you and your hubby again.

The only problem is that in 20 years the communication between you as a couple may have stopped or dropped off dramatically.

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2016 at National Gallery of Victoria

Maybe priorities have changed and too much focus was placed on the kids rather then your primary relationship as husband and wife.

You may start to think about what else is out there.

You might start to think about what you missed out on.

You then begin to feel like trying some new.

Then all of a sudden divorce can become a real conversation.

This is not something I’ve made up.

The Australian Government statistics show a 5% increase in the rate of divorce from 2016 to 2017 (although the trend of divorce is reducing compared to 15 year ago in 2001).

Our personal view is that the couple’s relationship for the family is like a house.

The foundation is the husband and wife.

The kids sit on top of us as the house.

The strongerΒ the foundation then the more support and sturdy the house will be πŸ™‚


Discipline and Routine

I write at length about this very topic.

Our belief in discipline and routine shows in all aspects of our lives.

 

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Eme and Nana at Church

Review the blog posts below for more details on how we go about it as a Family.

Disciplining our kids.

Shaping their curiosity and learning with the Montessori Method.

Faith and reflection by going to Church.

Morning and night routine.

Health and exercise.

Food choices and preparing nutritious meals.

Time management and making time for important things and people.

For us it’s not about reading and thinking about these topics. It’s about action and living it πŸ™‚

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Eme having down time with Grandma Taina (RIP) Miss you!

Traditional and Conservative

This is the hardest point for me to share with you.

Why?

I almost feel like we are the silent majority.

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My little family Feb 2018 for Leki’s 33rd birthday

Father works for the Family and Mother nurtures the Family.

I’m a proud Stay at Home Mum.

I wrote earlier about this being one of the main priorities even in the early days of our relationship as a couple – before we got married.

The world today is much different to that of our grandparents.

Technology allows easier consumption of content and connection.

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Pool time in Phuket 2018

New ideas are embraced.

Great improvement in lifestyle with travel overseas much easier and affordable.

Opportunities for a better life. (Both Leki and I come from migrant parents)

All of these positive improvements in our lives come at a cost.

We almost live in a 24 hour economy.

“Customer service to be available on demand”.

“Longer trading hours at the shopping centre”.

“Now open longer”.

“On call whenever you need”.

Yes, you have more opportunities to earn more money.

At what cost?

I don’t begrudge you if your circumstances are different from mine and you are a working Mum.

All the more power to you.

I’m a supporter of your right to do what’s best for you and your Family.

All that I ask is that you give the same support back to me in our decision to do what’s best for my Family.

Right now it’s to be a Stay At Home Mum.

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Off to Sydney for the weekend!

Once all the kids are a touch older and independent I may decide to go back to some part time work or volunteer position.

But our priority is setting up a Healthy & Happy Home πŸ™‚


This post is not intended to come across to you as judgemental.

I believe in putting my intentions out to the Universe so that I have solid footing to stand on.

I’ll promise to keep an open and respectful mind while I do what’s best my little Family.

Love always,

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Xmas 2017 – 2 weeks before little Ky arrived!

Belinda xo

100th blog post :)

100th blog post :)

Hi guys,

Wow! Today marks my 100th blog post.

On the top right of my blog you can see when I started – 7 May 2017.

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This was our celebration lunch after posting my first blog in May 2017 πŸ™‚

Over 19 months of consistent work and reflection πŸ™‚

I made the goal of making a weekly blog post and getting to 100 posts before I review how it’s been going.

I think I missed maybe 2 or 3 weeks due to having a baby (Jan 2018) and being overseas for my Grandma Taina’s funeral (Sept 2018).

It’s gone so quickly and my confidence is growing slowly over time although I still get butterflies when I post something new to you guys πŸ˜‰

So what Leki and I thought would be cool would be to share how we organise these weekly posts.

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Moved from Kyneton to Gisborne – another family milestone

Here’s how we do it:

  1. DIY website
  2. Organising our time to plan the content
  3. Tidying things up

Make your own website

First step is either buy your own domain or start blogging on a shared platform like www.blogger.com!

What’s a domain? It’s the www.yourname.com.au in the address bar of your web browser.

I thought MyWifeLife was cool and after I searched for whether it was available – to my surprise it was πŸ™‚

I used GoDaddy.com for my web hosting and domain registration.

The second thing I did was sign up with WordPress.com and started playing around with my website design and layout.

Now I understand it’s pretty basic at the moment.

I’ll be working on making it a bit more ‘beautiful’ in 2019 but I wanted to get the regular weekly posting under control first before I worry about the fancy stuff πŸ˜‰

And that’s it.

Think of a domain name, register it, buy and design your website and publish interesting information so people can relate to you.


Planning & Blogging

This is very much a team effort.

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My little girl is growing so fast πŸ™‚

Leki and I work on this project together and we really enjoy it!

Why?

Because we talk about what we’d like to share and it keeps us close when we have deadlines to meet.

The constant planning and communication is something that helps us in our relationship as a couple, improving on things individually, gives us a direction on how we want to parent our kids and allows reflection on how we can be there for our friends and family.

Let me give you some examples.

On the individual level I’m not very good at spelling. I’ve written before that I don’t even know how I passed high school and got my VCE certificate. That’s not a joke I should have failed English and Maths… easily.

So when Leki told me I should start a blog and that it’ll help you with your confidence I didn’t believe him. I was too worried about my own insecurities to see how it can be a valuable teacher.

For the first 6 months I struggled to post up a selfie on my blog site (although I do selfies all the time).

I’ve now grown to a place where I can start to make short video messages (vlogs) which 19 months ago would have NOT BEEN A REALITY… believe me!

In terms of documenting our lives it’s been such a great tool to reflect on how my kids are growing among other things.

Do you remember when your child started crawling and then began hauling himself up but isn’t quite walking? I forgot to document that stage of child development with my 3yo Emelina and now my 11mo Kyneton is not far from being up and walking and so I can share his milestones with you but more importantly keep it as a record on my blog forever!

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A bit of exercise climbing Hanging Rock

I have visions of keeping this blog for the next 21+ years so I can bring up these old stories on their birthdays πŸ™‚

At the couple level – it gives us an incentive to stay connected. Leki writes the blog and I read and review it. I then add my own phrases and give feedback before adding some photos and shooting my little video message to partner this blog post πŸ™‚


2019-onward

So right now Leki and I spend about 2 hours a week on this project.

Leki spends an hour writing it.

I spend an hour reading, uploading photos and shooting/editing the video.

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Welcome to the family baby Kyneton

That’s it.

We then put it up and see how it goes πŸ˜‰

I really hope you continue to enjoy witnessing our little project and I’m excited for what’s to come in 2019 and beyond!

As a last comment I do strongly recommend you try and start your own blog because the benefits from it outweighs the negatives.

I thought I should keep my details private. Nope, you know what suburb I live in and what my family gets up to.

I thought I could get by having a blog without having to do selfies or shoot videos with my wrinkly face πŸ˜‰ Nope, you’ve seen me up close and personal.

I thought I’d never have the confidence to spell, write and speak to people that aren’t friends or family without exposing my failure of being a poor student. Nope, I did it anyway.

You can share things that help you and others which is very rewarding… just with a little effort and steady consistency.

I love you all.

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Looking forward to what’s ahead in 2019!

With love,

Belinda xo